How do you develop thick skin? - page 3

This is a question for all. I've been told many times that you need to have thick skin to work in the OR and you can't take things personal. Ok so i was wondering how do you develop thick skin and... Read More

  1. by   nurseontheloose
    it has been hard for me to develop thick skin. Most of the time, i let people, scrubs, rn and crna and md to treat me like a door mat. my theory is, i let them say whatever they want to say, but i still go about doing things my own way. not to good for the pschy, but it is the only way i know to cope. i need help standing up for my self, anyone with sugestions?
  2. by   ortess1971
    Quote from nurseontheloose
    it has been hard for me to develop thick skin. Most of the time, i let people, scrubs, rn and crna and md to treat me like a door mat. my theory is, i let them say whatever they want to say, but i still go about doing things my own way. not to good for the pschy, but it is the only way i know to cope. i need help standing up for my self, anyone with sugestions?
    The OR I'm in now is pretty good for the most part. But I think I also was pretty tough when I got there because prior to that, I worked in a real jungle of an OR. People would sabotage equipment, make up ugly and hurtful rumors about each other etc. I got NO encouragement about nursing school-as a matter of fact, I overheard 2 techs say that I'd probably flunk out anyway!:angryfire This wasn't the docs, it was the staff. As much as it sucked to work there, it made me so strong. I think some of these people figure if they can't drive you to cry(or drink LOL) then you must be OK. They backed off eventually. I've found that confronting them right there and then about eye rolling etc seems to work the best. Stay calm when you do it and use a professional, calm manner. Something along the lines of, "you seem upset about something" or "Is there anything you'd like to discuss with me". The nicer you are, the more you make them look like a real jerk. I know, it's scary at first but you've got to nip it in the bud right away.
  3. by   RNOTODAY
    Quote from ortess1971
    The OR I'm in now is pretty good for the most part. But I think I also was pretty tough when I got there because prior to that, I worked in a real jungle of an OR. People would sabotage equipment, make up ugly and hurtful rumors about each other etc. I got NO encouragement about nursing school-as a matter of fact, I overheard 2 techs say that I'd probably flunk out anyway!:angryfire This wasn't the docs, it was the staff. As much as it sucked to work there, it made me so strong. I think some of these people figure if they can't drive you to cry(or drink LOL) then you must be OK. They backed off eventually. I've found that confronting them right there and then about eye rolling etc seems to work the best. Stay calm when you do it and use a professional, calm manner. Something along the lines of, "you seem upset about something" or "Is there anything you'd like to discuss with me". The nicer you are, the more you make them look like a real jerk. I know, it's scary at first but you've got to nip it in the bud right away.
    tess, did you work in another facility in the same state?
  4. by   ortess1971
    Quote from RNOTODAY
    tess, did you work in another facility in the same state?
    Yes. I've tried to block those 2 years out..The therapy is helping!(Just kidding..)
  5. by   RNOTODAY
    Quote from ortess1971
    Yes. I've tried to block those 2 years out..The therapy is helping!(Just kidding..)
    I think we live in the same state, quahog land? lol
    and I possibly currently work in that same facility.......
  6. by   ortess1971
    Quote from RNOTODAY
    I think we live in the same state, quahog land? lol
    and I possibly currently work in that same facility.......
    It's certainly possible, although for a small state, we have a lot of tough OR's. And you can't even have the satisfaction of telling these people off when/if you leave because you'll probably run into them again at some point! Hang in there!
  7. by   RNOTODAY
    Quote from ortess1971
    It's certainly possible, although for a small state, we have a lot of tough OR's. And you can't even have the satisfaction of telling these people off when/if you leave because you'll probably run into them again at some point! Hang in there!
    I see them in my sleep..........
    Really, though, I guess all OR's are like this, or it certainly isnt uncommon.
    Actually, I heard, some of the other hospitals besides where I work in the state arent that bad, but who really knows, the OR is a whole new world to me, so I never payed attention.
  8. by   ortess1971
    RNOTODAY, I think i've figured out where you work! I've never worked there, but I did my last semester of clinicals there and have known people that have worked there...The place I worked was pretty toxic though, and the sad thing was, it wasn't everybody, just a few very bad apples. I think all ORs have strong personalities but some have a large number of evil people working there! That's the only word for some of these individuals, EVIL Management needs to step in, and if you have a weak manager, these people run rampant, making everyone else miserable...Get your experience, hold your head high, and when a better job comes along, take it..
  9. by   RNOTODAY
    Quote from ortess1971
    RNOTODAY, I think i've figured out where you work! I've never worked there, but I did my last semester of clinicals there and have known people that have worked there...The place I worked was pretty toxic though, and the sad thing was, it wasn't everybody, just a few very bad apples. I think all ORs have strong personalities but some have a large number of evil people working there! That's the only word for some of these individuals, EVIL Management needs to step in, and if you have a weak manager, these people run rampant, making everyone else miserable...Get your experience, hold your head high, and when a better job comes along, take it..

    LOL What a small world Weak management? We didnt even HAVE real management, so they tell us, until the last 8 months or so.... They brought in a traveling clinical manager, yes, a traveling , clinical manager. He was who hired my group, and implemented our orientation program. everybody there hated him. (and therefore, us, who were his "products") Now, yes, we officially have weak spineless mgmnt. Just got an educator, though, so thats a good thing!!! They were without one for a couple years.
    When I get experienced, I plan to leave. But I am unfamiliar with OR job opportunities around here. Like, whats the best place to work at, what experience I need, etc.

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