PLEASE don't do it!

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Hi fellow correctional nurse's. I'm having a hard time convincing a coworker of mine to stop making contact with an inmate. I've tried to explain to her that they can be manipulative and that she can lose her job. She said she came to me about it because she "heard" that I did it and kept my job :nono:

The truth is that my husband had been arrested around the same time I started and I had to inform the administrator so that I could be move to another facility and she refused to move me because she needed me on the shift I was on. He was there for 3 days and somehow it was said that I met him there (funny how we were able to get married in jail within that time frame-WHATEVER!).

Anyway, if you know any situations gone wrong please post so that i may refer her here.

Specializes in correctional, psych, ICU, CCU, ER.

We're a small, (300), level 1 facility, only have 1 RN on at a time, MD makes rounds BID, contract hospital nearby, so......we have time and resources to.....unfortunately,,,,,and the cameras aren't everywhere....BUT...you're right, they smell, and even if they didn't, there would be NO WAY I would risk it, it's just not worth my license, my reputation and my pension...besides, I like to think I have SOME morals and wouldn't be in bed with someone I met casually. Even co-workers...it's just not a good idea to date them...too much can go wrong, then you're stuck working together................SIGH

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Specializes in ob/gyn med /surg.

ewww there is not one pt i have met in 21 years i would do that ... eewww

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My secretery would call our trustee down on the weekends when she would come in to catch up on her filing. The nurse would be out on med pass, so everyone knew not to bring any of the i/m to be seen while she was out on med pass. The sec. and the trustee would have about an hour that noone checked on anything to do what they wanted to. I heard thru the i/m grape line that the dental chair was a hot spot!!! YUK!!!:barf01:

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Specializes in ER-Adult and Peds, also ICU.

There is a saying we use in the ER. You can't fix stupid. You can treat the symptoms and the traumas after the fact, but you can't fix the root of the problem stupidity! Keep in mind for those of you that don't or have not worked in corrections, that these men spend a great deal of time lifting weights. Alot of them are really good looking, but yuk they are inmates. Some women have very low self images and the inmates really play on it. Sad but true. :uhoh3: If I could not do better than that I think I would start hitting for the other team. LOL :smackingf

TBH

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Prisonpenpal.net and prisonpenpals.org actually...lol. I saw this on a talk show once and had to see if for myself.

OK, I had to go on this website to see it with my own two eyes.

After reading some of the profiles I felt like I was at work. There was a lot of:

"I have been convicted of a crime I didn't commit with absolutely no evidence" REEEEEALY

"I did this when I was young and stupid and now I have changed" Murder? what?

Geez. I can't believe some people fall for this.

It also amazes me how many are asking for "real people" "no games".

I also had to quote this one bc I nearly died laughing reading it:

"I'm a man with the most highest pedigree."

and at the end he says " I have little over 2 years, and I'll be free. I have a non violent bank robbery. Totally rehabilitated."

I guess this is why I enjoy my job, being constantly entertained by the things that come out of the i/m's mouths :rotfl:

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Specializes in correctional, psych, ICU, CCU, ER.

AMEN!! to the things that come out of IM mouths. I can't COUNT the # of IM who arrive at the cell door, shaking, crying, "You can't put me in there with them, I'm INNOCENT!!!!" My standard reply? "Gentlemen in the tank!! Can I have a show of hands?? How many of you are innocent?? (22 out of 24 hands go up) "see, you ARE in the right place--they're innocent, too"

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Specializes in Rehab, Corrections, LTC, and Detox Nurse.
Wow, what an eye-opener this thread is...I would have thought the kind of woman that would be stupid enough to fall into this, would be too flaky, dim-witted or emotionally unstable to become a nurse to begin with.

The obvious theme here is that this NEVER ends well. Has anyone ever seen anyone marry or continue a relationship after she's fired and they live happily ever after? I'll eat my hat.

Actually I have. I know a nurse that married an inmate after he was released. He had trouble finding decent paying jobs but he was very diligent. He was also frustrated. He worked a day labor place at this company and they liked him so much that the permament guys spoke highly to their boss and they hired him. It's a pretty good job and they have been together 7 years now (happily) and this is a guy who was in and out of prison for almost 10 years. But I tried to tell my friend that this is not the norm nor is it a standard.

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Actually I have. I know a nurse that married an inmate after he was released. He had trouble finding decent paying jobs but he was very diligent. He was also frustrated. He worked a day labor place at this company and they liked him so much that the permament guys spoke highly to their boss and they hired him. It's a pretty good job and they have been together 7 years now (happily) and this is a guy who was in and out of prison for almost 10 years. But I tried to tell my friend that this is not the norm nor is it a standard.

Wow!

My hat isn't going to go down easily...I better get some tartar sauce!:uhoh21:

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Specializes in Rehab, Corrections, LTC, and Detox Nurse.

Well CST wannabe like I said it's not the norm. These relationships mostly end in a hot mess moreso for the nurse involved. I always tell newbies not to do this because it's not worth it.

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