Am I headed for disaster?

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Hello everyone, I have been reading threads here for a long time but finally decided to register since I am suppose to start my LPN classes in Aug 08.

I am SO excited and scared of school, but thats really is the least of my problems. I just wonder if I am fixing to make a HUGE mistake.

I have been married for almost 10 year and we have 2 children 6/8.

Our marriage has pretty much been a disaster from the beginning but I just kept thinking it would get better. Its not that he is abusive, mean or anything we just don't love each other and we fight constantly. But over the last couple of years I have just come to realize that there is no getting better. And so I now know in my heart that its time for me to move on and get a better life for me and the kids. Problem is that I don't work and I can't afford to leave now, so I am having to try and piece things together for another year until I get out of school. I am just not sure I can handle the stress of fighting with him, kids, and school. I am starting to question if I would be better off just not going to school and go to work somewhere and stop putting of the inevitable. Its always been my dream to become a nurse and I do plan to fullfill that dream one way or another. I am just not 100% sure this is the right time.

Sorry for venting, but I just really needed to get some of this stress off of my chest.

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Specializes in med/surg, telemetry, IV therapy, mgmt.

Can you at least stop your participation in the fighting and be roommates for the next year while you get through school?

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Can you at least stop your participation in the fighting and be roommates for the next year while you get through school?

That is the decision that my husband and I have made...It is working so far.. Great suggestion Daytonite...:up:

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I think that you should stay and get your nursing degree.....this will give you and your children a great start.....You have lived like this for 10 years, i hope that you can for 1 more year......I agree with Daytonite don't participate in the fighting......Do not let him steal your joy and going to nursing school......

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Hi EMT to LPN,

Well...yes, you can very well be heading for disaster. Get your home life/emotional life healed somehow and then jump into LVN school. Trust me, LVN school is an intense program. I just started this month in an accelerated 11-month program and it's been good but CRAZY hard!!!! The amount of studying is beyond anything I've ever done. The testing is relentless (this week we have 4 tests) and the instructors are tempermental, but I'm hanging in there with God's help & the backing of my hubby and children. (Yes, they've been much neglected by me, but are supporting me as I keep my nose in the nursing books.) I do think home life definitely has to be relatively stress-free. Count the cost because it is at least

Look to God for direction. He does perform miracles. :)

Oh, I do have dark circles under my eyes these days, but do try to get to bed by 11p.m. and up by 6a.m. I need sleep! :zzzzz

Take care, and best wishes.

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I SO understand your position! I am really sorry for what you are going through. Having been through divorce with a small (

Once my husband and I split, it was pretty much impossible for me to go to school between daycare costs and finding someone to watch them at night so I could work nights and go to school days, and I had to put my education off for 10 years, even though I wanted to go with every fiber of my being.

If you and your husband can atleast find some sort of marginally detatched truce, maybe you'll become too busy with school to fight with him, and before you know it, the year will be over.

This is all based on my personal experience, so take it as nothing more, but I would definitely take advantage of having a second parent around, if it was not an abusive situation, rather than trying to make it work on a lower salary and more responsibility, solo, if I had it to do all over again. If it was a BSN you were going for I'd question staying, but this is just 1 year, and the time will FLY by.

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