Published Jun 7, 2012
dlsoler
1 Post
I am honestly not sure if this has been asked before, but it probably has. I am 40 years old, I've been married 20 years, and am a father of two beautiful children (11 years old and 15 months), I have a mortgage and bills bills bills! I am a manager that works nights 40 hours +/- a week. So I am pretty much established. I decided to take a U-turn at 38 and head back to school. I am just about to wrap up my Pre-Req's (9 months or so to go) and am beginning to plan ahead. I have the wonderful support of my wife and together we have spoken to many people who say working full time and going through Nursing school can be done.....but my question is, HOW??
You always hear everyone's opinion around campus about it being impossible to accomplish; that if I work, it can only be part time at Starbucks or something similar. Oh, and that I would have to move back in with my parents....LOL, yeah like that's going to happen. My parents are almost ready to move in with me!!!! These things are basically not an option for me.
I can not and will not be able to take a step back in order to acheive this goal. I would love to have some honest feedback and helpful tips in my quest to accomplish what some people claim to be the impossible.
Thank you,
D
sj20fame
81 Posts
Great question! I too would like to know? How?
leenak
980 Posts
First of all, I'd look at a way to pay off any debts that you have and try saving as much money as possible prior. Working 40 hours and going to school is probably going to be tough. I'm looking at quitting my job completely but we don't have any kids.
Does your wife work? If not, do you have family that could help with childcare? It might be better suited if your wife worked nights while you took care of the kids.
My advice would be to pay down bills, save as much money as possible and then look into federal loans.
sherri12
63 Posts
I went back to school at 42. I also have a family, house, kids, and bills. I am in my last year of a BSN program and have worked 35-40 hours the entire time and still am able to make the Dean's list every semeseter.
Paying down bills before hand? Impossible. There is no way to pay off your house before nursing school.
I am able to do it by not procrastinating and being organized. This is really all there is to it. I get my work done even before the single students who don't work. There are deadlines to getting work in and I always make sure I know what they are.
Many times when assignments are given, I will have them done that night, or by the next day even if I have a week or more to get them done. I follow the syllabus very carefully so I don't forget anything and nothing is late. You can have points taken off for late work and even 1/2 point can bring your grade down in the end.
If you can come up with a system of being organized to get your reading done and get work in on time you can do it and do it well. I find many of the older students ( like us) do it well.
Good luck!
I should've said non-mortgage bills. Any debts, car loans, etc - I'd recommend paying off prior to school if possible. My husband and I only have a mortgage so we don't have to worry about any other debts while I'm in school. My husband's income can also cover the mortgage and other monthly bills (gas, electricity, water, etc).
Also, it is possible to cut costs which I forgot to mention. We've cut our costs considerably over the past year in an effort to save money. We are generally pretty energy conscious but keeping the house a little colder in winter/bundling up and keeping the house a little warmer in summer, cutting out some of our splurge grocery items, eating out less often (we used to eat out once a week, now it is closer to 1-2 times/month), I quit my gym membership and workout at home, etc.
I forgot to mention, if you have a higher than 5% mortgage, definitely look into refinancing. We recently refinanced and we could've reduced our monthly payments by $500 but we instead decided to shorten the mortgage and are now at 3.5%. Overall, it'll be a large cost savings.
Stephalump
2,723 Posts
We did the same thing. - got out of debt before I went back to school. No credit cards, no car payments, paid off his outstanding traffic tickets (sad way to spend money). All we're left with are our mortgage and perpetual living expenses like electricity and insurance. And a few extra things we can cancel easily if we need to, like cable and my gym membership.
I've always been a stay at home mom, so we aren't losing an income, but putting 3 kids in full time daycare was a $1000 expense we couldn't plop on top of our bills overnight.
Yes, it took time and planning and patience. But I wanted to be sure I could have adequate time with my family and still be able to make grad school worthy grades - two things that would be crazy difficult if I had to work/stress about money. It was hard postponing what I wanted to do, but now that I'm in NS I'm super happy I did.