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I know this isn't a RN question, but I haven't made ne friends here @school. My concern is my Boyfriend. Yesterday he told me he was breaking up w/ me b/c I was immature @ he couldn't take it anymore (he's 4yrs younger than me). 10min. later he called&said, "I was just joking, just wanted to see whatu would do if I were to break up w/u, u really think I'm stupidenough 2break up w/u, I never want to leave u,I love u." Last night he was crying b/c he was so agitated&upset @ what he did. I know this is so insensitivebut, I don't know if the tears are real. His ex left him 2 years ago 2go2 another school &he told me yesterday that she will be transferring to our school in the RNProgram! He also said that they talk often-mostly b/c they've known each other since they were 5!! The reason they broke up is that he cheated on her @ the other school. What do I do?? How do I know that he really likes me?? I gotta go now, to spend five hours on my careplan, FUN STUFF.

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Anyone who would play games like that is the one who is immature.

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He sounds really immature and and I wouldn't waste my time on someone who wants to play games and hurt me. It also sounds like he wants to be with his ex-girlfriend. I can imagine the drama that will come up when she transfers to your school. You need to read "WMLB" and forget about him.

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What is WMLB?

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Why would hurting you be a good joke?

Sounds like hes the joke, move on to the next fish.

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Specializes in Trauma, Teaching.

So, he has a history of cheating on the person he is in a relationship with, can't break off completely from the relationship he wouldn't invest faith and trust in, and thinks playing emotional games with you is okay, while his tears seem insincere.

Sounds like you've already answered your own question. This is the best you're willing to settle for?

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Specializes in being a Credible Source.

As a guy I've often asked myself, "Why is a girl like her with a jerk like that?"

It sounds like an appropriate question in this case.

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Seriously, tell him to take a hike. No self-confident woman would ever allow a man to play with her emotions like that. It's immature and stupid. This is why when I was 19 I was dating a 34 year old---they still play *games* but they aren't usually as dopey as this joker is.

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WMLB=

I think that poster meant Why Men Love...you might be able to figure out what that last letter entails. It's where I got my 'tude from.

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Specializes in ER, ICU, Education.

Perhaps you should take a bit of time to look at your goals and how he fits in. You are trying to accomplish something (in becoming a nurse), and are willing to give up things to get there such as free time, money, and effort. I remember how limited my time was as a nursing student, and how precious those few free moments were.

Why on earth would you spend those few precious hours a week on someone who is not respectful, mature, and supportive of you? I can't help but wonder if he isn't manipulating you into putting the focus on him instead of your studies. PS- in general, I have found it true that someone who cheats on others (especially as an adult vs. as a preteen or teenager) is not someone who is respectful. A respectful and mature person breaks things off, then pursues another relationship. When I got married, someone wise told me that marriage doesn't mean both of you giving 50/50, it means both of you giving 100%. Game playing, insults, and a history of dishonesty doesn't sound like 100% to me.

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Specializes in critical care: trauma/oncology/burns.

I agree with everyone that he certainly sounds like an immature "jerk"

Ya know, Nursing school is stressfull enough. It is so easy for me to say to try to surround yourself with people who are positive and are encouraging to wards you while you are in school. Keep your head up.

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