Failure in life needs advice!!! Please don't be shy to answer.

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*BELIEVING LPN IS THE CAREER FOR ME*

Right now am 21 years old and never had a grand or ok life. I have decided as of today to go and try my best to be a LPN. I don't mind taking care of others and even though life has not been great for me I still have a caring heart. I also like the idea of feeling safe knowing that nursing will always be needed.

*WHY I AM IN A RUSH TO BECOME ONE*

I live with family, one single parent, a 14 year old and a 3 year old and last a 15 year old. I have grown up fatherless, one who cares less about me and only seen me twice in his life because I searched for him, all of my step fathers (four) were rude and/or abusive to my mom and me, I had it even worse in middle school, the out cast of the public system. Kids picked on me, threw things at me......which made me mute and in turn teachers have me down as slow ect. My mom herself has a huge anger problem people have seen in the public eye. he has kicked down my whole door off over something very small, she has called me names from the bible like B@stard or a b ect. and ugly, but when she is calm we get a long.........now that she had a child later on she feels its my job to watch her as she works or have fun. This is why I need to be out of her by next year, the whole family has problems and its more to it, but don't want to type for hours.

*COLLEGE PROBLEMS*

At the moment am in college...shocking yes:imbar

I am still trying to get my aide together so they want drop my classes again, I have appeal to bring............I dropped three claases one term out of depression because of family. I hope they give me one more chance........problem is I need to get my aide back and drop out of college and go straight to LPN school. Now if I get my aide it may go straight to paying for my classes and then I have to stay there another term missing out of LPN school................what should I do??

*FEW QUESTIONS*

1) Is the interest test really that hard?

2) My math is 5th grade level, my grammer typing skills...as you can see is very low. Do I still stand a chance of passing the interest test?

3) I heard LPN school itself is hard, but ready to give it all I got or am stuck in this family and have other means of getting out of it forever if I fail...........but how hard is hard? What subjects do you study?

4) How do LPNs find work? Is it kinda tough since everyone these days are having a hard time finding work (like myself) and being laid off?

5) What are the best states to work as a LPN? I live in FLorida

6) Please offer any advice you have to offer.

*IN NEED OF COMFORTING*

What can I do to ease my mind about failing?

The interest test and the final LPN test?

*Sorry for such a long post!

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Please don't call yourself a failure, especially at only 21. You've been through some rough times and survived. While still in college take advanyage of personal and career counseling offered. Looj into the LPN programs in the area. If it is a community college that you attemd, they know that there are other options and may be able to assist you. If you are there another semester, be sure you have and English Comp, a college math and a keyboarding class before you leave there. Try to take a biology course. All of these will help with the LPN exam and school. Some LPN programs require you to take some classes of that kind at a college. College counseling centers can really be helpful. You also really need some personal counseling to deal wit past traumas, your self-esteem and what sounds like could be some depression. The college should provide that or be able to refer you.

LPN school is hard work but do-able. Jobs are not as easy as they used to be, especially with the economy there in FL. But, they are out there. Good Luck.

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Please don't call yourself a failure, especially at only 21. You've been through some rough times and survived. While still in college take advanyage of personal and career counseling offered. Looj into the LPN programs in the area. If it is a community college that you attemd, they know that there are other options and may be able to assist you. If you are there another semester, be sure you have and English Comp, a college math and a keyboarding class before you leave there. Try to take a biology course. All of these will help with the LPN exam and school. Some LPN programs require you to take some classes of that kind at a college. College counseling centers can really be helpful. You also really need some personal counseling to deal wit past traumas, your self-esteem and what sounds like could be some depression. The college should provide that or be able to refer you.

LPN school is hard work but do-able. Jobs are not as easy as they used to be, especially with the economy there in FL. But, they are out there. Good Luck.

This is all really bad, but hopefully the USA as a whole will someday get back in order. Also thanks for answering. I did go for counseling at my school and it requires a fee and am super broke at the time. I do plan on getting help later. I am in a English class now.....reason I want to leave college now is because my school is far and my mom is attending too and agreed to drive me with her, now that she is once again angry at me and life too she may not take me and then they may kick me out of college. So I found a LPN school thats much closer so I won't have to depend on her.But I see what you mean...........light buld just flashed:idea:, college would be helpful for the LPN exam, but I wonder how the interest test is. I know math is on it but which level of math, is it tenth grade math?

Also do you have an idea of which state is doing well for LPns hiring wise?

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I think that you would benefit from taking remedial classes at a community college in reading, writing and math. Doing this should bring you up to speed and prepare you for the entrance exams for an LPN program if you work really hard at it. They may even offer writing, reading and math study labs to partner with a tutor to assist you. Tell the tutor your goals and most of them will really help you if they see you are applying yourself.

You are not a failure unless you continue to tell yourself that. In fact, I think you should start saying to yourself that "I am a SURVIVOR". Providing yourself with positive reinforcement can go a long way in building your self esteem. While I agree that you had a rough start, you have acknowledged that and are trying to make changes to make things better. That, is a survivor with a plan! And very, very good, believe me!! I agree with Thornbird that counseling may also be in order. You say that you are living with your family. Maybe if you can afford it, after obtaining the CNA, you may be able to move out even if it is to rent a room to have peace of mind. You WILL need this to prepare yourself and study for school. Don't let the errors of your parents stop you from making positive strides in your life. Best wishes to you, and hope that you post again to share how you are doing.

