I'm having a tough time in Orientation. I tend to doubt myself because of a difficult clinical instructor, I'm older and my first job is in the ICU. My first Adult clinical with critical patients I had an instructor that singled certain students out to "ride like ponies" I was one of them...I'm older and have some doubts about myself when I'm demeaned, put down and made to feel stupid. I'm very self aware but it was hard to overcome this treatment and when two of us complained to the Dean...she basically said what do you want me to do about it? So I graduated with a BSN, passed the NCLEX and have been working on the Medical ICU for a month. My first preceptor was very lax and said things like "this isn't the way you were taught in school", and "if you were a spy I'd be screwed because this isn't how you're supposed to do this." Also the assignments... we got involved patients who were so critical that the preceptor just did everything and when I would ask she would say, "you'll figure it out as you go along" I went to our educator and said I felt uncomfortable with the comments. Then the opposite extreme, I was put with someone who was so anal about charting everything and there was never anytime to go over tasks...I would ask the same thing just to double check because I didn't want to make a mistake. Again, out of 4 days I was with the second preceptor, she was only available to teach me on two of those days. So then I go into work and they've switched me again...the manager and educator have a "talk" with me...."if you don't get up to speed we'll have to decide if this is going to work out. You're going to have to take care of two patients and you have to have an action plan to get yourself together." And they said you've got to stop asking so many questions because it's frustrating the preceptors. I mentioned the fact that the preceptors may not remember what it was like to be a new nurse and the manager said, "Are you blaming the preceptors? You've had two preceptors...maybe it's you who is the problem." So now I'm a month into my orientation and I'm scared to ask a question, I feel like I never should have gone to the educator with my concerns. Also, the next preceptor they put me with, they have already said that she has a difficult personality. It doesn't help that there were 5 orientees that came onto the unit at the same time, the other new RN's have stuck with their preceptors and are having a fine time. I don't feel like I have anywhere to go with this. I will spend the entire day with the educator on my next shift. Another issue, going straight from school to the ICU is a challenge...they used to have us go to the general floor for 3 months to get our foundation and then go to the ICU...that would have helped. I feel like if I ask about checking my Meds they look at me like I have 3 heads. I'm willing to learn and eager to stay on this floor but don't know how to handle this. I feel like my worst qualities are coming out and I feel stupid all the time...now I feel scared for my job and stupid.
I'm having a tough time in Orientation. I tend to doubt myself because of a difficult clinical instructor, I'm older and my first job is in the ICU. My first Adult clinical with critical patients I had an instructor that singled certain students out to "ride like ponies" I was one of them...I'm older and have some doubts about myself when I'm demeaned, put down and made to feel stupid. I'm very self aware but it was hard to overcome this treatment and when two of us complained to the Dean...she basically said what do you want me to do about it? So I graduated with a BSN, passed the NCLEX and have been working on the Medical ICU for a month. My first preceptor was very lax and said things like "this isn't the way you were taught in school", and "if you were a spy I'd be screwed because this isn't how you're supposed to do this." Also the assignments... we got involved patients who were so critical that the preceptor just did everything and when I would ask she would say, "you'll figure it out as you go along" I went to our educator and said I felt uncomfortable with the comments. Then the opposite extreme, I was put with someone who was so anal about charting everything and there was never anytime to go over tasks...I would ask the same thing just to double check because I didn't want to make a mistake. Again, out of 4 days I was with the second preceptor, she was only available to teach me on two of those days. So then I go into work and they've switched me again...the manager and educator have a "talk" with me...."if you don't get up to speed we'll have to decide if this is going to work out. You're going to have to take care of two patients and you have to have an action plan to get yourself together." And they said you've got to stop asking so many questions because it's frustrating the preceptors. I mentioned the fact that the preceptors may not remember what it was like to be a new nurse and the manager said, "Are you blaming the preceptors? You've had two preceptors...maybe it's you who is the problem." So now I'm a month into my orientation and I'm scared to ask a question, I feel like I never should have gone to the educator with my concerns. Also, the next preceptor they put me with, they have already said that she has a difficult personality. It doesn't help that there were 5 orientees that came onto the unit at the same time, the other new RN's have stuck with their preceptors and are having a fine time. I don't feel like I have anywhere to go with this. I will spend the entire day with the educator on my next shift. Another issue, going straight from school to the ICU is a challenge...they used to have us go to the general floor for 3 months to get our foundation and then go to the ICU...that would have helped. I feel like if I ask about checking my Meds they look at me like I have 3 heads. I'm willing to learn and eager to stay on this floor but don't know how to handle this. I feel like my worst qualities are coming out and I feel stupid all the time...now I feel scared for my job and stupid.