Why does every unit have a princess? - page 5
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When I graduated nursing school some 20 years ago I made a promise to myself to explore all of nursing and feel satisfied that I have done that. I have specialized in several areas and have done per diems everywhere in the... Read More
- 0Oct 11, '12 by nursel56 GuideWe've had lobbyists for a long time. The problem is what they are lobbying for isn't on behalf of the profession of nursing as a whole. I'd say we need lobbyists to counter the present lobbyists as I think the legislatures assume we all think along the lines of their agenda. It has nothing to do with gender.
- 1Oct 11, '12 by FMF CorpsmanQuote from nursel56You have to remember I am retired, I'm ten years older than you, and what you consider a long time and what I consider a long time might be two different things, but you are right on the rest, they aren't lobbying on behalf of Nurses as a whole.We've had lobbyists for a long time. The problem is what they are lobbying for isn't on behalf of the profession of nursing as a whole. I'd say we need lobbyists to counter the present lobbyists as I think the legislatures assume we all think along the lines of their agenda. It has nothing to do with gender.
- 2Oct 11, '12 by nursel56 GuideQuote from FMF CorpsmanI'm sorry - didn't mean to sound so snippy but when I tried to think of a way to fix it my mind went blank. . My irritation about the way the lobbyist types are ignoring the plight of new grads who can't find jobs and insisting there is still a nursing shortage probably bled into it, too. Bowing out. . . .You have to remember I am retired, I'm ten years older than you, and what you consider a long time and what I consider a long time might be two different things, but you are right on the rest, they aren't lobbying on behalf of Nurses as a whole.
- 0Oct 12, '12 by FMF CorpsmanQuote from BlueDevil,DNPI an sure the people I used to work with would have said I fit your description. I just simply refused to be taken advantage of. When asked to do things I found unreasonable, I very politely, professionally, and pleasantly, said "no, I won't do that." After a while, no one asked me to do unreasonable things anymore and it probably appeared like favoritism.
I don't think it was favoritism at all. In fact, I doubt TPTB liked me, as a person, very much. I am certain they respected my skills, but I am sure they thought I was a bit of a PITA. The bottom line was, they knew if they asked me to do something even approaching the line in the sand I had drawn in the past, it might be a bigger headache for them than it was worth, so they just didn't ask. The fact that other nurses didn't stand up for themselves appropriately, but whined & complained to others, behaved passive aggressively in any number of ways instead, or just took the abuse like mules is not my fault. So they were continuously mistreated, and I never was. I got the schedule I asked for, without fail. I got good assignments. I got continuing education classes I requested. No one ever called me on my days off to fill in. Ever. They knew better, lol. They simply left me alone to do my job, and in return I provided perfect attendance, and exemplary performance. I was never once "written up" in any position I ever held. I have never had anything short of outstanding performance reviews, yet we all knew I was a "high maintenance" employee. I attended board meetings and lodged complaints directly to the hospital board of directors if we didn't have enough soap, lol. I was a thorn, but I was also the one they wanted on the floor the day TJC came through.
No matter what role I was in, my supervisors and I each gave each other exactly what the other wanted, nothing more, nothing less. We achieved perfect detente. That does not make me a prince/ss. It makes me a skilled diplomat and negotiator.
I also got along well with everyone. I had no "friends" at work, but I was friendly with every single person and had not a single enemy. I never had a single disagreement with a workplace coworker. Not a single cross word in 20 years of bedside nursing with a nurse or provider. No one could say a bad word about me, other than I bad an awfully nice schedule.
BlueDevil, You could have been writing my script, with one exception, I had friends at work, or at least I thought I did, in the end, they didn't turn out to be so friendly. I wonder if it is because we are males and they treat us with more deference. As I said in my other post, my female co-workers complained a great deal amongst each other, but not necessarily to those in power to make the changes they sought. Whereas I had no difficulty taking my c/o directly to whom ever was empowered to render immediate relief. People have called me a number of different things, but shy was never included in the list, but like you said, PITA might have been fairly close to the top. I learned a long time ago, how to get thing done and how to do so in the most expedient manner. The suits decided the best place for me would be among them rather than dueling with them and made me the VP of Patient Care, so I guess I really was the Prince, but only for less than six months, because I hated every day of it, and couldn't wait to get back to direct patient care where I loved it.
- 0Oct 13, '12 by BlueDevil,DNPQuote from echoRNC711I don't know the answers to any of your questions, sorry. I haven't the foggiest idea what people said or thought about me. It's none of my business, so I never asked.Blue Devil -
I applaud your ability to be clear and decisive. You appear very independent (feel free to correct ) and I am left wondering did your co workers perceive you as a team player?
In the interest of honesty and my own curiosity I am wondering Blue were you respected,feared or both. I'd like to see better teamwork in nursing to recognize each others strengths. I am wondering where is the middle ground between being assertive and team player?
As to the middle ground issue, I am not sure about that either. I did advocate for the team on a lot of issues. My primary interest was always the advancement of my profession and protection of my patient. Both of those served my colleagues interests as much as my own.
- 0Oct 13, '12 by BlueDevil,DNPQuote from FMF CorpsmanFor the record, I don't have friends at work because I choose not to socialize with coworkers, not because they didn't like me or vice versa. My spouse does not socialize with the work set either. Our social network is made up of a different sort of people.
BlueDevil, You could have been writing my script, with one exception, I had friends at work, or at least I thought I did, in the end, they didn't turn out to be so friendly.
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