Can I pull my hair out now?

[sasha2lady]

Ohhh what an awful night! I got to work and within minutes of starting my meds I had to stop and go draw blood and beg someone to run it to the hospital on a pt who c/o cp x 1 but in her defense she has a recent HD of PE. So then I resume my already late med pass and when I finish I go get me a coke and in that five minute leave of absence a

the husband of one of my residents accused my aides of abusing his wife because they transferred her from bed to w/c the same way they have always done it they stood her up and pivoted her while holding onto her. He goes to the don who then informs me as I come up the hall. Now this is the same guy that was joking and talkingvto me and my aides just minutes ago and said nothing until the aides and myself were out of sight. I've suspected this man has dementia himself as does his wife. She is combative at times and has even kicked one of the aides across the room and has blacked a few eyes and scratched a few faces in her demented state. These people claim to have money and every chance he gets he says he pays 5000/mo fir her to be in this semiprivate room. He often has nearly violent outbursts over nothing he cussed an aide out for removing a tablecloth that a resident spilled a drink on which happened to be at the same table his wife was at. The son is the same way but worse he came in about 15mins later and had a list of complaints that were all unfounded and ridiculous. Then an aide got smart with me when I informed her that her or another one could go home early for low census. Not to forget that the day shift rn is trying to pile loads of papers on me and I still do t k ow what all she wanted me to do because I had 10 things going on at exactly the same time! Plus we just had extra work put on us that the Adonis don and mrs nurses are supposed to have been doing and now the don says it's our job to do it including updating care plans which is not in our scope. That's what they get paid 60 grand a yr to be doing! I'm a fairly swift paced worker and even I can't do what they are expecting us to do. And with this family I was screming in my mind "if you're so loaded pack her $&$& and take her home NOW!" lucky for him I only thought it. Well I feel better now that I've vented maybe tomorrow will be better.

[TheCommuter, BSN, RN]

It sounds as if your privately-paying family member has some displaced anger. He is really upset at the totality of the situation, including the health problems that have landed his wife into a nursing home. However, he probably feels less guilt when he lashes out at staff for petty matters. When he hammers down at staff and complains to management, it probably makes him feel as if he's doing everything possible for his wife.

I suspect he feels guilty for resorting to long-term care. There are major psychosocial issues that underlie his ridiculous behaviors.

[xoemmylouox, ASN, RN]

I suspect he feels guilty for resorting to long-term care. There are major psychosocial issues that underlie his ridiculous behaviors.

I agree.. Often the staff get the anger that should be directed elsewhere..