Hi guys. A little bit of back story, I just graduated nursing school in May. I interviewed for and received a job offer for the position I'm curently working in before I graduated and it was the first job I was offered. It is in a state 1,000 miles away from my original state. I decided I wanted to move far away, applied for this job, interviewed, and accepted an offer all in a matter of like 6 weeks.
I think I picked this job because I was running away from a relationship, pretty much. I was in a long term relationship all of nursing school that went completely sour before I graduated. I thought I wanted a life change so I moved as far away as I could and now I'm regretting it.
I miss my family more than anything in the world. I can only afford to fly home once every 2 months or so. It's been an absolutely amazing experience moving down here but I feel so lonely. The problem is that I signed a 2 year contract when I accepted the offer. For the first year I spend 6 months on one unit and 6 months on another and then the second year I choose a unit and work there. How horrible would it be if I left after a year? How hard would it be to get a different job back home with them knowing I broke a contract? I feel so lost, any words of wisdom would be greatly appreciated.
I also agree with all of the above. Plus a couple things come to mind. If you try to job search before moving, when they call your current employer I would think they would mention you were in a contract to them...which does not look good and also let's your current employer know you are job searching while in a contract. On the flip side, should you quit, move home and then job search...well, then if they call for a reference they will hear how you broke the contract and not eligible to be hired again. Being in healthcare, employers need to know you are trustworthy and dependable.
I do hope you are able to work through this though and that some of the above suggestions will hopefully be helpful with being homesick. Not a fun situation but you worked so hard to get to this point, give yourself some time...wait until the one year mark at least and see how you feel then and reassess.
Specializes in CCU, SICU, CVSICU, Precepting & Teaching.
I understand being lonely, but you took the job, you signed the contract and you gave your word that you'd stay at this job for two years. Breaking your word does not look good.
Try a church. Lots of friendly, introverted people like me who will say hello over coffee and doughnuts after service and won't be pushy about making "best friends" today, today, today. I quit going to church for various reasons for several years but the lack of social structure in my life brought me back. I am happy to say I have made several good acquaintances and a real friend or two in the couple years I have been attending.
The trouble with trying to make friends in general is that you have to "do" something to create shared experiences. But in a setting like that, you don't have to "do" anything to form a sort of social bond. For shyish people like you and me, that is valuable.
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I also agree with all of the above. Plus a couple things come to mind. If you try to job search before moving, when they call your current employer I would think they would mention you were in a contract to them...which does not look good and also let's your current employer know you are job searching while in a contract. On the flip side, should you quit, move home and then job search...well, then if they call for a reference they will hear how you broke the contract and not eligible to be hired again. Being in healthcare, employers need to know you are trustworthy and dependable.
I do hope you are able to work through this though and that some of the above suggestions will hopefully be helpful with being homesick. Not a fun situation but you worked so hard to get to this point, give yourself some time...wait until the one year mark at least and see how you feel then and reassess.