Are advisors suppose to rip you up if you fail the Nclex?

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Hi this is my first post, r/t the nclex NOT passing and being ripped up by my Advisor who I thought would help me and give me words of encouragement like keep your head up, you'll get it next time or what can I do to help you! Nothing, I got nothing like that. What I got was, how could you, why did you take an exam you weren't prepared for, what were you thinking, I am very very disappointed in you, how can you do that to this school-we had a 100% pass rate and you messed that up, go home study and don't take the exam until you are 100 percent comfortable and certain and if you fail again your done! So after that enormous guilt trip and me driving back home in tears (which is a long drive) I wondered and thought THANK GOD I have such a strong and wonderful bond with GOD, that's the only reason why I didn't "eat-a-gun"! Seriously, 20 minutes with her and you feel smaller than dirt, so with that said, aren't advisors, professors and nursing faculty SUPPOSE to be encouraging, a sense of guidance and helpers or I am just hallucinating and living in LA-LA land?! I have started studying again, and I can admit I messed up by taking it when I wasn't ready and extremely stressed with outside [personal] stressors. I can see some of my mistakes and cockiness with some questions. I see a recognizeable question and I'm like oh I know this without finishing the question OR looking/reading at all the choices. BIG mistake, don't do that b/c the ******** who made this exam made it tricky and purposely put two really good choices and one is actually right. One thing I can say for certain is when I pass, because I will [if it kills me], I will do everything in my power to cram it down her throat and NOT give her or the University ANY of the credit:mad:

Specializes in Nursing Professional Development.

This particular instructor sounds as if she was too harsh ... but ... it is not anyone's job (even your mother) to always say positive things to you. Sometimes, people need a good "kick in the butt." If you screwed up and did not adequately prepare, then you may have needed to hear that. Not all feedback SHOULD be positive. Sometimes, we need negative feedback to help us see our mistakes and take personal responsibility for them.

I am sorry that this instructor was overly harsh. I'm sure it wasn't necessary as you probably felt bad enough to begin with. But that's behind you now. It's time now to learn from your past mistakes and move forward. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and start preparing for the next time you take the exam. If your school offers actual assistance with NCLEX preparation, take advantage of it. Don't let your personal pride get in the way of your use of their resources.

Good luck to you.

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