Working with a racist - page 3
What to do when working with a racist? I have told this woman I do not wish to hear her inappropriate comments anymore , yet she persists. She has said some very horrible things and when I brought this to the attention of the DON... Read More
- 0Jan 17, '05 by SmilingBluEyesQuote from nursemike?I agree. Glad you brought all of this up. ITA! Things rarely work out the way they do on TV; life is not a TV show and legalities are probably not your area of expertise. I would do what you already did and if you feel they are "out to get you" maybe you should move on, leaving a nice long exit letter and honest exit interview. But do watch out---- You can't just go around taping people talking to you and expect it to hold up---or not bite you in the butt.As much fun as it sounds, the concealed recorder gag is a felony in many jurisdictions, unless you inform them they are being recorded.
Also, at the risk of being hypersensitive, "Cowboy Church" is the same sort of bigotry we're all deploring, here. Some conservative fundamentalists are racists or anti-Catholic, but a great many are good people and good Christians. Mind you, I've known people who describe themselves as "Holy Rollers,"
but I imagine they would be offended by others calling them that. Similarly, WASP jokes were kind of funny, once, as a satire on more "mainstream" ethnic slurs, but a lot of white Protestants rightly object to a perceived double standard that says it's okay to ridicule them, just because they are in the majority.
Personally, I do recognize a difference between good-natured teasing and hate speech, but I do think you have to be really sure that the "victim" is laughing, too.Last edit by SmilingBluEyes on Jan 17, '05
- 0Jan 17, '05 by Fun2, RN, BSNQuote from nursemike?Well said, NurseMike?!! I for one was brought up Pentecostal....or "holy roller". My church does not use snakes. I wear make-up, so does our preacher's wife. I have long hair, but the preacher's wife keeps hers nice and short. No, I do not wear mine in a bun. I wear earrings, two different pairs, actually. I also wear jeans....tight low rise ones to boot! :chuckle Really, the only problem I have with Catholics is: no birth control (or has that changed?). Also, in Catholic churches, and many other churches I'd fall asleep in the sermon/songs. I like the fast tempo of the charasmatic churches, and the strong sermons!! However, this is only my opinion, and I sure wouldn't, nor would I have a reason to, belittle someone on thier faith.Also, at the risk of being hypersensitive, "Cowboy Church" is the same sort of bigotry we're all deploring, here. Some conservative fundamentalists are racists or anti-Catholic, but a great many are good people and good Christians. Mind you, I've known people who describe themselves as "Holy Rollers,"
but I imagine they would be offended by others calling them that.
I would hope that all Christians do not "JUDGE" other faiths as being wrong or right for everyone, but only decide one is not right for themselves.
I don't believe one religion is better than the other. If you follow the Bible, and live by it as you interpret it, then that's all you can do....IMO
As for the racial comments. I'm sure that ALL races make jokes about other races. I've heard many about my race, and I've heard many about other races. ...just as there are jokes about uneducated, people that live in different states, politicians, preachers, lawyers, etc. A joke is just a joke. If it goes beyond joking, then there is a problem. If someone around is offended, there is a problem. I know I have friends of all different races, and we always joke around, but at this time no one is offended. If someone says he or she is offended by it, and the person continues to do it, it's a problem.
I would even consider calling the police station, if you are that offended by this. Find out if there is anything you can do. Tell them you were offended by the comments. If you don't want to go this far, then maybe you need to ask to be put on a different floor. This way, you don't have to work with that person at all.
I hope everyone can understand what I mean by my words. I am in no way trying to say racism is not a problem. I know it is.
I definately say there is a major problem if the racism involves the quality of pt. care one receives. That is wrong! :angryfire
- 0Jan 17, '05 by Spidey's mom, ADN, BSN, RN GuideGood post Fun2Care . . .
You know, everyone has different tastes in music. Why should it be a surprise that there are different tastes in worship styles? Or that God might use different ways to connect to people? We all respond in different ways.
I've been to "holy roller" churches as a youth. My grandma was Pentecostal and attended Assembly of God churches. I started going to a Methodist Church right after I was saved. Now I attend an Evangelical Free Church. I love our worship time. We have a great band with about half hymns and half more upbeat and contemporary.
My son attends college at a Christian University - the chapel services are wonderful and full of energy.
To each their own.
But again, someone . . what the heck is a "Cowboy Church"
- 0Jan 17, '05 by mattsmom81I'm guessing 'Cowboy Church' refers to right wing Christian conservatives (the ones liberals seem to disdain, as well as those who have beliefs similar to president Bush who happens to be from Texas as am I.)
Yeeehaw by the way.
Someone please correct me if I'm wrong, as I do tire of political bigotry, and sincerely hope I AM wrong...Last edit by mattsmom81 on Jan 17, '05