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Just looking for some advice on attending CRNA school with kids. I know it's probably not recommended thing to do but I'd love to go back to school. My kids are 9 and 11 years old and I have good family support. Has anyone gone through this? Please give any feedback, comments, suggestions. Thank you.

I think it is incredibly selfish for someone to attend such a demanding program when they have kids, you are just neglecting your kids and its not fair to them. You should have thought about your career and future before you got married and had kids. I mean, most people usually dedicate their early to mid 20s for school and career, then they get married and have kids. This way they can devote themselves to their children. It shouldn't be the other way around.

You know......when you get older you will understand.....and as another poster mentioned in a perfect world it would be the way you are describing it.......For myself I went back to school not only to better myself but to better my childs life as well.............I have devoted 17 years of my life caring for a child with extremely complex medical issues/needs...but I fit school in......you shouldn't be so judgemental either...how do you know that persons kids are being neglected??? I wouldn't be judging anyone until I looked in the mirror first....

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this sounds like a very close-minded statement. you don't even know the situation for which you commented on. besides, who said the 20's is the "education-period"? tell that to the 40s,50s, and 60 yr olds.... you might get laughed at, or even better, a smack across the cheekbones.

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In a perfect world it would happen the way that you described it should, but life isn't perfect and sometimes things occur out of order. I wouldn't call it selfish on the part of the OP to go back to school with kids - it is important to have balance in your life - be able to support your family, attend to them, and be able to pursue your own goals and dreams. If you are a good parent and have good organizational skills I think that it is very possible to go to school while you have kids - as long as all the family is on board. To the OP: I say go for it - especially since you mentioned that you have good family support because that is very important.

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You never know what goes on in a person's life so please let's not be judgemental.

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You know......when you get older you will understand.....and as another poster mentioned in a perfect world it would be the way you are describing it.......For myself I went back to school not only to better myself but to better my childs life as well.........

I am not trying to be judgemental, I totally understand that sometimes life doesn't always turn out the way we planned. Things happen that are out of our control (death, divorce, loss of job, etc) but having a child is something that we have control over and if its an unplanned pregnancy, then you were just being unresponsible. What I am trying to say is that having children is a huge responsibility and you should only bring a life into this world when you know that you have a stable career to be able to support them and enough time to devote to them. If you decided to have kids before you were out of school, then don't complain about your situation. Going back to school to better your life and your child's is great, but there were probably a lot of moments you missed with them..... all I'm saying is use birth control until you finish school.... your children and you will have a much easier life.

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this sounds like a very close-minded statement. you don't even know the situation for which you commented on. besides, who said the 20's is the "education-period"? tell that to the 40s,50s, and 60 yr olds.... you might get laughed at, or even better, a smack across the cheekbones.

You know that I am right, 20s is the ideal time to recieve your education. If you could go back, you would have attained your education in your 20s and now your life would be alot easier. What were you doing when you were in your 20s anyway? As far as 60 yr olds, they need to worry about retiring, not going back to school.

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You know that I am right, 20s is the ideal time to recieve your education. If you could go back, you would have attained your education in your 20s and now your life would be alot easier. What were you doing when you were in your 20s anyway? As far as 60 yr olds, they need to worry about retiring, not going back to school.

Yes, life would have been simplier if I would have went to college straight out of high school, but you know what, I wouldn't change the way I have done things for anything in the world. It has made me who I am today, and a better nurse as far as I am concerned. If anything else, it has shown my children that they need to go to school straight out of hs so they don't have to struggle. To the OP I don't think you are selfish, you are going to better your life and the lives of your children. If you have a good support system go for it!!!

ETA: I haven't went to CRNA school, nor do I plan on it, just talking about returning to school for anything.

One more thing, with all the factories that are closing, many people don't have an option about returning to school at a later date. Don't judge someone unless you have walked in their shoes.

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I am not trying to be judgemental, I totally understand that sometimes life doesn't always turn out the way we planned. Things happen that are out of our control (death, divorce, loss of job, etc) but having a child is something that we have control over and if its an unplanned pregnancy, then you were just being unresponsible. What I am trying to say is that having children is a huge responsibility and you should only bring a life into this world when you know that you have a stable career to be able to support them and enough time to devote to them. If you decided to have kids before you were out of school, then don't complain about your situation. Going back to school to better your life and your child's is great, but there were probably a lot of moments you missed with them..... all I'm saying is use birth control until you finish school.... your children and you will have a much easier life.

sounds like your sound-off is directed at women (correct me if i'm wrong).. so, what about a family with a stay at home dad? my dad did it (remarried), and kids, now 9 and 7, are doing just fine, in school, social situations, etc... and they are always supportive and understanding of their mother working f/t. and no ill feelings to speak of..

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You ARE being judgemental. And, as someone else posted, don't judge someone unless you've walked a mile in their shoes. I like to think that this forum is a place where we can get advice and support from others who are possibly in the same situation. Although everyone is entitled to their own opinion, I hate to see people being judged and not supported.

After seeing your age, I can understand a little better where your comments are coming from. I am pretty sure you will change your opinions about many things over the course of your life. Honestly, I look back to when I was 22 and I am not even close to the same person.

