Deathbed visions - page 6

Have you taken care of any patients who've had any? The first time I had a patient who was apparently having one was a lady who kept looking straight ahead at the wall & having conversations with... Read More

  1. by   morte
    Quote from Love Coronado
    My daughter is advanced for her age, but I don't think her mind can carry her 100 miles away.
    not a learned behavior.....under the age of 5 it is alledged to be much more common....if this was very recent, ie she is still under that age, ask her....
  2. by   Nursingangel
    I have had a lot of experances like these in my personal life. Probly the most amazing was when my Grandfather was admitted about 2 weeks before his death I was staying with him. He would get Sundowners when admitted and would get very upset unless one of us was with him. He was in a state of just praying and crying out to Jesus over and over again. and suddelly he went complete still and quite. This got my attention and I looked over at him. At the same time I felt my Grandmother's presents. I looked at my grandfather and his eyes were clear as a bell and he was very attentivly looking at someone. The I heard him say, "But Why Oma?" ,my grandmothers name. HE sat a listened and then said, "OK I'll be waiting" By now I was in tears and had goose bumps all over me, and I new it would not be long. From that point on that night he no longer called to Jesus but said over and over "I'll be waiting." He did improve and My mother asked him about that night and he looked at her with a beautiful smile on his face and said, "Yes, Oma came to me and told me that It was not time yet to go but that she would be back soon for me." Two days later he died.

    Also, Not to long after that I was sitting in Church next to a woman that was like a grandparent to me and I suddenly saw her casket sitting at the front of the church. I could not see her in it because it was closed but I knew it was her. I begain to cry and reached over and took her hand. That afternoon she told me that she new that she would be going home soon because her husband had come to her in a dream. Less that two weeks later I was told that she was gone.

    I have also heard storys of people that screamed and writhed at they died that there feet were burning and that their bodies where on fire.

    I also had a near death experance about ten years ago. I went into respitory arrest and saw a blinding light off in the distance. It was just a pin head in size but was the brightest light I have ever scene. It was so peacefull and I was not scared. I could see shapes in the light of people waiting on me.

    My best friend died of Lukemia at age 16. Not long after she was dx she called me and was telling about the list that Make a Wish had her write about what she wanted to do before she died. She had put the normal things that 14 yr old grils think of, Drive, date, kiss, go to the prom, get married and of course have a child. At that she told me, " I am never going to be able to have babies of my own, You will have to have them for me and I will be there Godly Mother, their angel!" Of course at the time I brushed it off and told her that if it came down to it I would but that she was going to live and have her on babies. I then forgot about it until that Thurs that I heard the news that she was gone. The thing about it was I was 16 weeks pregnet with my now 14 year old son. I have no dought that she is my sons angel and have seen her in his eyes as a baby and in the times that he has come close to danger but Miraculously came out unharmed.

    I Beleive strongly in angel's and that when we die that our love ones that go on before come back for us.
  3. by   lupin
    When I worked in NH care I saw a lot of people talking to others who were not there when they were "actively dying". Sometimes it was spouses who had gone before, other times it was parents or even people still alive but not in the room with them. Saw it more at night than in the daytime. One man who was in an Alzheimer's unit had a wife still living at their home. She died unexpectedly one afternoon and was found a few hours later by her daughter. The family decided to tell the husband after the funeral, since they were not sure if he would even remember her (he was very late stage). The night she died though, he kept crying out for her and saying he sensed death. The night nurse ended up giving him a prn risperdal to help calm him, and he wasn't a usual pt who needed risperdal.
    My own grandmother was coherent up to the minute she died but she would wake up in the night calling out for her grandfather Pa, who had died in the seventies. She told my mom a few times she thought he was talking to her while she was asleep. They had been very close when she was younger.
    SOmetimes I dream about her, especially around big family events. The night I had my pinning ceremony for nursing school, I dreamed she came and told me she was proud.
    I would like to think we are escorted by family to the hereafter. It's a very comforting thought.
  4. by   Happy2Beme
    Having been in nursing since 1979, I've seen a few encounters, not all positive of course, because not everyone goes somewhere nice when they leave here, but everyone goes somewhere. and could go somewhere nice if they chose to.

    But the best one I've seen happened a few years ago when I was actually a "visitor" of the patient , not his nurse.

    Our Pastor, the man's daughter, and myself were sitting with this gentleman who was losing a battle with flu and pnuemonia due to old age (96).
    He was lucid and wished a DNR death if the Lord did not intervene for him to stay in this world.

    While we were all sitting talking quietly and he was dozing, he awoke and looked up, reached over and started to fiddle with the buttons on the bed and started to try to raise the bed.

    His daughter asked him what he was doing and he said, "trying to get up there to Jesus, don't you see him?", looking up.
    She is said "no, Daddy I don't see Him," and the man laid back comfortably and said, "well it's ok, He's not quite ready for me yet."

    He spoke to us at intervals for the next 10-15 minutes, not much, just a word or two, answering questions like "are you comfortable, do you want anything," such as that, with one or two word lucid answers.

    Then all of a sudden, he looked up, smiled, raised his arms up, closed his and stopped breathing, as his arms dropped back down.

    I probably would have a hard time believing this if I had not seen it.
  5. by   oncalllorraine
    in hospice it is not unusual to have patients 'see' and talk with people- unseen by the caregivers. i have noticed that it is often been a 'mother'--as in one OLD lady who was calling out for her mother several nights in a row, when, on her last nite,husband heard her clearly state-'oh, there you are!', and she died. often too, they are talking to people who pre-deceased them,and seem to find comfort in their transition. this is reassuring to those present,and has made believers out of skeptics. i am always in awe at the dying process-and how uniquely 'supernatural' it can be. such a privilege!
  6. by   CHATSDALE
    lov coronado maybe he was seeing a child from a previous generation who had a family resemblance
    and, faeriewand, a black buterfly is suppose to be a soul who going to be in a lot of trouble.

    i am not going to sleep after reading all these
  7. by   Songbird2004
    I am new here and this is my first post. As a nurse-chaplain in hospice I have been present as many of my patients make their transitions from this life to the next. Many have visions.Most are sacred and comforting. One lady was waiting for a breathing treatment. She said "I can't now- Jim's here to get me". And she died. Jim was her husband who had passed on 5 years before.
    Another time I had a 101 year old lady- very with it, a devout Christian- having visions of dark figures at the end of her bed. They were terrifying her at night. Many nights. I prayed for her protection and that in the name of Jesus they had no purpose with her and they must go. I believe that if there are good angels there must be bad. If there is good there is evil. The good was victorious and this lady never saw the vision again and died peacefully.

    These are two of the most memorable. It is a privliege to be present at these times.
    Last edit by Songbird2004 on Jan 19, '07
  8. by   CiCigirl
    My grandmother was 94 years old when she died several years ago. And just before she did she used to talk softly to her sister who'd passed on several years before at the age of 96.

    Also, I used to work for a lab as a phleb and I drew blood in nursing homes. Lots of MDs would order blood work on DNR patients who were clearly on their way out at any hour with really low BPs and I drew several of them. Some of them spoke to people "in their sleep" while I drew them.

    And of the ones who were awake and alert, some of them would even tell me that a certain relative had visited them earlier that day or the day before and then when I happened to mention it to the LVN or family in passing they would say that the patient was hallucinating b/c the relative had been dead for years....

