Changing Lives Exponentially - page 3

I wanted to be a nurse because I was inspired. When I was 15 and very naive, I got pregnant. I was scared but my boyfriend at the time was very nice, as were his parents. Everything was going ok. I... Read More

  1. by   uRNmyway
    Quote from futurenursgteacher
    You are (mostly) wonderful people that I am glad to call colleagues. I'm glad that my Aisling can be remembered this way and be an inspiration to others. You bring tears to my eyes with your encouraging comments and feedback. Thank you. Specifically to "Merrywhiterose" If you were my student ever, I would fail you for conduct unbecoming to nurses everywhere. You are the type of person who gives us the bad rep of "eating our young". Hope you someday learn to be less bitter and cynical and I'm sorry that you had to go through the things that made you this way. Hope you learn to own them and learn from them.

    I am very sorry for what you had to go through. I am sure you will use your experience in your nursing career to help guide your care and interactions.
    I do want to point something out though: You criticize Merrywhiterose for her 'conduct unbecoming to nurses everywhere'. The comments she made were not unbecoming. She commented on how the nursing shortage is false. That is true, at least in the US and most of Canada. She made a comment about how an abortion would have been less painful to your child. While this is part of the age-old debate on abortion, it didn't imply any cynicism or bitterness on her part. I think that yes, it definitely showed what her personal beliefs on abortion are. But then again, your post did too. Your implication that abortion is wrong, that it is wrong of someone to do so, that is also very judgmental and unbecoming of a nurse.

    All that being said, again, what you went through must have been absolutely terrible. I can't even imagine the pain you must have felt holding your child during this time. Your beliefs and your strength helped you make your decision. Just remember that for someone else, the strong decision could have been to terminate, no matter how difficult and heartbreaking it would be to them. There are always two sides to every coin. For all you know, Merrywhiterose might have gone through a similar experience, and felt judged by your post...
    Part of being a nurse is putting aside our personal beliefs to benefit our patient's and their healing.
  2. by   opdahlamber
    I do have some issues with not using my own values and judgements as a ruler for others. It's something I need to work on. It's difficult.
  3. by   uRNmyway
    That's fine. Biggest part of making a change is acknowledging you have an issue that needs work.
  4. by   uRNmyway
    BTW, I love your daughter's name, Aisling. We named our little girl Aislynn, pretty rare to hear anything similar to it!
  5. by   crazymama23
    Amazing story! I have read both of your stories now and they both really touched me. I am also from a teeny tiny town in Iowa and there is a major nursing instructor shortage here! I want to eventually be a clinical instructor!