My latest vent about my pregnant SIL

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My dear SIL is 33 weeks pregnant and has been having preterm labor since 28 weeks. She is very non-compliant. She quit taking her meds at about week 29, and was on strict bedrest with BRP for a few weeks and then was given permission to return to work 20 hours a week and then be on bedrest at home. She has not been following doctor's orders. Well, a few days ago, she told me that now that she is at week 33, she is ready to have the baby. She is very active now and has said if she goes into preterm again, she is going to let it progress. Her reasoning? Baby has a very good survival rate now and she is tired of pregnancy, and doesn't want to get fat. She has said that if she actually does progress in her pregnancy, she will take castor oil well before her due date. This just gets my panties in a bunch!

:( . I don't know what else I can tell her to change her attitude regarding this pregnancy. Ok, vent done. Thanks all.

Prmenurse. You know, I have thought of that myself. I wonder every day what goes on in her head with this one. She is very anti abortion, and she actually thought of it for a split second with this one.

She is not enthused about this pregnancy (ya couldn't guess guys, could ya!). And I have to admit, I don't blame her. When pregnant with my second, I was p*ssed at the timing, but I still did what I had to do. Today, I think that maybe she wants to have this baby early and get her out because she is the brunt of the gossip lately. That belly is just a constant reminder to everyone that she is preggers with another woman's husband (difficult situation since the three of them work in the same building) Tomorrow, I will come up with another theory. Well, no real vent today cause I am so friggin tired.

Good news, she is almost to 34 weeks. If she can go two more weeks, I will be happy and not be freaking out so much over here.

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Specializes in cardiac, diabetes, OB/GYN.

Social services consult, anonymously of course....I always try to remind people taking care of the baby in utero is the first thing they get to do to be mommies...If she isn't willing to take the safety of her infant into consideration over her own cosmetic interests, it might be interesting to see what sort of mom she will be...What does her husband think of all this?

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Specializes in cardiac, diabetes, OB/GYN.

OOps just read the above post..Sorry, didn't know the situation...Sounds pretty icky...

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[begged her a few days ago to at least wait until week 35 before she starts in with her own interventions: castor oil).

I hate it when women take castor oil to induce labor. They poop all over the place every time they push.

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Specializes in NICU.

Does castor oil actually induce labor?

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Kimmi

Please as a mother of a premi please please please beg your lovely ??????SIL to wait. It is heart breaking--- the worry and waiting to check that everything is OK. My daughter is now 13 and yes she is OK but there has been a price!!!!!

With love to you

j;)

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Originally posted by KRVRN

Does castor oil actually induce labor?

In my experience, no, it doesn't induce labor but it does give them one seriously wicked case of the runs...

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Update on pregnant SIL. She is now at week 36 and guess where she is at as I type, at the hospital. She started having contractions on Friday and was 35.5 weeks. She was very excited, and I was still concerned about this. She has done what she could to go into labor early, and it failed. She is currently dilated to 4.5 cm and 80% effaced. She switched doctors because her OB wouldn't break her bag of waters, but the new NP she switched to used to be a NICU nurse and WILL not help her along, but this NP is way more therapeutic than her OB and went into a lot more detail about risks and so forth. She is being discharged today because her contractions stopped and she is feeling very discouraged. I feel for her because I remember how miserable I was in pregnancy, but her NP said they only wanted that baby to stay inside for one more week and then they wouldn't try to stop the labor. Another concern of mine is that she has only gained 8 friggin pounds. Baby is growing, and all, but I am thinking her stores are probably very depleted by now and she is going to breastfeed. BTW, she is not a big girl, but average, so of course, I had to give her a hard time about her weight gain.

As for castor oil....this is what sent us to the hospital on Friday in the first place. It got her contractions going, but then it stopped...stupid....stupid...stupid...

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Specializes in cardiac, diabetes, OB/GYN.

Interesting to me that someone who apparently doesn't appear overly concerned about the health of her infant, would choose to breast feed. Kind of oxymoronish, isn't it?

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I thought the EXACT same thing mother/baby.

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Specializes in ER.

Possibly more of the just plain moronishness...;)

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Specializes in Specializes in L/D, newborn, GYN, LTC, Dialysis.

not oxymoronish....not plain MORON would do. UGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH why do i torture myself?

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