A friend of many years told me that she is addicted to Dilaudid. I am glad that she asked for help before taking meds from patients -or getting caught pocketing waste. This makes her process much less complicated.
Hey!
I do hope you will appreciate my candor…
I want to extend my thanks to the 45 people who viewed my prior message and responded with NOTHING.
It’s sort of like the woman who screams for help out her window because something horrible is happening to her, but everyone in ear shot just assumes that someone else is helping. Later they find her in pieces all over her kitchen.
So, with the benefit of doubt in mind, perhaps some may like to know that my friend is in a rehabilitation center now. Please think hopeful thoughts for her recovery. cheers
I think some people read posts like this and don't feel qualified to give a "correct" response that will be helpful -- so they don't respond at all (hoping someone else will say something helpful.) I don't know if there is much to say that helps, but after watching my son struggle with alcohol for years, I know how painful it is and how hard it was to regain trust that he would remain sober and be truthful. He has been sober for over 2 years now -- and is a completely different person. (Thank God!)
It is very difficult to trust someone again when they are struggling with an addiction. If they are truly in recovery, they will understand... up to a point. After three months of sobriety, I would keep my eyes open, but be willing to take a leap of faith and expect the best. It's also more supportive for her success at this point. You don't have to feel it -- just fake it and trust will come in time. (Or she'll blow it -- but at least she won't be blowing it because she believes she can't win anyway.)
My prayers are with you both.
Thank you for sharing your experience with your son. I am so relieved knowing that you can trust him again. I really needed to hear that. I will give faith a chance. I won't ever give up on her.
Thank you so much and bless you and your son also.
I think thats part of it. Also, you can't really blame people for a lack of response when you simply posted a statement with no question and no request for advice.
Yes, this is true. I appreciate your response.
My partial post now was initially quite dramatic and full of questions. I changed it after being up all night distraught. Somehow reverting to my post-adolescent idealistic phase seemed right at the time. I have since managed to forgive myself and hope you will too. I realize this is not a self help group!
That said, I cannot help but reflect back to August when I wrote what I did. I am grateful for those who heard me despite my pathetic delivery. The responses I have received have given me new perspective and hope. This is priceless to me.
My partial post now was initially quite dramatic and full of questions. I changed it after being up all night distraught. Somehow reverting to my post-adolescent idealistic phase seemed right at the time. I have since managed to forgive myself and hope you will too. I realize this is not a self help group!
That said, I cannot help but reflect back to August when I wrote what I did. I am grateful for those who heard me despite my pathetic delivery. The responses I have received have given me new perspective and hope. This is priceless to me.
cheers
Aww, see, thats what I hate about written corresponence....I always sound so cold and uncaring [i think its just part of my writing style]....really, there's no need to beat yourself up over it, I was just saying that the lack of responses isn't neccessarily because people don't care. It's perfectly understandable that facing such a tough issue involving a close friend would have you in a state of distress. For the record, I really do hope your friend is successfully on the road to recovery, as I wouldn't wish an addiction of any kind on anyone. Best of luck to both of you in the future.
Aww, see, thats what I hate about written corresponence....I always sound so cold and uncaring [i think its just part of my writing style]....really, there's no need to beat yourself up over it, I was just saying that the lack of responses isn't neccessarily because people don't care. It's perfectly understandable that facing such a tough issue involving a close friend would have you in a state of distress. For the record, I really do hope your friend is successfully on the road to recovery, as I wouldn't wish an addiction of any kind on anyone. Best of luck to both of you in the future.
Believe me, semantics is a subject I find similar to life; it differs depending on the context from which is it viewed. I have also had a tendency toward sounding uncaring in text. Not to mention I am also long winded & I type fast- which at times has come across like a sermon rather than a reflection...
Anyhow, I actually didn't think you sounded cold or uncaring. To the contrary, I think you and others have supported me to have a look at asking questions that allow others to help me. I see this as some very helpful and objective advice. The reason I chose to bring this up in this forum to begin with is because I have seen the abundance of caring and knowledge from people here. The last thing I want to do is nothing!
I will work on not to beating myself up. However, I am enjoying a good laugh at my behavior. I'm sure this won't be that last time I amuse myself.
Thank you for the luck -we need it. And thank you for you!
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Thank you for sharing your experience with your son. I am so relieved knowing that you can trust him again. I really needed to hear that. I will give faith a chance. I won't ever give up on her.
Thank you so much and bless you and your son also.
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