Need Input from the Pros - page 3

First, let me just say that over the last few weeks I've developed a profound appreciation for what nurses do on a daily basis. Whatever your are paid is not enough and all of you are deserving of... Read More

  1. by   CardioTrans
    I have been following your posts and am so happy to hear things are looking better. Keep us updated!
  2. by   StressedDad2Be
    30 weeks, 1 day, and counting...

    Mom-to-be is still upbeat but, understandably, the stress of being on bedrest is starting to take its toll. Being at home has helped us a lot but I'd be going out of my mind by now if I were her. There's only so many DVDs, reading, TV, and web-surfing you can do when you're on your back. Having her mom stay with us has been a Godsend. And I know she misses going to work since she's been doing a fair bit of telecommuting from our bedroom.

    From the medical journals I've been reading online, 30 weeks was a major milestone with survival rates over 90% and the risk of a major disability beginning to approach that of a term-infant, although minor disabilities apparently are still fairly likely until week 34 as is an NICU stay of some length.

    On a side note, I would like to send the L&D nurses something to show our appreciation for the personal attention given to both my wife and I during her 5 week stay. Any suggestions? Would a letter copied to the hospital admin be a good idea?
  3. by   SmilingBluEyes
    woohoo 30 weeks is HUGE! Way to go! Keep up the wonderful work. I am very encouraged by all of this. Things are looking better each day. Thanks for the update.
  4. by   Jolie
    Quote from StressedDad2Be
    30 weeks, 1 day, and counting...

    Mom-to-be is still upbeat but, understandably, the stress of being on bedrest is starting to take its toll. Being at home has helped us a lot but I'd be going out of my mind by now if I were her. There's only so many DVDs, reading, TV, and web-surfing you can do when you're on your back. Having her mom stay with us has been a Godsend. And I know she misses going to work since she's been doing a fair bit of telecommuting from our bedroom.

    From the medical journals I've been reading online, 30 weeks was a major milestone with survival rates over 90% and the risk of a major disability beginning to approach that of a term-infant, although minor disabilities apparently are still fairly likely until week 34 as is an NICU stay of some length.

    On a side note, I would like to send the L&D nurses something to show our appreciation for the personal attention given to both my wife and I during her 5 week stay. Any suggestions? Would a letter copied to the hospital admin be a good idea?

    Absolutely!!! Let the "powers that be" know how appreciative you are!!! (Food is also good!)

    As a nurse, it is also nice to receive a hand written note of thanks. I have a little book where I've kept every one from 11 years in nursing.

    I was a frequent flier with both of my pregnancies, spending many weeks in the hospital, especially with my oldest. Unbeknownst to me, the nurses planned a baby shower, including a hand-made quilt crafted by my usual night shift nurse. The doctor, also unaware of the nurses' plans, came in one Friday and told me I could go home on a trial of new meds. The nurses had a fit, and made him change his orders, because the quilt was not yet ready. He gave me a lame excuse about needing another U/S which couldn't be scheduled until the next day. The gave the nurse the night off to finish the quilt, and had my party the next day. Never did have the U/s. I'll never forget their kindness, and still keep the quilt on our rocking chair, even though my "baby" is now 10 years old!

    Continued best wishes!
  5. by   CardioTrans
    One more day or week marked off on the calendar.

    A letter to administration as well as to the nurses would be a great idea. Nothing like showing the higher ups what a great job their staff does, as well as showing the staff that you think enough of them to brag on them!
  6. by   maire
    I have been following this thread, and your last post has me smiling. Many continuing prayers and best wishes for you and your (growing) family!
  7. by   KRVRN
    I have been following this thread too. Congrats on reaching 30 weeks! Hang in there for the rest!

    A letter of appreciation to admin is a good idea. And like another poster said, food is always well-received too. Candy, chips and dip, veggies and dip, cake, doughnuts, bagels, etc. Just about any kind of food will get eaten! As a gentle reminder, you might give more than one set of goodies to catch day shift AND night shift! And put a note on it too so they all know who it's from!
  8. by   StressedDad2Be
    A routine doctor's appointment and another week down. Now at 31w2d.

    Doctor happy with how things are proceeding - she decided against an internal check believing the value of what could be learned wasn't worth the risk of stirring things up. We have an ultrasound scheduled with the high risk specialist in 2 weeks, then (I believe) just normal follow-ups. Still on strict bedrest at home until week...uhh, 35 maybe? 36? Don't recall. Doctor told us she wants my wife up and moving around by then and would clear her to go back to working at her office instead of from bed if she so chose.

    I think we may be moving into uncharted territory now. Our doctors were all quite optimistic that we'd get to 32 weeks but are no longer willing to say how much further we may go beyond that. The primary doctor isn't ruling out full term based on ultrasound results from two weeks ago but she's no longer willling to commit to X number of weeks going forward.

    We're a a long way from the stress and fear the night we went in at 24w0d.

    Not out of the woods yet, but another few weeks and, based on my online research, I think we may be nearly free and clear.
  9. by   Jolie
    Big cheers going up!!!

    Good work, Mom and Dad!
  10. by   canoehead
    Wonderful!

    My sister had a 28weeker a couple of months ago, the worry and concern was at times overwhelming, and nothing we could do that would help. When she did have the baby she was ready to take the blame for every problem and spent days crying when the docs told her about possible severe mental retardation. The baby turned out to be fine (above average in my opinion ) If anything at all goes wrong make sure your wife knows that she needs to take more credit than blame, for surely if she hadn't cared for herself things would not have turned out so well.

    After 34 weeks...well some babies are mature enough to go home on schedule with mom, but need extra TLC and attentiveness from mom and dad for a few months. We consider 36 weeks to be term and low risk at my hospital, so you only have a short way to go.
  11. by   SmilingBluEyes
    Things look better everyday. Thank you for being so kind to keep us updated. Soon, very soon, you will be holding that precious little person who gave you so much to worry about!
  12. by   sparkyRN
    Dear Dad,
    Thank you for sharing your progress with us. The nurses on this thread have given you excellent support and advice as have your doctors and caregivers. I'm a 20 year NICU vet and there's not much left for me to add. Care has improved so much for preterm babies now that you can be comforted in the thought that everything can and will be done to give your little girl the best outcome possible. I pray that you and your wife will be blessed with a healthy daughter.
  13. by   StressedDad2Be
    I hope I'm not boring anyone by now with weekly updates.

    We're now at 32w1d and the little one is on a nightly routine of kicking mommy as hard as possible between 9pm and 11pm before tuckering herself out for the night. Not sure if there's fetal response at this point or not to voices on the outside, but she seems to kick less when I'm talking to my wife's stomach. Actually, she did manage to kick me in the face a few nights ago so she may find it annoying for all I know....

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