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This is all really bad, but hopefully the USA as a whole will someday get back in order. Also thanks for answering. I did go for counseling at my school and it requires a fee and am super broke at the time. I do plan on getting help later. I am in a English class now.....reason I want to leave college now is because my school is far and my mom is attending too and agreed to drive me with her, now that she is once again angry at me and life too she may not take me and then they may kick me out of college. So I found a LPN school thats much closer so I won't have to depend on her.But I see what you mean...........light buld just flashed:idea:, college would be helpful for the LPN exam, but I wonder how the interest test is. I know math is on it but which level of math, is it tenth grade math?

Also do you have an idea of which state is doing well for LPns hiring wise?

I know it to be 9th and 10th grade math. Math sucks for me as well, but I went to a community college to prepare me. Do I remember all of it? Nope, but I did enough to get by, get into the program and now, I am an successful LPN. Most areas hire LPNs for nursing homes, home health, corrections, clinics.

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I think that you would benefit from taking remedial classes at a community college in reading, writing and math. Doing this should bring you up to speed and prepare you for the entrance exams for an LPN program if you work really hard at it. They may even offer writing, reading and math study labs to partner with a tutor to assist you. Tell the tutor your goals and most of them will really help you if they see you are applying yourself.

You are not a failure unless you continue to tell yourself that. In fact, I think you should start saying to yourself that "I am a SURVIVOR". Providing yourself with positive reinforcement can go a long way in building your self esteem. While I agree that you had a rough start, you have acknowledged that and are trying to make changes to make things better. That, is a survivor with a plan! And very, very good, believe me!! I agree with Thornbird that counseling may also be in order. You say that you are living with your family. Maybe if you can afford it, after obtaining the CNA, you may be able to move out even if it is to rent a room to have peace of mind. You WILL need this to prepare yourself and study for school. Don't let the errors of your parents stop you from making positive strides in your life. Best wishes to you, and hope that you post again to share how you are doing.

Remedial classes really do help....should of seen my typing/writing in the past! Right now am in my first college level English. I wonder how the job outlook is for CNAs because that would be over great if I could get a job as one and move out. Are there any good sites to prepare myself?

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I know it to be 9th and 10th grade math. Math sucks for me as well, but I went to a community college to prepare me. Do I remember all of it? Nope, but I did enough to get by, get into the program and now, I am an successful LPN. Most areas hire LPNs for nursing homes, home health, corrections, clinics.

9th grade or 10 grade math...omg.

But good for you!! I know you were glad its over...finishing LPN school is truly amazing!

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Definitely doing a CNA course first is helpful both for the money and the experience. Often nursing homes teach these courses onsite. Also the employment/unemployment dept, whatever they call it where you are, can direct you to classes and may even provide partial tuition payment if needed.

Since you are already at a college, you should be able to get help with math and English skills. If your mother won't drive you to school try finding a ride with someone else. Colleges usually have electronic and physical bulletin boards for people to find carpools amd room-mates.

I don't recall the math needed for the LPN entrance exam being that bad.

There are jobs in every state for LPN's. Don't get too far ahead of yourself worrying about re-locating to another state. Try to get CNA certified, get a job then a car. One step at a time and you can do it.

Try a local counseling center. If you don't have insurance, many work on a sliding scale fee plan so that people like you can get help and support whem they need it. I'm not belittling you in any way to suggest this. You have been through so much. It takes its toll. You need to have some kind of personal support in your life.

Where are you in Florida? My whole family is still there.

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Definitely doing a CNA course first is helpful both for the money and the experience. Often nursing homes teach these courses onsite. Also the employment/unemployment dept, whatever they call it where you are, can direct you to classes and may even provide partial tuition payment if needed.

Since you are already at a college, you should be able to get help with math and English skills. If your mother won't drive you to school try finding a ride with someone else. Colleges usually have electronic and physical bulletin boards for people to find carpools amd room-mates.

I don't recall the math needed for the LPN entrance exam being that bad.

There are jobs in every state for LPN's. Don't get too far ahead of yourself worrying about re-locating to another state. Try to get CNA certified, get a job then a car. One step at a time and you can do it.

Try a local counseling center. If you don't have insurance, many work on a sliding scale fee plan so that people like you can get help and support whem they need it. I'm not belittling you in any way to suggest this. You have been through so much. It takes its toll. You need to have some kind of personal support in your life.

Where are you in Florida? My whole family is still there.

Its raining now, I live in Fort Lauderdale, Plantation area. I do have a HHA paper, problem is people are either hiring some LPNs or many Rn's and a decent amount of CNA's.........HHA's was a huge mistake and a waste of money. The school I go to is in Maimi andmost people there live close by, no one in my class is from my area. Plus I know even if they did I would feel so bad to ask for a ride to get there and can't pay for their gas at least.

But counseling center............how much do they cost? I only have 20.00 in my name. Like I needed to go to the doctor last month but just stick it out, and am ok now though. And your right I do need to take steps I am rushing because I want out. But rushing is making things worse I believe, and don't worry I am glad you are sharing your advice and your not belittling me.

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Remedial classes really do help....should of seen my typing/writing in the past! Right now am in my first college level English. I wonder how the job outlook is for CNAs because that would be over great if I could get a job as one and move out. Are there any good sites to prepare myself?

You live in Florida, and there seems to be many retirees migrating down that way, so, they should be chock full of retirement or nursing homes, rehab centers, etc...

What type of sites are you looking for?

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hey dont give up, im only 20 and i graduated VN school already. if I cvan do it then ofcourse you can. its hard at first but just keep going and dont ever give up. push yourself =)

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