Family Member Not Supportive

nguyency77, CNA · Mar 2, 2012

It's your life, your dreams. If you're laid off and you have the money to support yourself while you're in school, why not do it?

People always brush it off when I tell them my major is nursing. They always say, "Oh but you're so smart. You should really go to medical school, or maybe pharmacy. Nursing doesn't pay as well," at which point I begin to wonder why they didn't tell that to their own daughter, who is off at some random out-of-state college studying up on how to play beer pong and "Which Sorority Girl Will Have to Get her Stomach Pumped First!?"

kids · Mar 2, 2012

If the burden of supporting you financially while you're in school will NOT be falling on this family member then go for it, follow your dream and all that other happyflowerkitty stuff.

*IF* you're expecting this family member to support you financially while you're in school then you need to have some honest discussions with this person and realize that you may not get to do what you want to at this point in time.

It is NEVER fair for one member of a family/household to push their financial obligations off on another without that person's agreement.

Puddin2day · Mar 2, 2012

Hi Kids,

No, nothing of the sort. I am fine and don't expect anyone to take care of me. If anything, I have paid off some major bills since I have been laid off. I will live off my unemployment and earnings. So, I am okay, for now.

Puddin2day · Mar 2, 2012

Nguyency77 , you are so right! We have to live out our dreams and lives. I presume that these people making all of these comments are not paying for anything, are they?

Puddin2day · Mar 2, 2012

DarkLotus,

I am so sorry to hear about your ex. You did not need him anyway. Good luck to you and nursing school. One day, you will look back on this and be a stronger person.

Puddin2day · Mar 2, 2012

Thank you CinDRnyc. I think they are afraid that I am going to ask them to pay my rent. If push came to shove, I would put all of my possessions in storage and move in with a friend if neccessary.

nguyency77, CNA · Mar 2, 2012

Nguyency77 , you are so right! We have to live out our dreams and lives. I presume that these people making all of these comments are not paying for anything, are they?

Nope, of course not. :)

We just have to stay strong and do what makes us happy.

This lady who works for my mom is always ragging on nursing and how much better her daughter is because she's pre-med. :thankya: I don't say anything to her, but I find satisfaction in having the capacity to pay my way through nursing school because I worked hard for a scholarship, and now it's paying off. :) Won't be in huge debt when I graduate!

Nursing2102 · Mar 6, 2012

Do what you want! You live your life, they already lived theirs!

Puddin2day · Mar 6, 2012

I agree Nursing 2102. Yes, and they made choices for the their life; now it is time to make a choice for my life. The good news is that I have funding (WIA) for my schooling. Now the real question is how much. LOL

Merlyn · Mar 6, 2012

I now realize that I cannot discuss LVN school with one of my closest family members. Here of lately, she have been talking about me getting a full-time job. I have already told her (in previous conversations) that now that I have been laid off, I can go back to school and pursue my life long dream. I guess she does not want to hear that. SIGH!
Any words of encouragement would be helpful and very much appreciated.
Thank you.

Forget her. It's your life not hers. Go on with your dream. Your Dream, not hers. If you want to be an LPN do it. Don't let anything or anyone stand in your way. She does want to hear what you say. Don't talk to her.

Puddin2day · Mar 6, 2012

You are so right Merlyn. Now, when we get together, we don't discuss nursing school.