I am a pre nursing student (mother of 2). I would love to be in L&D. My problem is this: I cry for every birth I see. I'm getting better with it (just tearing up), but to me the whole experience is very moving, and I get emotional. I can be pretty "clinical" about stuff, but I feel that life is a gift and at the same time I feel incredibly lucky/blessed to have given birth with problem-free pregnancies to two perfect children.
Now, a good friend of mine is pregnant for the 3rd time. Her 2nd child was full term. She went in for an induction but had to have an emergency c section due to no FHT. They were there the day before but the baby's cord was twice around neck and once around chest. He passed. I had no idea how to comfort her. When last we spoke she was going in to have her baby boy. I checked in on the family 12 hours later to find out the baby had died. Needless to say I was devastated. She is pregnant again and due soon. We are all holding our breaths. How do you all deal with this?
On a sidenote, a good friend of mine is dealing with a parent w/ cancer. We are in our late 20's so our parents are relatively young. Her father has a laryngeal tumor and is slowly suffocating. He has refused medical treatment and it's just a matter of time. He has had several heart to hearts with his daughter (my friend) regarding the strong probability that he will take his own life when it becomes unbearable for him to live. It is very sad and she is struggling emotionally. She lives w/ & takes care of him. I have no idea (once again) how to comfort my friend. I want to be a nurse. I am anxiety-ridden waiting on acceptance letters for this fall, but I'm afraid that when the time comes I will not know how to act. I just try to be a listening ear and to be a presence that brings my friends smiles. I try to bring them things that will make them forget their pain for a moment. I have a BS in Psychology, but I never wanted to be a counselor b/c this sort of thing makes me uncomfortable, but I have buried at least a dozen loved ones and half as many my age due to car accidents or drug related deaths. I feel their loss tremendously and I am very sensitive to overwhelming grief of some people. I just want to give them a hug and tell them this will all be ok, but how can I do that and come home to my perfect children, family, etc? I would love some advice or possibly some direction into where I can better prepare myself to respond to the poor souls who have to deal with these losses. I wish all pregnancies and childbirths were like mine, but after reading the posts here and knowing of some in real life, I know they cannot all be textbook.