Gay with partner thinking of Navy Nurse

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Hey guys,

I am starting a BSN program in January and looking into the NCP. Will my boyfriend be allowed to move with me wherever I am stationed ?

Also, any input about being gay in the Navy.

I'm not in your face gay,but won't deny it if asked.

Thanks for any advice, there is a lot of info on this forum.

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Hey guys,

I am starting a BSN program in January and looking into the NCP. Will my boyfriend be allowed to move with me wherever I am stationed ?

Also, any input about being gay in the Navy.

I'm not in your face gay,but won't deny it if asked.

Thanks for any advice, there is a lot of info on this forum.

The military will only pay for dependents to move with you, so you would have to be legally married to have the military pay for him to move with you. He can move wherever you go as long, dependent or not, as long as it is an accompanied duty assignment. There are a few assignments that no dependents/family are allowed to go to.

The military is still adjusting to having the ban on gays after so many years, but in general the medical community is more tolerant of alternative life styles than the line side of the military.

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The military will only pay for dependents to move with you, so you would have to be legally married to have the military pay for him to move with you. He can move wherever you go as long, dependent or not, as long as it is an accompanied duty assignment. There are a few assignments that no dependents/family are allowed to go to.

The military is still adjusting to having the ban on gays after so many years, but in general the medical community is more tolerant of alternative life styles than the line side of the military.

wtbcrna, the military is currently not recognizing any gay marriage because of DOMA. They can't, as under Federal law, the marriage is not recognized. Which means that currently no partner is recognized as a full legal dependent, receives no medical benefits, and is not/can't be amended to any orders the member is given. If the OP goes overseas, the Navy will not be responsible for the partner/spouse - he will not be given an official passport; they will not get him an accompaniment visa; the member will not be paid to move him and the member will not receive any assistance in getting the partner overseas.

BUT there is apparently a statement from SecDef that some of these bennies will be available in October 2013 (start of FY14; including ID cards and base privileges) and that in the event DOMA is overturned, Tricare and dependent status for housing will be given to them. Spouse sponsoring (getting them on orders and to overseas assignments) crosses other lines, and that will be revisited if DOMA is overturned.

The Atlantic Wire published a list of what partners are entitled to, but I don't know if I can post the link.

I actually know someone in this situation.

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From a guy that was in a combat arms MOS, and served with a few gay guys inIraq in 2003, I can say most of the military is pretty open to homosexuality. From what I seen, as long as you did your job, noone ever had a problem with anyone. Thank you for your service.

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Exactly. Most of us don't seem to care, we're told not to care, and we have better things to worry about.

I wouldn't say they're all 'open', but we're instructed (as professionals) that you don't flaunt your sexual relationships (and I mean SEXUAL, not personal) at work, regardless of orientation. I'm happy to hear about someone's significant other/spouse/partner - I don't care about orientation - and plans, and see pictures of your kids, or hear about the big surprise you're planning when your sweetie comes home from deployment, but I don't want intimate details from anyone - and that's the general atmosphere I see.

'Intimate details' create hostile work environments, and that gets folks into trouble. I've not seen any of that so far.

You'll be fine - just be aware that the DOD is slowly coming around with benefits, and what you're eligible for now will be vastly different than what I'm eligible for, not that I think it's right or wrong.

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Interesting news here - http://militaryadvantage.military.com/2013/06/navy-to-offer-benefits-to-same-sex-couples/

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The Navy has a lot of new regulations concerning partnerships. But the most sought after will be out of reach, BAH, Med/Den benfits, PCSing, and Command sponsorship.

~PSC(SW/AW) Lewis Garza

Navy Medical Recruiter

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I got your PM, but I have not had 15 posts yet to reply. I am in Central Texas I service Medical Recruiting from North of Austin to Waco, From Lampasas to Temple and everywhere inbetween.

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I got your PM, but I have not had 15 posts yet to reply. I am in Central Texas I service Medical Recruiting from North of Austin to Waco, From Lampasas to Temple and everywhere inbetween.

LewisGarza,

I just happened upon your reply. I'm a graduating FNP (in August) and am strongly considering the Navy. I live in Austin and was having trouble finding my nearest medical recruiter, but it sounds like you may be it. If you could get in contact with me or send me your contact information about starting the paperwork, I would appreciate it. dwward at gwu dot edu.

On topic, with DOMA being very recently overturned it will be curious to see how the military handles same-sex partner benefits. I'm sure it will be several months until a clear plan is in place.

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