    Very interesting subject!
  9. by   nursesaushakat
    While working in a nursing home I cared for a 92 y/o woman who was a DNR. She was very sweet and always spoke kindly to us even when she had to wait on us to answer her call light on busy days. She began losing weight and was getting weak, her family had been in to say their goodbyes. Soon she was unable to take her pain pills and was getting liquid morphine. I was at her bedside the day she died, her breathing was labored and she was looking up at the ceiling whispering. I asked her "what do you see?" She smiled at me, held my hand and said, "you are so good" then she looked back up at the ceiling and said "you are so wonderful" Her respirations decreased and became more shallow and with that she was gone. I will never forget the look in her eyes, she wasn't just looking at the ceiling, she saw something, her eyes did not lie.
  10. by   ckinstle
    I work in an opposite environment - in labor and delivery - and so I don't see/experience this in that setting. But, my family is what some called "gifted" and so seeing angels, spirits, guides, etc. is an idea that we're used to

    When it is our time (or nearing) we are greeted by those who have passed before us, and so it isn't uncommon at all for people to see, talk and feel comforted by those on the other-side. The glassy look decribed - is them seeing beyond the veil of what we see with our physical eyes. Some people who are very sensitive, can communicate in this way on a regular basis. My 8 y.o. daughter is like this (as I also was as a child) and so those closest to death, and those who are newly-born (children) are usually very likely to have these clairvoyant abilities.

    I think anyone who has the opportunity to have this "glimpse" and reassurance, is blessed.
  11. by   HeavensNurse
    I just wanted to touch base with you about "death bed visions". I have been a hospice nurse for almost 20 years, and worked an inpatient hospice house for almost 1/2 that time, mostly on the night shift. There are no words to express what I have seen and experienced in that time. Please do not ever doubt what your patient's are going through. I have had some very unexplainable things happen where other nurses have thought they "bumped" into someone in a dying patient's room, when there was no one else there, a clinically brain dead (yes proven by tests) patient has not only climbed out of bed, but spoken to his "mother" and brushed her hair with his hand. All of this witnessed at a distance, and verified with another nurse (two different nurses in two very different circumstances). I could go on and on. Take it for what it is. Unexplainable, yet we are blessed to be able to experience it with them. Do not EVER tell these patient's or families that they are hallucinating, or that it is a chemical imbalance, or "medications". The patient who was clinically brain dead had zero meds in his body for 3 weeks. Someday, perhaps we all will go through this, and let's hope that the persons caring for us will understand and not judge us. It has nothing to do with religion, and everying to do with humanity, and the circle of life. I tell my patients and their families that just like we are waiting here for the babies that are about to be born into this world, others are waiting "on the other side" for our loved ones to cross over. God bless each and everyone of you for taking care of the people you do. If you ever lose your compassion do everyone a favor and get out of caregiving. Take care, HeavensNurse...
  12. by   tamsinstead
    My Thai husband passed a year ago. He had cancer of the liver. I had him brought home from the hospital ICU as neither of us wanted him to pass in an clinical environment. We both wanted him to be amongst his dogs and birds with the lovely trees outside our beautiful house here in Thailand.

    He was home just three days before he passed. On the second day I caught him in conversation, in Thai, laughing and chatting, with pauses for responses, with someone unseen. I asked him who he was speaking with. He looked at me a little surprised, as if I'd just interrupted his conversation.

    At the time I'd been in contact with an American nurse who'd been in Asia for many years. I told her he was vehemently refusing any meds and she told me to butter a morphine capsule and administer it rectally. I'd told her about the 'conversation' and she said 'it was the toxins in his liver making him a little crazy, and that he wouldn't be aware of anything. Why just the one 'conversation'? The day before he passed? The hospital had told me he'd probably had this severe onset of cancer for about a year!

    He smiled when I inserted the capsule , and tapped his foot to his favourite CD right up until he passed the next day.

    And so yes, I very much agree with the former poster. 'Hallucinations' too pat an answer.
  13. by   seasonednurse78
    I once had a female patient who was in the process of passing away. She had a such a look on her face as she said, "Oh, how beautiful!" I had no idea what she was seeing, but I knew it must have been something indescribable and wonderful. She then looked at me and told me she loved me (I told her I loved her too) and then she looked at her daughter, who was also at her bedside and told her she loved her. A moment later she passed peacefully. I have taken care of many dying patients but none of them affected me the way that experience did. I will always remember it.