CC beginning evening and weekend nursing classes...need advice please!!

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Hi all. I read in the paper today that my CC just got awarded a huge grant to have evening and weekend nursing classes begining in January. How awesome is that?? Here is my dellimma....I applied to a college about 25 miles from here for their Spring sem. I should found out shortly if I was accepted. This other school is strictly day classes, but I'd get in one semester earlier because as of right now (don't know if the grant will change this, but my CC only has a fall class, unlike the other I applied to so the chances are greater.) The evening and weekend classes would be ideal for me and my family considering I'm a stay at home mom of 4 boys (11,9,9 & 2) and my husband travels all over the tri-state and is usually far from home during the day. Plus it would save sooo much money in day care expenses. Sigh. If I get accepted to the school 25 miles from here should I go ahead and accept or wait another semster (assuming I'd get in) to have the evening an weekend classes??? I'm really confused because I thought I had everything mapped out. Oh, also if I get accepted for this spring class I'll still have 2 pre-req's left (micro and A&PII) to complete. If I wait for the evening classes (fall 06) everything will be finished because it won't be until next fall. I hope this isn't too awfully confusing. :rolleyes: Anyhow, I realy need you guy's advice on this one. I'd almost wait a semester to apply for the evening classes just because of the convenience. But should I deny my acceptance to another school and possibly not be accepted to my own school??? AGGHHHH! HELP!!!!!!!

p.s. right now my GPA is a 3.9 for 30 hours, incase that helps.

I also wanted to add another ? Can you transfer from one nursing school to another without having to start all over? I have no idea. These 2 schools are withing the same school system and are considered "sister schools".

Thanks in advance!!

Christy

That you are in no position to dictate to someone else what they can or cannot handle and that it is inappropriate for you to assume a moral stance on what life will be like for her children if she chooses to educate herself. You are not the only one here in nursing school and you are not the only one here who is a mother. So trust me when I say that more people than not around here know a little something about this as well.

And how dare you tell this poster in your SNIDE way that she needs an English Comp class. I would tell you that your post is rude, but I've taken a look at a lot of your previous posts and in MY considered opinion you are the one that is rude.

mariedoreen, I'm not DICTATING anything to anyone. And I never made a morality judgment about the OP's plans. I DID make a comment that will hopefully cause her to think about her future time commitments, stress levels, and (especially) her ability to balance competing demands from school and her children. I fail to see why offering a counterpoint to your unquestioning support incenses you so.

And truth be told, she doesn't write very well, if her post is any indication. I had a hard time figuring out what she was saying. Being honest with someone is not, in my opinion, being rude. I appreciate someone pointing out MY shortcomings. But that's me. A nurse should be able to communicate precisely and concisely. A lot of students today, especially younger ones, can't do that.

And by the way, I'm not a mother.

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mariedoreen, I'm not DICTATING anything to anyone. And I never made a morality judgment about the OP's plans. I DID make a comment that will hopefully cause her to think about her future time commitments, stress levels, and (especially) her ability to balance competing demands from school and her children. I fail to see why offering a counterpoint to your unquestioning support incenses you so.

And truth be told, she doesn't write very well, if her post is any indication. I had a hard time figuring out what she was saying. Being honest with someone is not, in my opinion, being rude. I appreciate someone pointing out MY shortcomings. But that's me. A nurse should be able to communicate precisely and concisely. A lot of students today, especially younger ones, can't do that.

And by the way, I'm not a mother.

Dear Targa......just read all of your posts. I do believe that this thread was shut down, probably because of you and your negative feedback and assesment of my poor "english compostition". First of all, I'm not in the least upset by what you said because you don't know me, my family or our lifetstyle, but let me just say, without being too extremely harsh, that I'd rather have poor composition than a poor attitude and the inability to bite my tongue and offer nothing to a post but negative criticism. And another thing, I don't think my asking an opinion was based on whether I should or shouldn't attend school. It was about which route I should take. Not that I feel the need to justify any of this to you personally, but I do have a supportive husband who went to school and got his masters degree while I stayed home and cared for our kids for 11 years. Being a mother is the hardest job on this planet, one where the resuts far outweigh being a physician, a nurse or a rocket scientist. It's about raising children with a great moral background, knowing who they are and who their parents are and the sacrifices they made for them and to teach them to be genuinely decent human beings. When I am old and grey I want my kids to be able and look back and say to themselves..."my mom and dad worked really hard to ensure that we could have a good life." And that is exactly why I am going back to school. Everytime I open a book to study when I'd rather be reading one to them I think about the future and everything I want for my children. I want them to know that hard work really does pay off. A few years of college is nothing compared to a lifetime of security and the chance to ensure a future for my kids. My husband and children are proud of me and it's not just because they see me working hard towards my goal, it's because I'm a decent person and I care about others.

