Adoption Issues

[Priddyeyez]

I understand that adoption is an issue that L&D nurses must deal with. How frequently does a patient come into the hospital planning on placing a baby for adoption, but end up leaving with their newborn, compared to someone planning to place their baby and going through with ithe placement?

[jkaee]

Well ain't this just a dandy bit of liberal bleeding heart poor mother load of crap. The birth mother was a single mother who had been in and out of jail- not the ideal mother- and she just changed her mind and we got stuck with the hospital bills. As far as the courts are concerned- most states allow anywhere from 12months to 5 years for the birth mother, biological father, or any grandparent to "Change their minds." And yes- most of these are incubators who only care about the money!!:angryfire

I will tell you that I received absolutely nothing from the adoptive parents. They didn't even know they were getting her until the day before I left the hospital. They had exactly 24 hours to get ready for their new baby girl. Imagine having a nursery set up in your house for years, never knowing if it was ever going to be used.

It sounds like you did a private adoption. I went thru Catholic Social Services. It's a closed adoption process, but no one pays anything and no one gets anything. I don't get any updates or pictures of her. The last picture I got of her was when she was 9 months old. She turned 13 years old in July.

And by the way, the LAST thing I am is a "bleeding heart liberal" about anything.

I am so very, very sorry about what happened to you and you child. I can't imagine going thru that.

[ParasMom]

I think the whole process of letting the birth mother interact with the baby is a grave injustice to the adoptive parents!:angryfire :angryfire :angryfire My wife and I had been trying to have children for 12 years when we decided to adopt, and the hosptial had this practice of "Creating Memories". We took our daughter home and 18 MONTHS later, the sheriff showed up with papers taking OUR baby from us to give to the birth mother!:angryfire :angryfire :angryfire :angryfire :angryfire :angryfire YOU HAVE NO IDEA THE HELL WE HAVE BEEN THROUGH BECAUSE OF THIS PRACTICE

What on earth?!?!

As a birthmother, I am floored at your post! My birthdaughter's adoptive parents were chosen by me and were even in the delivery room. I kept my birthdaughter in the room with me the ENTIRE time, and while it broke my heart to hand her over, I felt that those two days together gave me closure.

Birthmothers are not incubators and until the papers are signed, that child is not yours. Had E's apars not been wonderful I might have backed out, but seeing them with her made it clear that this is how God intended it to be.

Your adoption had a fatal flaw that had nothing to do with the birthmom holding her child in the hospital. Perhaps she picked up on your attitude and decided that her child was not going to be raised by someone so hateful.

[ParasMom]

And yes- most of these are incubators who only care about the money!!:angryfire

And you think that you deserve a child? You need anger management therapy first, in my opinion. I am so glad that you are not the poster child for adoptive parents in this country.