There's this woman on the unit where I've been working for 8 months, she was a new hire after I had already been there. She's just all over me. She'll do things like, when I'm standing up and charting, she'll tickle me as she walks by, without even warning me. She calls me all sorts of terms of endearment, cutesy plays on words on my name, stuff like that. It happened again the other day along with more uninvited touching. I hadn't seen anyone for a couple of weeks 'cause I've been waiting for HR to process my application, since I'm becoming an official employee now. She was just being friendly in her weird way.
I know she's just trying to be friendly, so I"m not sure if it's worth it to say anything. Yet, I'm finding I'm wanting to vent once in awhile to a buddy about how this woman is annoying me. But, if I say something to her it'll hurt her feelings and alienate her. This unit has a really good culture of acceptance and camaraderie, so I don't want to do anything to upset that.
If you read the skinny little book, titled "The one minute manager" you can understand the logic of little statements such as that one.
In a nutshell, you basically give someone some positive feedback about something that is true, before asking them to change or improve something that you don't like or isn't acceptable, and then you thank then again or some sort of positive statement. That way, they get the message, but the positive stuff in the message makes it so that the negative feedback isn't so painful.
I recommend the One Minute Manager to everyone....such a great little book.... if all managers would read it lots of employees everywhere would be happier!
for what it's worth one female can sexually harass another, and thats what this potentially could be. rj
that's why i say what difference does it make? a female can harass another female (or what they may perceive as harrassment) a male can harass another male, a female can harass a male and a male can harass a female.
it makes no difference, the rules are for everyone to follow, gender should never be an issue.
I don't think she has a crush on me, she's married, has a kid. I think she sees me as a friendly and trustworthy face.
The bottom line is, she's being over the top friendly to me and I don't like it much. I'm not a touchy feely person, but I've been trying not to be as uptight about that like I've been in the past, but she seems over the top.
i don't think she has a crush on me, she's married, has a kid. i think she sees me as a friendly and trustworthy face.
the bottom line is, she's being over the top friendly to me and i don't like it much. i'm not a touchy feely person, but i've been trying not to be as uptight about that like i've been in the past, but she seems over the top.
i think she would appreciate it if you tell her just that. "listen i know you are just being friendly when you touch/tickle me going through the station but i'm uncomfortable with it so i'd rather you don't do it, i startle easily, and my husband is the only one whose allowed to called me honey".
I used to work with a guy who'd come up behind me and put his arm around me, or rub my shoulders or tickle me, etc. He thought he was a ladies' man, did it to all the *young* nurses/techs in the unit.
It creeped me out. I told him to stop. He did it anyway. Then I told him the only man who was allowed to touch me that way was my husband, and finally, he backed off.
He got fired about a year later for *inappropriate* behavior at work...big surprise!
*LadyJane*
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If you read the skinny little book, titled "The one minute manager" you can understand the logic of little statements such as that one.
In a nutshell, you basically give someone some positive feedback about something that is true, before asking them to change or improve something that you don't like or isn't acceptable, and then you thank then again or some sort of positive statement. That way, they get the message, but the positive stuff in the message makes it so that the negative feedback isn't so painful.
I recommend the One Minute Manager to everyone....such a great little book.... if all managers would read it lots of employees everywhere would be happier!
Jane