Angels with a broken wing

[silverbat]

appears to be a good article

[timetoshine]

Thank you. I appreciate the critique. I also found the Spell Checker.

[neurobb67]

is their any dignity and respect for the care giver i learnt you give and you get get back from an early age.but this days you giv and giv and all you get is complaints from humans whos been taught from an early age to be curtious?????????.mostly the haredst part in dealing with this angels with broken wings is we give grace .practice code off conduct and still its not enough..we get judge an told how it is to do our job because off the google it nurse or google it doctor experience n most complaints comes from your own co workers visiting their parent or friend.. then they say you i am anurse to and this how you should this ..and that is how that should be done..so i am suppose to throw out my policies and follow wat the visitor nurse is saynig so that we dont upset her feelings....huh helppppppppppppppppppppppp???????????????????????

[timetoshine]

Sorry you are so frustrated. There are several answers that might apply to your situation. However you have not given enough information to answer your questions appropriately. Sounds like you need to talk to someone in your facility, who can evaluate the situation and help you with this problem. Good Luck.

[looking for work]

Excellent article. I posted a few responses to "nurses eating their young" . It is truly a demon in the profession and repeats itself year after year. I am hopeless when I learn that this happened to me 10 years ago, and is still happening today. If you put 5 nurses in a room with one patient, you will get 5 different assesments. This does not mean that one nurse is wrong and one is right, its just the way things are. In a precepting situation you have 2 licensed nurses with the same patient assignment. The preceptor should be there for questions and guidance, and to share knowledge. It should not be an opportunity to bash, boss and demean a fellow nurse. This seems like common sense, but it doesnt happen this way. Truly devastating.

[timetoshine]

Looking for work.- I agree. I tried to give you a Kudos but my Kudos button doesn't work. Did you read the New York Times Article? The Author validates the seriousness of the problem. Since joining AN I have come to realize it is far more widespread than I previously imagined. I have even found situations reporting from Great Britain. Sad. Very sad indeed.

[looking for work]

I just read the article and left a remark. It was a wonderful article and I am happy to have the opportunity to vent about it. This is such a problem in our profession and we all know that "only the **** survive." I read some of the comments in that article and saw patients complaining that they were bullied by a nurse. It is inconceivable how these nurses remain in their jobs. My opinion is that precepting should be eliminated entirely. When I started out, new grads could work as a GN until they passed the boards. I think that is part of the problem. RNs should be licensed as such before they start to work. Once you are licensed, you should be given your own patient assignment even if it is a small one. You should be able to ask questions to whomever you want, and get help from whomever is willing, without having a formal preceptor. In one job, there was a very nice nurse who was kind and understanding. I requested that I precept with her, because she was a pleasure to deal with. My current preceptor was a *****. I was told "she has too many personal problems" and was stuck with the nasty one. This really has to stop. BTW, I never transitioned from that job, and wound up quitting.

[timetoshine]

That's what makes it even more serious. The good ones leave or try to hang in there and often end up with health issues and the nere-do-wells stay and keep the water boiling. Sorry you had to quit but I certainly understand why you did

[nubianqu]

I am new to this site and I am finding the articles very interesting, especially the article on "Angels with broken wings" Yes we do have a few angels out there, we just have to take the time to identify them. I am an LVN currently in an Accelerated RN program, it is challenging but I have a few excellent RNs whre I work so I guess I am bless they often take me under their wings and give pointers when I get stuck with some assignments.

[timetoshine]

Welcome. AN is a good place to enrich yourself with ideas and situations I don't think you will find in the classroom. Count your blessings. I have worked with some wonderful, smart, skilled RN's who have taken me under their wing and gave me the opportunity to be the best that I could be. I have also worked with some RN's and LPN's who seemed to enjoy finding fault with everything I did. I remember as a student scurrying past the desk at the nurse's station with a wash basin filled with water, balancing a complete bed change of clean linen under my left arm, towels, wash clothes under the right and a bottle of lotion hanging off my ring finger. As I passed the desk the RN Supervisor spoke my name and I stopped dead in my tracks. Then she said, " Miss P_______, can't you say "Good Morning?". I wanted to say "Well I'm a little rushed and busy here." but instead I said, "Good Morning, Miss C______. "That's better. Don't just walk by without acknowledging your Supervisor. The least you can do is say "Good Morning.". "Yes, Mame." I was 18 and scared to death. That was my introduction to Nursing in 1953. Just never forget "Nursing is the gentle Art of Caring", and that includes your fellow nurses.

[looking for work]

I have not only seen the "horizontal" violence, but also the "verticle" where a doctor is as rude and nasty as can be, and this is also tolerated