I've stayed at home for years waiting until the time was right to pursue my dream and it's my turn now. I'm sure that I will be on these boards posting about how hard ns is and I'll wonder if i'll make it through, but no one gets anything handed to them and I don't expect that either. Let me worry about my kids well-being and if I were you I'd wonder why you're such a bitter person.

I want all of you working mothers who are going to school and chasing their dreams who read this to know.....don't ever let anyone or anything stand in the way of your goals. Life is too short for the shoulda, woulda, coulda's and the negative people in the world. If you have the opportunity to make it happen I say go for it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Thank you,

Christy :)

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Hi everyone. I'd first like to say thanks to everyone who replied to my post with positve feedback. I just read all of these posts today because it was shut down. Someone is lurking around these boards who is a wee bit punchy, yes? Shew! Had I known all of this was going on I would have replied to them myself. Also, I apologize for my oh so poor "english composition". :chuckle I was in a bit of a rush that day and just let my thoughts ramble on and on, as I usually do. However, don't assume I'd let a negative poster ever sway my decision to pursue my dreams. I've waited far too long and been through way too much to let the opinion of someone else steer me in a different direction, and I hope that you guys are able to tune out negative people as well. My family is my biggest supporters of me going back to school and I'm grateful and thankful to have them. I've been posting on this board for a while and have met nothing but super nice people. But you know what they say, there is always a rotten egg in the bunch. Ha! :uhoh3: Anyhow, thanks again guys and I hope all of you continue to fulfill your goals and succeed on whatever you do!!

To reply to the advice...I think I will juST think on things. If the original school I applied to accepts me then I will probably go with that one, if not then there is a reason for it. We'll see.

Oh and by the way..I got an A in Eng 101, 102 and English Lit. and my kids are all alive and doing great LOL!! :rotfl: :rotfl:

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Well here's the real dilemma... how difficult is it for a student to get accepted into nursing programs in your area... Here the competition is stiff and even the best students are never sure of their chances. So if it were me in such a situation, I would apply and accept the first one that took me. Of course, you have a little more weighing into this situation... young children, extra expenses, etc... if the night and weekend program is crucial to being able to balance your family with school then you can wait and finish up your pre-reqs... but what if you don't get in? That would be the issue for me, I'd be talking to some program officials and getting some information: will this be starting up this fall term for sure? what are my chances of getting accepted?

Hi mariedoreen. I made an appt. with my counceler at school to go over the new program they're implementing to see when it's starting for sure and what my chances are. I'll update when I know something. :)

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Dear BlueEyes and others,

Some overly-sensitive soul went cry-babying to the board monitors, and one of my posts was removed. The following was my reply (in part) to the monitor in question:

"Brian, thanks for the email. I do appreciate that policing this forum requires a fine balance, but you have changed the rules on me somewhat. At first, you accused me of flaming the original poster, which I disputed; now you say that I have been "unfriendly" (which doesn't seem to be in the TOS). While you haven't told me exactly what it was I said that was offensive (and I think I have a right to know that), I presume that you didn't like my remark about the OP's writing skills. However, if you read her original post, she invited comment on that very issue. Truly, I re-read every post I made in that thread, and the comments directed toward me by the female posters were, in my opinion, more offensive than anything I wrote. I feel that perhaps you're judging me with a standard different from others, simply because I wrote some thoughts that are "politically incorrect" on a board that is largely dominated by women. The issue I brought up (kids v. school) is not unfriendy or evil; my opinions just happen to have a slant different from most. Is it a requirement on this board that everyone agree? Why can't there be a provocative discussion about this issue?"

I never insulted the original poster, or questioned her morals, sanity, or virginity. I did not engage in name-calling. I DID make a comment about her writing, a comment that she herself invited. And I DID make some legitimate observations about her plans. Some people on this board are apparently unable to engage in serious debate without making it personal. If your skin is that thin, I feel sorry for you... you're gonna have a tough time in the future.

