Don't want to use my supervisor as a reference so not sure what to do

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I'm currently in the process of applying for nursing school and I'm having a difficult time with the reference. Luckily the program I'm applying for is only asking for one reference, however, they want one from a Supervisor or professor. It specifies no co-workers, clergy, friends, family, etc.

My issue is I graduated from college 10 years ago so all of those relationships are gone. I have gone back and taken pre-requisites but those have all been completed online.

I am enrolling in another evening class that will be in person this next semester to hopefully alleviate this problem in case this doesn't work out so I can have a current academic reference.

However, the deadline for this reference is that it must be submitted and received no later than February 28th so that wont really work for the time frame.

I have been in my current job for 4 years. I do a good job and was designated as a mentor specifically to train new people so I know my supervisor has confidence in me. However, the turnover rate at my job is very high. When I first started it was 18 months and currently it is less than 12 months. I am very concerned about asking my supervisor for a reference. I am concerned that there is a possibility that potentially she would not provide me a good reference in an attempt to prevent me from leaving (Her train of thought being - If I don't go leave to go to nursing school where will I go?). I've seen this happen to other people in the agency I work for and currently they are in desperate need of experienced workers.

But even if she was willing to supply me with a positive reference I fear the consequences of how I would be treated until I would leave to start school (which if I started in August I would be there until at least early July) because I've also witnessed others have a hard time once people know they will be leaving.

My job requires a lot of involvement with the District Attorney's Office and Law Enforcement and we work in conjunction on a lot of cases together. I know that several of the officers I have worked with regularly and attorneys I have worked with could speak about my work ethic, etc. I also know a couple that would be willing to write me the letter and be discrete about it. Do you think that would potentially be an acceptable substitute?

My prior work experience has been abroad and contacting those former employers is not really an option as one I can't reach and the other two have retired and I don't know where to locate them.

Any other suggestions?

Specializes in Prior military RN/current ICU RN..

Stop living in fear. Just do what you need to do. If they are rude to you after you ask oh well. You are going to be a nurse. Be polite and work your rear off and things will be ok. Just ask them for what you need. It is your life not theirs. If they want to give you a hard time for wanting to better your life than not much you can do about that anyway.

Specializes in PACU.

Honestly, think about you not them. What they need to realize is whether or not they give you a good reference, you will eventually be leaving them for nursing no matter what. That is your endgame, and should they choose to give you a bad reference to entice you to stay, it will fail. Make them realize that.

I agree with beachyrn2be, you are going to go to nursing school no matter what. If you supervisor has the cofidence in you to train others, than a reference letter should not be an issue. Do they have any idea that you're in school/plan to pursue a nursing degree? Just ask them for a reference, I don't think they will let you go for asking for a letter! If you don't want to do that then try to reach out to some of your old college professors and see if they will write you one, never hurts to ask!

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