Am I Babysitting or Supervising?

Working in rural areas has its challenges, especially when working in a long term care facility in the middle of nowhere. Nurses Announcements Archive Article

Working in rural areas has its challenges, especially when working in a long term care facility in the middle of nowhere.

I was a new RN grad and full of enthusiasm, even though I was in my late thirties. As I scanned the local job listings and word of mouth jobs, I came across an ad for a Unit Manager in a small nursing home 30 miles away from my home. I thought well, it couldn't hurt to apply even though my only experience was 14 years as an LPN at that point.

I made the call and was surprised to find out it that the DON was a person I had worked with years ago, she hired me on the spot! I hadn't even taken my board exam yet. Talk about pressure!

Well, I started out fine and oriented with a great BSN who taught me a lot. It was a busy little place with a memory care unit that was always full with a waiting list a lot of the time. The facility was known for taking the "tough" patients that other facilities would not take. Somehow, they did well and the staff worked well in that area. The general area was a different story.

One of my jobs was to make out assignments for the aides, 2 to a group. Sounds pretty straight forward right? At least I thought so. I was not told of the "rules" when I made out schedules for a week. It turned out that 2 aides only worked one wing together because separately, they were the meanest pair of women you could meet! They did good patient care though. So when I tried to put them on separate wings, you would have thought that the world ended. The tough part was they didn't just bring this to my attention; they screamed and hollered like children! I calmly adjusted the schedule and told them to relax, the world was not over. Lots of grumbling went on about that for a day or two.

Next, I found out that the PM schedule was not "expectable" either by the aides' standards because I had put a female aide and a male aide together that had slept together before and now they can't work together because he will ignore her all shift. What? I have to know who slept with whom before making out the schedule. Are you serious? This type of bologna went on and on because it was allowed. But it gets worse.

Some of the PM shifts I was working in my office and noticed that several of the teenage aides took many breaks, sometimes to the point where they were outside more than working with the patients. It turns out that there were a lot of "herbal" breaks going on. I couldn't believe it; even one of the LPN's on the med carts would join them from time to time. I was blown away.

I complained, I confronted, and I wrote people up, nothing changed. The administrator would get close to the young caregivers and they would talk her into letting them get away with it. The DON was completely disconnected and couldn't confront anyone. I was so frustrated!

The last straw came when one of our patients that was completely unable to move or speak was found on the floor with a large gash in his head. Luckily, I was on that evening and heard his feeding pump beeping. I found him on the floor beside his bed; tubing pulled to the limit, drenched in sweat, probably moments away from a heart attack, in a large pool of blood. I found out that they had just done rounds and it was obvious he had been repositioned so poorly that he fell out of bed. Thank God that feeding pump went off or he would have been found dead.

I reprimanded these aides after I gathered all the information, wrote them up and gave them a 1 day suspension; I wanted to impose a more severe suspension but the administration said no. The capper was when the union rep chewed me out for "embarrassing" them in front of the other staff, and I had no proof of their negligence. I am usually a pretty calm person, but I "freaked" out on this person, reminding her of the potential liability of the facility to give good competent care to all residents and how I was tired of the behaviors that were tolerated there. Are you kidding me? 1 day off for almost causing a man to lose his life because they were too busy rushing to go on break or take the time to make sure he was safe? Good lord! I resigned.

I know that the facility has improved greatly since then, and state has watched them very carefully. I feel I learned a lot in my nursing career from that experience, and will never allow myself to get in a position such as that again. It is no wonder that there is a nursing shortage; I had an ulcer from working there not to mention anxiety like I have never felt before. I even started smoking after quitting for 16 years. Talk about getting thrown into the fire! :smokin:

Specializes in psychiatric, UR analyst, fraud, DME,MedB.

Yes, I have heard of places like this and even not in rural areas. These places are like dysfunctional families....a lot of inappropriate things allowed to happen. But when it comes to a patients well being and their life , there is no room for this. Places like this should be reported to the regulators ASAP ! This dysfunctional facilities can have their sick, incest whatever practice they are having in their own private homes , but do not bring it to work!

Closing the place down seems harsh .....but it s more harsher when the residents die from neglect! Closed facility means no jobs ..............you would think these nurse aides and DON would know better ???

You did a good thing to get out of that toxic place.......but make sure that that place are well watched by the regulators....it could mean saving some lives in the long run. :nurse:

Specializes in Psychiatric/ER/Primary Clinic/Addiction.

I had the same type of exp. WHen I graduated a family friend put me in as an RN supervisor on a 3-11 shift. I lasted 1.5 years with the following:

Aides having sex in broom closets with janitors

staff coming in high or drunk

couples fighting/love quarrels/bi-polarism/ in front of family & patients

Loud berating of patients

One aide left her purse open on the linen cart and her "pot" fell to the floor

cards and cards of narcs that just "disappear"

elder abuse (this was the last straw for me)

physical abuse to patients

administration and department heads partying and sleeping with administrators

happy hours where nurses and aides drank together and philandered with men in bars while in uniform

stolen goods/kitchen supplies/ linens/chux/patient family member's credit cards disappearing out of their jacket!

smoking breaks continuously by the repeat offenders

union threats if I mandated

verbal abuse from staff with screaming and agressiveness towards me, rumors made up about me and relayed to adm in retaliation.............I can go on and on............

