Confidence shot down

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My confidence was shot down yesterday. I have just over 5 month's experience as an RN. I was told yesterday that maybe I chose the wrong profession to make matters worse she said this in front of others. I love what I am doing, and have never been happier (except for the politics at my job). I was told this by a 30 yr experieinced nurse. Why do they do this? I am tired of this particular person using every chance she can to ding me. Should I write a letter? I just don't know what to do.

I do the best I can and had a great preceptor. I know I can beat this attitude but still it can be hard to do.

Thanks for letting me vent. My boot straps will be pulled up and I will always do the the best I can.

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Specializes in Rural Health.

Pull her aside the next time you work and tell her....if you have problems with me and they way I do my work please address me in a private manner and I will do my best to work on the issues you discuss with me but please do not address me again in a public forum as I find it is not conducive to my learning here on the unit.

Then kill her with niceness by telling her you appreciate her 30 years of working and you really enjoy learning from her and tell her how much you have learned from her since you started working there.

I used to work with a woman in a very similar situation and this was the ONLY way I got her off my back.

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Somtimes in life wre need these kind of poeple to put us down, the reason being because it gives us the extra nudge to work even harder. Last year i had a family memeber telling me there was no way i could pass my exams, i was already doing well but with those words of discouragement i tried even harder and ended up passing with distinctions. Use this negative womans attitude to your advantage never let anyone put u down its not worth it!!!:nono:

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Specializes in Staff nurse.

Yes, it will work. If you stand up for yourself in a professional private manner with her, you will show her that you won't tolerate her foolishness, and that you are respectful for not saying it in front of a crowd...although sometimes that's also the thing to do. After I did the above, in private, I noticed the jabs ceased.

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Specializes in Developmental Disabilities.

I don't understand why sometimes people...considered an authority of sorts...will tell someone "I don't think you are cut out for this...or this..." How is that supposed to help anyone?

Keep your head high and do the best you can :nurse:

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Pull her aside the next time you work and tell her....if you have problems with me and they way I do my work please address me in a private manner and I will do my best to work on the issues you discuss with me but please do not address me again in a public forum as I find it is not conducive to my learning here on the unit.

Then kill her with niceness by telling her you appreciate her 30 years of working and you really enjoy learning from her and tell her how much you have learned from her since you started working there.

And then vomit on her brand new Crocs! :yeah:

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Specializes in Operating Room Nursing.

Sighs. If you don't want to be eaten alive here i suggest next time she does it in front of others tell her to be quiet and act like a professional nurse.

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Thank you all. These suggestions are very helpful. I know eventually I will become more resilient to coworkers attitudes etc. With all your help and support, I KNOW I have chosen the right profession. You all are wonderful!

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Who in their right mind has the Arrogance to tell another human being what profession they can or cannot do??

People have said this to me before and it burns me up:angryfire

YOU are the one who knows what you should do with your life, No One else has the authority or knows you well enough to make this type of judgement. People are ridiculous.

The fact is, and it is indeed the truth, that when someone puts another person down, it is in their lame attempt to somehow make themselves look more valuable.

What a new nurse needs is support, a mentor, encouragement. If you dont get it there go elsewhere. I have learned the hard way.THere are many encouraging and supportive people out there too.

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