Hello, all you amazing nurse people!! I am new to allnurses.com and I apologize if my question is absolutely redundant--your patience is very much appreciated! :) I was going through many threads that dealt with answering questions concerning relationships and nursing school and, well, I've got myself a little bit of an issue having to do with just that: a great 2-year (and going strong!) relationship with a fantastic guy and being accepted into an accelerated 15-month nursing program that's across the country! Oh dear. AND there is a financial factor, as well. Any input would be absolutely appreciated, so here goes my little dilemma:
I've applied to a few accelerated nursing programs: Denver College of Nursing in Colorado (that's where I live right now), the University of Southern Maine, and the University of Rochester. I've had my interview with Rochester already, but they do not let people know of their acceptance/rejection until November. Denver will not notify people until around March 2009. I HAVE been accepted (by the grace of God) into Southern Maine's program, which begins Fall 2008!
My lovely boyfriend will be attending college in New York this Fall for Accounting. Right now, a part of me wants to move out there with him and pass up the opportunity to attend Southern Maine, so that I can help him financially and we can be together. I would work and wait to hear back from Rochester, but that sounds awfully risky, doesn't it? Yet, at the same time, I'd have a chance to save some money and look for scholarships/grants. (I've missed a lot of the deadlines for funds being awarded for this Fall.) Does this option sound sensible? I can't decide.
The alternative: move to Maine, do the long-distance relationship thing, and ask my father for FINANCIAL help (as far as paying my rent goes). I've got a private loan and the Stafford loan waiting for me. However, I know my father will "hold this over my head" for awhile (that's the type of person he is, unfortunately). The private loan won't cover all my living costs, which is why I need his help. Of course, I would pay him back, but he HOLDS things against his own children and treats me like an idiot for asking if he'd be willing to help me out for the meantime. For some reason, that's just the way he is. I'm not sure I'll ever understand him. I know he would help, though. It's just the whole, "Julie, why can't you be more like you cousins and have a good job? Nursing is dirty," thing that's been annoying me for quite some time now. He's really not proud of me because I am not going to law school, med school, blah blah blah. Oh yeah, and because I'm not a boy.
Should i suck it up and put up with my dad complaining about how worthless he thinks I am and go to nursing school in Maine? Or would it make more sense to break away from my father, pass up Maine, and move to NY with my boyfriend, work, save, and risk not getting into Rochester? If I don't get into Rochester, I'd just have to start the application process all over again because, deep down, I know I want to be a kick-ass, hardworking nurse. At the same time, I know nursing school has become incredibly competitive and having just been accepted into Maine was a blessing.
any advice/input that I can get would be awesomely appreciated. Thanks. :wink2:
