I have been a nurse for 12 years, only a BSN since May 2017. 9 years of that have been in either ICU or the cath lab. I am married, have 2 children, 1 of which is from my previous marriage. Not prior military. Ultimately I want to go to CRNA school, but that is only part of the driving force behind joining the military.
No crazy background issues other than a foreclosure that finalized a few months ago.
Army: direct commision as O1 during school, obtain DNP, 5 year ADSC. If it sucks as far as my family goes, its 8 years. But school is paid for and complete.
Navy: direct commision as ICU RN, $30K for a 4 year contract, $20k/year as CCRN (I currently have), after 3 years eligible to apply to USUHS, but most likely won't get in until contract is complete. If it sucks, its 4 years, then use the post-9/11 GI bill to pay for CRNA school.