fed up with the families

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I just nees to vent. I'm so fed up with the families in private duty nursing. Reasons why include:

It seems a lot of families,esp the mothers, are looking for friends instead of nurses. You could do everything right but if another nurse,esp a bad one, oversteps her bounds and comes dropping in on my shift to see the familiy on her days off,she gets the praise.

2.families lpreferring other nurses because they share the same ethnicity and language.

3.families that want you to do other things not on the 485 like give meds not on it.(I don't mind doing laundry)

4.families with boat loads of junk on the floor and don't know what a clean home is.

5. Families that really don't need a nurse but but need a babysitter.

6.agencies that send you to dangerous places without a heads up. At least let me know iso I can take precautions.

7.I don't know why families compare the way we do things. I might do things a certain way and nurse whatever does it another way but we reach the same results.

Families with unrealistic expectations. For instance some on the night shift(7pm to 7am) just want you to be in a room with the client and have no tv and don't want you to use your laptops or phones.

I thought I finally found a nursing field I like 6 years ago,but now its changed,and I'm starting to feel awkward around the families. I hope I'm not burned out from this.

Thanx for letting me vent.

Specializes in private-duty, hospital, LTC, clinic.

If you had a child, wouldn't you somehow check in as well ? When I'm out of town for a couple of days I call my 19 yr. old to check in :)

Mom was out of town. Dad was in town and staying at the house. He was at work during the day.

OK. I think I have finally figured it out. She must have had a "bad nurse" in the past. I think maybe due to past experiences, that she has become paranoid. OK, I can deal with it.:D

Some of them carry checking up on their children too far. Every five minutes so that they can berate the nurse and criticize how s/he does anything is not necessary and will cause all but the most desperate for employment nurses to eventually leave of their own accord. If you are already in the room every five minutes then why is it necessary to install the cameras and make snide comments to the nurses as to their "necessity"? At some point the nurse will realize that a measure of mental illness is present. The agency never deals with this for eight hours at a time or 40 hours in a week, so they do not care.

Yes, caliotter 3 that is so true!!!! I will never forget when I went to a different patient's home to get a quick orientation. I was so shocked!!!:eek: The mother did indeed come into the patient's room constantly while the other nurse was training me. She was so nasty and hateful towards that nurse accusing her of not doing this and that. I couldn't believe it!!!! That nurse must have been totally desperate to put up with that non-stop verbal abuse. I was so glad to get out of that house alive. I told my agency that I would never ever be available for that case.

Specializes in Hospice / Ambulatory Clinic.
OK. I think I have finally figured it out. She must have had a "bad nurse" in the past. I think maybe due to past experiences, that she has become paranoid. OK, I can deal with it.:D

Oh come on sometimes in the parent's eyes we are all bad.

Oh come on sometimes in the parent's eyes we are all bad.

Or we are the means to the end for them to make big bucks in the lawsuit they are planning. Some of them are so arrogant as to tell the nurses about their plans to sue. My last client actually did this, not once, but several times.

Specializes in Hospice / Ambulatory Clinic.

On my long term cases I was chit chating to the mother and casually mentioned how I hear about one family that tried to sue the agency and then got blacklisted and couldn't get any agency to send them nurses.

These families really do think we are "rich" Mom used to comment about how nice it must be to buy whatever I want.

OMG!!!! :eek:. So they actually tell you they are going to sue!!!!Yikes. Yes, maybe all of the parents think we are all bad since we are not perfect like they are? :confused:

tothepointeLVN

It is true that there are families that can no longer get an agency in town to service them because they have gone through all the agencies and have alienated enough nurses in the nursing community that no nurse will work for them. I worked on such a case where I used to live. The family was forced to place the child in an institution. Our agency was the last one that would deal with them. In the nine years of using nursing care they had gone through 12 or 13 agencies. I always have this little talk with parents at the beginning of the case when I inform them that they have the right to have any nurse in their home that they feel comfortable with but they need to keep in mind that there are only so many nurses available at any given agency.

Specializes in med-surg, teaching, cardiac, priv. duty.
On my long term cases I was chit chating to the mother and casually mentioned how I hear about one family that tried to sue the agency and then got blacklisted and couldn't get any agency to send them nurses.

These families really do think we are "rich" Mom used to comment about how nice it must be to buy whatever I want.

I got similar comments from one mother about how much money we make!! Yeah right! Private duty nursing was the lowest paid nursing job I ever had.

I think one "problem" is the paperwork the family signs. I saw the yellow copies of the contract one family signed with the agency and it listed the medicaid reimbursement pay for the RN as 30-something an hour. (Can't remember the exact amount anymore. But I am thinking it was $32). Family must think we actually get that! I made $20/hour. And there were NO benefits at all.

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