Doctor Visit Gone bad or Good??

[MaleRNstudent21]

I lately went to the doctor and as of my visit the doctor was a bit too assertive in giving me his opinion on my life. I know with any illness a doctor should ask general questions to form an assesment on the patient. But, he was truely in a opinion state frame when greeting me. The 1st thing he asked was why do I have earrings in my ears. Since, I'm a a male I guess he thought it wasn't of character. Then lately he went into what is my sexuality? What age was my 1st sexual encounter. Do I know of god? And do I have a relationship with god ect. Also he stayed that I was unhealthy just because I'm 5'7 and 138lbs as a male. Stating that I more than likely was eating too much sugars and needed more vegies,ect. I just found the experience sort of BS. I have always been thin and my father has always been a lil guy. I mean I felt it had nothing to do with my situation for me visiting his clinic. I found it to be very disturbing that he told me to take out my earrings after I was the one who payed a co-pay for his service. I feel that yes it is a personal experience with a patient at times but it is a certain way to conduct a profession. I'm not anti-christ but if I needed to be preached to and convicted of my sins I would of went to church instead of a doctors clinic. I think alot of times because of my youthful appearance many elders feel the right to give me their opinions of trying to construct my life. But truely I'am a adult and I feel that I should be spoken to as an adult. After this experience I was dumbfounded and speechless by the experience. After I left his office he asked for me to repeat a prayer after him in front of the receptionist. I know its such a word of concern but sometimes concern only goes so far when you are a strange phyisican. I hope that I won't turn out to be a nurse who communicates with my patients of this nature. Do you feel this was a bad encouter? And would you return to a Doctor for another visit due to the sort of concern but rude gestures? Please, tell me your opinion and how would you had handled the situation and should I go back to him for a re-visit?

[Marie_LPN, RN, LPN, RN]

Wow. I'd repoort him to the board.

[nurseangel47]

This was truly unprofessional, yes, even ignorant, behavior as others here have posted. I, too, would be in the business of doctor shopping as soon as I needed to after the busy-ness of the holiday season is over.

How dare he inflict his own personal views of jewlery wear, your body proportions and assumptions that he made in other aspects of your appearance and even personal religious convictions!

I would not pay the bill, either. I agree 100 percent with all of the above posts in reply to your original questions.

Merry Christmas and don't give that "doc" another thought. He is out of line in his treatment/assumptions/behaviors towards you.

[Ruby Vee, BSN]

the earring thing was bad enough -- the prayer thing was totally inappropriate!

as far as paying the doctor -- sounds like you already did. if you went in for something specific such as a prescription for antibiotics or whatever and you got that, it's appropriate that the doctor be paid. but i certainly would not return, and i write the guy a letter detailing exactly why. i probably wouldn't report him to the board -- i hate to cause problems for people. if i did decide to report him, i'd make sure that he knew why i was upset first -- i wouldn't want the first notice he got that there was a problem to be when the medical board contacted him about a complaint.

i've fired a few doctors over the years; one because either he or his partner (they were identical twins) put his arm around me and looked down my shirt. i had asked for directions out of the maze that was their office space, and instead of just saying "end of the hall, turn left then right", he put his arm around me and escorted me out of the office, looking down my shirt the whole time. i was too shocked to say anything right then and there, but when i got home wrote him a letter telling him exactly why i wouldn't be returning as a patient.