Targa..just read your post. Although it isn't directed to me I feel the need to respond considering it is I with whom you're speaking about. First of all, please do not try and speak on my behalf about your remarks to my post and my own feelings about it. I'm not insulted at your advice. It's neither here nor there. I'm disgusted that you would actually think that I'd take you're advice and consider your thoughts on MY future. If you're so concerned about being politcally and socially correct why don't you take a few lessons on that yourself and stop flaming other people in such a negative way? So I rambled on in my post and it was confusing.....who really cares?? This is a message board, not english class if you haven't noticed. If you're sincerely wanting someone to take your advice seriously maybe you should try posting in a more positive and appropriate manner rather than patronizing someone because they don't have all the time in the world to sit with their Webster's and disect their entire post. (Was that a run on sentence?) Quick call the grammar police!!! If my post offends you so, why not just refrain yourself from reading it? You also said I invited criticism and judgement based on how I chose to word my post...are you serious? Correct me if I'm wrong, but aren't your comments a direct invitation for criticism yourself?? I never invited you to engage in any kind of conversation with me regarding whether or not I should attend school. I never invited anything but some advice about which school to choose, not whether or not YOU thought I should go. Did you honestly think I'd take your advice to heart? If the answer is yes, then you're more condescending than I thought. If the answer is no, then you're just plain mean!

Cheers,

Christy :)

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And by the way, I'm not a mother.

Then you should be made aware that the very best gift a mother can ever give her children is to educate herself.

You are being very judgmental here. An opinion or a concern is one thing, pronouncing judgment on all those around you is quite another. Besides, you're all wet on this one. I'm in virtually the same boat as the OP and can most assuredly tell you that going to nursing school while raising healthy, happy children is very doable.

I attend nursing school full time as well, I have three children 13, 11 and 3. My husband is often out of town for business or working 50+ hour weeks. I get up at 4:30 to study before taking the older kids to school. I spend the morning with my little one. I take her to afternoon pre-school and then attend three hours of lecture or lab. A carpool made up of neighborhood moms (of which I belong and do duty once each week) picks up all three of my children and takes them home. I arrive home approximately 20 minutes after they do. They are usually all sitting at the table eating the snack I set out for them before I left. I do more studying in the evening after 7:00 when I've put the youngest to bed. On clinical days (once weekly) their Auntie comes to get them ready in the morning, she takes the older kids to school and cares for my little one until pre-school. I am always home on those days in time to do the neighborhood carpool.

It may seem to you that one cannot both go to school and be a good mom, but you should understand that many women are up for the challenge of doing well at both and they are more than capable of successfully meeting their family's many needs while providing for their financial future.

And I cannot believe that in 2005 this has to be explained to you.

To the OP: I agree with others, I would be hesitant to turn away an acceptance but if the other program will work better for balancing school and family then I would definitely investigate it. Good luck!

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Then you should be made aware that the very best gift a mother can ever give her children is to educate herself.

You are being very judgmental here. An opinion or a concern is one thing, pronouncing judgment on all those around you is quite another. Besides, you're all wet on this one. I'm in virtually the same boat as the OP and can most assuredly tell you that going to nursing school while raising healthy, happy children is very doable.

I attend nursing school full time as well, I have three children 13, 11 and 3. My husband is often out of town for business or working 50+ hour weeks. I get up at 4:30 to study before taking the older kids to school. I spend the morning with my little one. I take her to afternoon pre-school and then attend three hours of lecture or lab. A carpool made up of neighborhood moms (of which I belong and do duty once each week) picks up all three of my children and takes them home. I arrive home approximately 20 minutes after they do. They are usually all sitting at the table eating the snack I set out for them before I left. I do more studying in the evening after 7:00 when I've put the youngest to bed. On clinical days (once weekly) their Auntie comes to get them ready in the morning, she takes the older kids to school and cares for my little one until pre-school. I am always home on those days in time to do the neighborhood carpool.

It may seem to you that one cannot both go to school and be a good mom, but you should understand that many women are up for the challenge of doing well at both and they are more than capable of successfully meeting their family's many needs while providing for their financial future.

And I cannot believe that in 2005 this has to be explained to you.

To the OP: I agree with others, I would be hesitant to turn away an acceptance but if the other program will work better for balancing school and family then I would definitely investigate it. Good luck!

