Good Bye to Nursing for me... - page 17

Well, the start of a new year and I'm kissing nursing good bye after only 5 short months. I graduated in may and started at a hospital in august. My very first preceptor was a nightmare, on my... Read More

  1. by   fuzzie
  2. by   JaxiaKiley
    Is it possible to be more autonomous and be a nurse?
  3. by   twotrees2
    Quote from kmande
    It is tough out there I must admit and I don't doubt that those things aren't happening, but there are so many opportunities I can't believe that you would waist all the work you did to get your degree and license. If people are treating you bad then you need to let everyone know about it and if the hospital doesn't support you then move on, but don't quit until you have really tried everything. If you are a quitter, then you are not cut out to be a nurse!

    i dont now the OP demographics however if the OP is in a small rural area there maybe no other option but to quit- i am in a small rural area and the field is getting even meaner ( our current employer just made it so in order for the "full timers" - usuallu 64 - 80 hours - to have insurance they MUST work 80 hours- many who need it and can only work the 64 or 72 a payperiod ) ( they also made another nurse who went nights full time - an lpn - due to divorce and kids etc - hired a rn for nights and have told the lpn she has to work another shift - which she cant with her daycare - or she wont get her hours - no mond she has bent over backwards for a yr for these folks when they were short leaving her alone many times with not even enough aides!!)

    anyhow- my point is - seems from nurses i know our small areas are nastier then anything and it isnt always a matter of just go somewhere else- many times thee is noweher else. i see so many good nurses and new grad nurses that could be good get run off lately it makes me sick. for many its not an option to just up and go elswhere - doesnt mean they arent cut out to be a nurse - just my opinion
  4. by   RN BSN 2009
    That's awful, they know you dont have much of another choice.
  5. by   twotrees2
    Quote from pmbrn22
    Wow, I do understand how you feel. 8 years ago, as a new nurse, I had two awful preceptors, one right after the other...and then the hospital nursing turned me off. Not 5 seconds did I have with my patients. One day, a dying patient asked me not to leave him, he was afraid. And I remember that I had SO much work to do, but I couldn't leave him. I was all done after that. Maybe it just wasn't for me. I have done allot of different jobs over the years, but now I am giving nursing a break. I had a great job for the last 5 years, but then we had to move to Hawaii (military) and I will never find a job like that one again.
    I miss it, and at the same time, I don't miss the stress of it either.
    i think you proved your self as a nurse and that you belong just by being able to NOT leave a scared dying man - pat on the back for you - you are a great nurse.
  6. by   twotrees2
    Quote from Gromit
    Overworked, burning out, and all the while the 'powers that be' are heaping more duties and responsibilities onto the pile that already exists. There is NO prospect for relief in sight (good enough for you?). Your beginning school next fall. Thats cool. But comment on your observations once you're doing the work -should be interesting to see how your perspective relates then compared to now. .
    i wonder too how those who do no teven work in th eprofession yet nor have gone through the hell new grads or even older nurses orienting new jobs go through, can even comment -

    a friend who is leaving the profession due to management jack@#$$$ said it well - a pig is still a pig no matter how you dress it ( hahah id have lOVED to see the face of the boss when she said it )
  7. by   fuzzie
    Quote from twotrees2
    i wonder too how those who do no teven work in th eprofession yet nor have gone through the hell new grads or even older nurses orienting new jobs go through, can even comment -'s a public forum. Anyone is welcome to respond to posts.

    I'll get the experience soon a future student, you bet I'm going to respond and seek answers and further clarifications.

