My Mom and Dad have been married for 61 years. My parents gave power of attorney to 2 of my sisters. I would like info and advice from you to resolve a situation...
Like I said, Mom and Dad have been married for 61 years. Mother just got diagnosed with AD and a week later Dad went into surgery for gall bladder removal - came out fine. Mother was taken home that night by my sister. Mother fell in driveway and hit her head on the car while falling. Mother was transported to the ER where she was drugged with Ativan, restrained and of course did not understand what was happening to her...She fought (I would have probably done the same in the situation)...But afterwards, my father went to a nursing home for recovery, my mother was scheduled to join him while he recovered. With the ER incident, my sisters decided to put my mother in a long term care facility away from my father - and vowed to never let them see each other again. (I dont understand this, but) I am an wound care RN in the nursing home where Mother was placed. I have seen my Mother all day long while at work and my heart breaks for her. I do not have Power of Attorney that was given to my 2 sisters years ago. My Mother and Dad had lived together in their home until my Dad's surgery (a week ago). For whatever reason, my sister recorded my Dad saying that he never wanted to see my Mother again. Not able to believe this, I went to see my Dad and ask him for myself. He said that he never said this, and that he wanted to be with my mother every second that they had left. He also said that my sisters had told him that she had lost her mind and became violent so they had no choice but to institutionalize her at another facility. (so therefore they lied to him...) My father will be sent home in about 15 more days.
My mother has no history of violence other than the ER situation. My mother does not understand why she is in the nursing home, and looks for my Dad constantly. She walks the halls, looking in every room for him, all day long. When my sisters visit, they insist on the doctor being called for a X1 dose of Haldol, so my Mom will be basically a rag doll while they are there visiting. (I guess so they can visit without seeing the agony my Mother is induring) My sisters have her glasses and she is not able to see well. Which they have neglected to bring to her after repeated requests. I have made every attempt to convence them that there are other options besides the nursing home and the separation (which is hurting both of my parents). They refuse, period.
advise me of what I can do or how to go about it, to get them home and back together. This is a cruel