I chose to bring two beautiful babies into my family PRIOR to returning to school, so that I could have them in my life and create the family that I have been wanting for many years. Remember, do not judge others. Yes, my entire family will be sacrificing a lot over 2.5 years so that we can make our lives better in the long run. My kids will be 4 and 6 when I get out of school, and hopefully will hardly remember the time I didn't spend with them. One thing I see with parents who attend rigorous and demanding graduate programs is that they seem to have a more well rounded quality of life. Basically, we are forced to step away from the books once in a while to spend quality time with our family. We have a greater focus in our lives than just ourselves.

From your statement, you said that "your children will have a much easier life" if, as parents, we do not return to school. As I mentioned earlier, do not judge others. Do you really think my "children will have a much easier life" if I decided NOT to adopt them from their orphanages half way around the world because one day I wanted to go back to school and become a CRNA? Do you think they are better off being ignored, strapped to bamboo potty chairs, not being educated, and having no way to make a living for themselves other than probably prostitution and poverty once they leave the orphanage at age 16 or 18?

Or, do you think they are better off here in a loving family, with a supportive and loving extended family nearby, living in a beautiful home with a pool in their back yard, private school, many activities at their fingertips, and the opportunity for their mother to show them how it is possible to be a strong & educated woman who can have a good career and make a great living for herself.

I want to be a role model for my children. I think it is important for children to see that it takes hard work, dedication and sacrifice sometimes, in order to reach their goals. And, there is an end in site. After 2.5 years, it will be over, and our lives will hopefully be richer in every way because of it.

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sounds like your sound-off is directed at women

My comments are not directed only at women.... I think women need to have successful careers and not rely on their husbands. Then they will be making plenty of money and can work part time to spend the rest with their kids, but they should do it before having kids. And I'm not saying that working full time is wrong if you have kids..... what I'm saying is that the CRNA program is sooo demanding (way more demanding than a full time job) that your family life will suffer.

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You ARE being judgemental. And, as someone else posted, don't judge someone unless you've walked a mile in their shoes. I like to think that this forum is a place where we can get advice and support from others who are possibly in the same situation. Although everyone is entitled to their own opinion, I hate to see people being judged and not supported.

After seeing your age, I can understand a little better where your comments are coming from. I am pretty sure you will change your opinions about many things over the course of your life. Honestly, I look back to when I was 22 and I am not even close to the same person.

I chose to bring two beautiful babies into my family PRIOR to returning to school, so that I could have them in my life and create the family that I have been wanting for many years. Remember, do not judge others. Yes, my entire family will be sacrificing a lot over 2.5 years so that we can make our lives better in the long run. My kids will be 4 and 6 when I get out of school, and hopefully will hardly remember the time I didn't spend with them. One thing I see with parents who attend rigorous and demanding graduate programs is that they seem to have a more well rounded quality of life. Basically, we are forced to step away from the books once in a while to spend quality time with our family. We have a greater focus in our lives than just ourselves.

From your statement, you said that "your children will have a much easier life" if, as parents, we do not return to school. As I mentioned earlier, do not judge others. Do you really think my "children will have a much easier life" if I decided NOT to adopt them from their orphanages half way around the world because one day I wanted to go back to school and become a CRNA? Do you think they are better off being ignored, strapped to bamboo potty chairs, not being educated, and having no way to make a living for themselves other than probably prostitution and poverty once they leave the orphanage at age 16 or 18?

Or, do you think they are better off here in a loving family, with a supportive and loving extended family nearby, living in a beautiful home with a pool in their back yard, private school, many activities at their fingertips, and the opportunity for their mother to show them how it is possible to be a strong & educated woman who can have a good career and make a great living for herself.

I want to be a role model for my children. I think it is important for children to see that it takes hard work, dedication and sacrifice sometimes, in order to reach their goals. And, there is an end in site. After 2.5 years, it will be over, and our lives will hopefully be richer in every way because of it.

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I think that this is the first time I have been truly angered by a posting.....avlis, I hope that with time, you can be a little more open-minded and DO NOT FORGET your birth control pill!!:angryfire

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You know that I am right, 20s is the ideal time to recieve your education. If you could go back, you would have attained your education in your 20s and now your life would be alot easier. What were you doing when you were in your 20s anyway? As far as 60 yr olds, they need to worry about retiring, not going back to school.

I'm sorry but are you sure you are not 12?? The statements you have made here are mindless and quite ridiculous. Who are you to decide when it is right for a person to attend CRNA school? I happened to start CRNA school when I was 36 and my children were 2 and 4. Did I miss out on some of their life, yes. Did my kids suffer psychological harm from this.....NO! I would dare say that all the folks who attend CRNA school WHILE they have kids go out of their way to spend quality time with their kids as much as possible.

If you are 22 and know exactly what you want to do with your life or have attained that at 22, then congratulations. I began my career in nursing later in life (28) and spent 7 years in a trauma/surgery ICU. The door opened for me to go to anesthesia school when I had kids. Praise God! I wouldn't go back and change anything that has happened to my life. Since you have it all figured out so early....enjoy. But keep your opinions to yourself when you don't know what is going on in other people's lives.

Sprout CRNA :angryfire

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Specializes in CNA for 5 years, LPN for 5 years.
My comments are not directed only at women.... I think women need to have successful careers and not rely on their husbands. Then they will be making plenty of money and can work part time to spend the rest with their kids, but they should do it before having kids. And I'm not saying that working full time is wrong if you have kids..... what I'm saying is that the CRNA program is sooo demanding (way more demanding than a full time job) that your family life will suffer.

Out of curiosity, are you in a CRNA program currently?

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