HELP!!! Just had my eval from admin.
- 0Sep 19, '07 by OPCCI was told in my eval that I have a perfectionist personality and that it may iritate others. YES - I do have an (anal) personality but it has served my patients well. Either it is done right and in the best interest of my patient or I will stand tall and take the heat until it is right. It upsets me when I see how accountability in nursing has slipped over the years. It seems alot of people have the "I, Me, or that is good enough, or let the next person worry about it".
I am to the point of thinking about changing jobs because of these feelings. I have worked for the same facility for 23 years and always get high evals as well as very good support from the providers.
Am I getting too old for nursing??
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- 1Sep 19, '07 by traumaRUs AdminI think you are an asset to nursing - please don't leave! Can you ask for specific examples as to how your personality has irritated others? With that in hand, you can better figure a corrective action plan.
I know that I want things done right and when they aren't I take it personally. Lately, I try to divorce myself from the action of others. If it does the job and doesn't result in patient harm, then I leave it. If however, it impacts pt care, then I try to redirect the person and educate them as to the importance of their actions.
Hang in there.
- 3Sep 19, '07 by classicdame GuideThings being done right and being perfect are not the same. If you are overdoing it you might make other people uncomfortable. If you insist your way is the only way, that makes you seem like a smart aleck. And if you are vocal about things not being done right by others, that makes you seem less than a team player and a little less confident. I know, because I have done all these things. I am learning to let go and allow people to make mistakes and allow MYSELF to make mistakes. Hope you find some peace with this. Good luck.
- 2Sep 19, '07 by adriftyou are definately an asset!
just think if you were slap happy, and didn't do the job right, and didn't guide the staff, then they would NOT respect you.
i have been 22 yrs. in geriatric nursing as a supervisor, for 5 cna's and had 43 patients. I always , always was the way you are, and for this, when i left the facility, those that didn't like me, for what i was always on their backs to correct, completely saw what the next LPN was like, and did NOT respect her as they did me...they pleaded for me to return!
i am 59!
so there you go, either do it right, or don't do it at all...i believe that every patient should be treated like their staff's own "parent" or how they would like to be treated ...with dignity, respect and given the utmost top care!
from a canadian nurse ;o)
- 2Sep 19, '07 by llg GuideIt's one thing to have high standareds ... and another thing to have the "people skills" to help other people do their best. Those are 2 separate things.
Knowing how to work with people to inspire and support them to do their best requires a different set of skills (social skills) that you can learn just as you can learn technical skills and/or knowledge about diseaseas, etc. Take the feedback as an indication that you need to work on those skills and go out and find some resources to help you acquire them.
- 2Jul 11, '08 by embarrasingfieldIts my opinion that Nursing overall has a very low incidence of Professionalism.
Women in general can be back-stabbers but for some reason, nurses can be the worst about this. I have been a nurse nineteen years and worked in many different areas of nursing. I have stories upon stories of silly, jealous retaliations and such. And all the threats about losing ones license; seems to be some sort of Nursing Mantra. What other profession goes around screaming to each other about their licenses??
As you can probably glean, I am not staying in Nursing. I am not burnt out on patient care. I'm burnt out on all the rest, and the worsening conditions of abuse. I worked in a facility last week where they ahd removed all of their hand sanitizer. There were some sinks with soap but nowhere near as many as they should have, espcially with MRSA, VRE, C-Diff and AIDs- heavy units. They lied that "the state made them take them out."
- 3Jul 11, '08 by HouTx GuideOPCC,
If you're a good manager, you are going to 'irritate' some people. Like - staff who don't want to work their assigned shifts, people who are cutting corners, docs who don't follow the protocols... etc.
The question is - who are you supposed to be irritating? I have noticed a very unwelcome (generational) trend - younger staff want a 'mommy' manager - but not the mommy who made you take out the trask; the mommy who bought you ice cream.
If you are 'irritating' higher-ups, could it be that they are uncomfortable with your adherence to standards & policy rather then adopting a more flexible approach? <Can you tell I have been there?>
- 0Sep 18, '08 by Butterfly62llg's comments are so true. Things can't be 'black and white' in nursing. Your way doesn't mean it's the 'right' way for everyone. You know the saying, "there are different ways to skin a cat?" The same holds true here. There's more than one way to do something that will accomplish the same goal. Take a step back. Start letting others teach you instead of you teaching them. You're a valuable tool in this field. Don't leave because of an evaluation. Take that feedback to step back and take a closer look. They may have noticed something that you haven't. Best of everything to you!
- 1Sep 18, '08 by RN1989Deja vue! Don't know what to tell you. I have found that I just cannot deal with the slip shod way that employers want to run things. They let little compromises in and the next thing you know, they don't recognize when things are unsafe, against guidelines, or flat out illegal. And everyone goes along for the ride because it is easier than fighting the system and possibly losing a job.
Make sure that people aren't thinking you are coming across snotty and smarmy. If that is how they perceive you, work on specific suggestions that they give you.
If it relates to truly unsafe issues and/or it is the management that doesn't like it....keep a CYA book on you to write in while you look for something else.
Does make me wonder who you peeved as to why you suddenly got this after good evals for many years. Perhaps it is time to move on to another facility.
Good luck! I wish more people in the world today had your work ethic and values.