    Sorry you seem to have a problem with that.
  8. by   chaoticnme
    Poor girl....Man there are alot of responses to your post. I have been in the business for 14 years...Let me tell you...I have experienced everything you are saying about co workers.. The "clicks", the snobs, the backstabbers, everything. I have also experienced co workers who are real friends, nice, help you out and have your back so to speak. I surely hope you wont totally give up on nursing. We have a tough job, no doubt about it. You just need to find where you will be the most happy at. Sometimes it takes many jobs to find that. The beauty of nursing is that there are so many different jobs out there, that you have that choice. There is such a nursing shortage there is no way on earth you should have to stay and put up with abuse. I work in a CCU now. There are good days and bad have that with any job. Get through your pregnancy, if you need that long of a break, take it. You will always be able to find a job later you will enjoy. You can go give out Flu shots, isnt the greatest money...its like 12-13/hr dollars in florida...That's a job at least for flu season. Doctor's offices I hear are nice. I have a friend who works for a plastic surgeon and if you at least have worked for him a year, he offers a free plastic surgery. You cant beat that...You just have to look....try things out...Do a little home health....Maybe get into a home health Peds place like we have here in Florida where you do private duty cases with kids...Its all about what will make you happy. Dont let those mean women you worked with scare a good person like you out of this profession!!!!
  9. by   glb1960
    Just another thought to add to this saddening thread. I learned early that many of the nurses I admired had some similar traits, which I try to emulate. I describe them as having very thick skin and very tender hearts. The thick skin serves well with management, crabby doctors and poor co-workers while the tender hearts are reserved for the sick, hurt, scared and needy patients. I might suggest you try some of these qualities on for size to help you handle your stresses in your life, nursing or otherwise.

    Good luck, Gary
  10. by   Miss Ivy
    I agree with what others have said. You got off to a really rough start. Give yourself a break but keep your license. You may very well want to get back into it again. And not all places are like what you experienced. Maybe, instead of being in a hospital, try a different area of nursing. You might find your niche yet.

    Good luck to you and enjoy that baby. Times goes by really fast.
  11. by   NicoleRN07
    I'm Sorry That You Had Such A Bad Experience In Your First Few Months Of Nursing. It Is A Stressful Job, And Having Bad Preceptors Don't Make Things Any Better. My Advice To You Is To Keep Your License Current And Give It Another Try When You're Ready! It Really Is A Very Rewarding Career, And I Hope That You Decide To Try Again Someday! There Are Wonderful Preceptors Out There!! Good Luck And Congrats On Your Pregnancy.
  12. by   lovejana22
    i hate to hear this, i know two nurses that are quiting one after two years and one after only a few months. i am in nursing school and when i hear these stories it terrifies me! i read in a dear abby column about back stabbing nurses. now i will be the first to admit you have crap where ever you go, sometimes you have to just deal. one of the reasons i started school (i have always wanted to be a nurse) was if i was going to take any sh*& i was going to do it with more pay......:chuckle and with something i always wanted to do!! good luck with your baby
  13. by   Jo Dirt
    Quote from 2008rn2be
    Just a suggestion, but rather than throw away all of the hard work you went through becoming a nurse, why not look for a nursing position in a Doctor's Office of some sort. You might not make as much money as you would make in a hospital setting, at least you could still make use of your degree. You didn't make it through nursing school for nothing!

    Whatever you choose to do, Good luck!
    First of all, I've seen several posts telling stressed out nurses to go into an area like home care...WHAT????? I just left a nightmare of a home health job! They thought they could start taking in 10 admissions a day, keep up their existing clientelle (sp?) and do this all with one RN (me). Then when the state comes in and throws the book at them they try to hang you out to dry. But the really funny part is when the state inspectors actually sided with me and the LPN who had been trying to hang on, and the state hung them out to dry for being severely understaffed! I've left and things are no better. There were rumors they were hiring three RNs to do what I was expected to do by myself but when I talked to one of the office workers the help has since backed out of the deal and they are back to square one. Just one of the reasons I'm no longer at that job.

    And it seems like people suggest to just "go get" a job at a doctor's office or other low stress place. I know there is a nursing shortage, but if the jobs aren't available you can't just take them. Jobs that always seem to be available are usually always available for a reason.