Thank you catyswithme. To hear someone say that something can't or shouldn't be done just puts more fuel in my fire to succeed. Anyhow, I hear you about balancing things. I think the best thing to do is to wait and see if I'm even accepted. Like I said in my first post, I will still have 2 pre-reqs to take if I am accepted. That may be really difficult to manage. So if I'm accepted it will be a blessing, if not that will be a blessing too. I'm trying to look at all the positives. The night and weekend schedule sounds great too because then my little one won't be in day care. He's never been before and I know it would be hard, but you have to do what you have to do right??

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Dear BlueEyes and others,

Some overly-sensitive soul went cry-babying to the board monitors, and one of my posts was removed. The following was my reply (in part) to the monitor in question:

"Brian, thanks for the email. I do appreciate that policing this forum requires a fine balance, but you have changed the rules on me somewhat. At first, you accused me of flaming the original poster, which I disputed; now you say that I have been "unfriendly" (which doesn't seem to be in the TOS). While you haven't told me exactly what it was I said that was offensive (and I think I have a right to know that), I presume that you didn't like my remark about the OP's writing skills. However, if you read her original post, she invited comment on that very issue. Truly, I re-read every post I made in that thread, and the comments directed toward me by the female posters were, in my opinion, more offensive than anything I wrote. I feel that perhaps you're judging me with a standard different from others, simply because I wrote some thoughts that are "politically incorrect" on a board that is largely dominated by women. The issue I brought up (kids v. school) is not unfriendy or evil; my opinions just happen to have a slant different from most. Is it a requirement on this board that everyone agree? Why can't there be a provocative discussion about this issue?"

I never insulted the original poster, or questioned her morals, sanity, or virginity. I did not engage in name-calling. I DID make a comment about her writing, a comment that she herself invited. And I DID make some legitimate observations about her plans. Some people on this board are apparently unable to engage in serious debate without making it personal. If your skin is that thin, I feel sorry for you... you're gonna have a tough time in the future.

I agree with targa. The OP asked for an opinion and he gave one.. What is wrong with that???? :saint:

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Targa..just read your post. Although it isn't directed to me I feel the need to respond considering it is I with whom you're speaking about. First of all, please do not try and speak on my behalf about your remarks to my post and my own feelings about it. I'm not insulted at your advice. It's neither here nor there. I'm disgusted that you would actually think that I'd take you're advice and consider your thoughts on MY future. If you're so concerned about being politcally and socially correct why don't you take a few lessons on that yourself and stop flaming other people in such a negative way? So I rambled on in my post and it was confusing.....who really cares?? This is a message board, not english class if you haven't noticed. If you're sincerely wanting someone to take your advice seriously maybe you should try posting in a more positive and appropriate manner rather than patronizing someone because they don't have all the time in the world to sit with their Webster's and disect their entire post. (Was that a run on sentence?) Quick call the grammar police!!! If my post offends you so, why not just refrain yourself from reading it? You also said I invited criticism and judgement based on how I chose to word my post...are you serious? Correct me if I'm wrong, but aren't your comments a direct invitation for criticism yourself?? I never invited you to engage in any kind of conversation with me regarding whether or not I should attend school. I never invited anything but some advice about which school to choose, not whether or not YOU thought I should go. Did you honestly think I'd take your advice to heart? If the answer is yes, then you're more condescending than I thought. If the answer is no, then you're just plain mean!

Cheers,

Christy :)

Dear Christy, judging from your anger and defensiveness, you obviously have more issues than a mere dilemma over which school to attend. I didn't give you any advice; I raised some questions that you've apparently never thought about, as you're way too selfish and self-involved. Hopefully someone who isn't as close-minded as you will read this thread and think twice about walking down the path you've chosen. I really don't care what you do, or what you think about me. As I've pointed out, I never attacked you personally. If you read again what I wrote, you'll see that I offered an opinion in the nicest way possible that perhaps your plan to attend school was premature, for several reasons. You've chosen to take offense as if I called you an ax-murderer. Maybe I've touched a nerve...

And yes, you did invite comment on your post. You said "hope this isn't too awfully confusing". Well, it was. I read your post three times and I still didn't understand what you were trying to say. But hey, congrats on getting A's in english composition. There.... that's positive, isn't it???

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..... because then my little one won't be in day care. He's never been before and I know it would be hard, but you have to do what you have to do right??

No, you DON'T have to subject your son to day-care. You can wait until he's in junior high before you go back to school.

Having second (guilty) thoughts, soulshine?

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