Specializes in acute, critical, home, assisted, MRDD.

First of all ~ let me say that I am soooo sorry that you {or anyone} have had that experience. That would sure be a way to turn you off nursing in a hurry ! Now, I am an older nurse and have been nursing a few decades. What's the first thing you learn ? Your first responsibility is as Patient Advocate !

Everything you witnessed was deplorable. Your actions were just as they needed to be. I commend you for standing your ground. I guess the only thing I would say to have done [maybe] differently - - when you got no support or change - turn the facility in to state, but keep your position and keep trying until they fire you. That way you get unemployment and you have not abandoned your patients. (I'm sure you gave a proper resignation, so this last part may not be as crucial, but it might be construed that way otherwise.)

Now I am in a rural long term dementia care facility and the only licensed person. Any mishap or failure could tarnish my license. I teach, train and counsel a lot ! In many ways its like babysitting or being 'mama'. But I do not tolerate staff that do not care and refuse to learn - do not look after our residents in the way they should. Thankfully, I have largely a good bunch of ladies and gents. Sometimes it takes time to separate the 'wheat from the chaff' and develop a competent and caring staff. It is impossible if you don't have the format or support from administration.

I hope you have found more worthy use and place for yourself in nursing.

it sounds like something out of Nurse Jackie or a parody of British Carry-on Nursing Film. If I were you - join the ANA -its like the equivalent of the Royal College of Nursing, and the local nursing union in your state. Find yourself a new job pretty quickly, but keep a record of events. That is just terrible. Good for you for standing up for yourself and your patients. Those employees should be fired.

Specializes in psy.

I applaud you for your tenacity in your efforts and your final departure :up: my heart goes out to the patients because we are their voice and their life. If we do not have strong leaders in all facilities this will continue to happen as you know it starts from the top to trickle down to the bottom. I wish you well thoughout your carrer hopefully pulling from this experiece to help you in your next job assignment.:nurse:

Specializes in Home Health, Nursing Education.

You did the right thing.... the situation, in total, is horrible.... and I am glad you cared enough to try as hard as you did... :redbeathe

...and yes!! that was babysitting. :down:

Specializes in acute rehab, med surg, LTC, peds, home c.

Sadly, nothing in your story or the op surprised me one bit. Long term care is a very broken system. If I ran a LTC I would pay the CNAs and nurses substantially more than the going rate and only hire and keep the best of the best. I would have plenty of staff. If you make it a desirable place to work people will be less likely to jeapordize their jobs. afacility is only as good as the people staffing it.

:yeah:yeah!!!! a nurse with expectations of others!!!!! i cannot believe the ******** that goes on where i work. i am about finished with it myself!! we are supposed to be professional people- - - i have not experienced the things i have in 17 years as a nurse that i have in the past 2 years. substandard care, employees that feel that because they show up at work that that is all that is required of them. when you decide to take action the person reprimanded is you!!! screw this stuff! people tell me it is everywhere like this....not where i came from. if i could afford to re-locate right now i would go back without any regret. if only i knew.....supervisor? no babysitter! the crap i have seen should have been done with in high school. i am so disappointed with the current work ethics (or lack there-of). i cannot believe it! if i had been a hospital nurse just out of school, i would have changed my career asap. we need more professional people, and more authority to kick the losers to the curb!

Thats why its good to work in a nursing home for a short while. Those places the staff are not given training and development. I wouldnt advise any good nurse to work in these places.

Specializes in Public Health, Teaching, Geriatric, M/S.

Thanks for all the supportive responses. How sad is it that situations like this exist everywhere. In many other cultures, elderly citizens are honered and respected for all thier wisdom, why would our society treat them so disrespectfully?

I enjoy nursing, it is a part of me, and something I have passed onto my daughters. I know that there is a nursing shortage but we shouldn't tolerate abuse.

I hope we all don't find ourselves on the other end of this treatment when we are in our "Golden Years." Good luck to all of you.

Specializes in SNF.
Thats why its good to work in a nursing home for a short while. Those places the staff are not given training and development. I wouldnt advise any good nurse to work in these places.

Billie your advising all the good nurses to not work in nursing homes. So what should become of all the senior citizens in them? Should we continue to let them be taken care of by substandard staff? Who's loved one on here deserves that? Does my mother deserve to be taken care of by a pot smoking, drunk cna and nurse when they finally come back from their 15th break of the evening. Or perhaps mom deserves the one with the anger issues or the nurse who decides she dosen't feel like giving all her meds out tonight. Or let my mom be taken of by the nurse whose med card had 3 cards of narcs disappear one night.

BSN_after_40: As a nurse it is not only your ethical but your legal responsibility to report such types of occurrances. Anything less and you are just as guilty as the employees who committed the act. If you report such things to management and they fail to take appropriate action then you should take your complaints futher. If we as nurses will not advocate and speak up for our patients, who will?

Perhaps when its my mothers time she would be better off if I just floated her out to sea on an iceberg.

Well..they darned sure do happen....and in the end...nothing happens. I don't get it either. Very frustrating!