The Patient I Failed - page 22

She knew what she wanted. She'd watched her husband of 52 years die on a vent, and followed his wishes to remain a full code. But she knew that was not what she wanted for herself. So, she... Read More

  1. by   YouSmellLikeCDiff
    The very first time I read this, it was through blurry eyes filled with tears. Not only is this a heart wrenching story, it is also BEAUTIFULLY written. After being so moved, I decided to submit this article (with credit, of course) in with my preceptorship journal. Needless to say, I was not the only one who enjoyed it. I received a 100 on my journal! So THANK YOU in more ways than one!
  2. by   beckster_01
    Wow...that is all I can say. That is a tragic story that was wonderfully well written. Thanks for sharing.
  3. by   uRNmyway
    I hope you dont mind, but I felt I had to share this with my friends. It was so beautifully written and heartwrenching, especially for anyone who might have lived something similar.
  4. by   One Flew Over
    Absolutely heartbreaking.. and working in LTC, it hits so close to home..
  5. by   StudentNurseKitteh
    and these are the same people (the daughter) who will then sue you, the doctor, the hospital and anyone else they can think of for "killing" their mother!
  6. by   Ghaines
    Unfortunately I see this all the time....for me it is the most frustrating part of being a nurse. I, too, have whispered my apologies to patients that clearly deserved to die in a dignified, peaceful manner, with their family members respecting their wishes. Unfortunately, some family members serve their own selfishness instead of their loved ones wishes. Hugs and thank you for sharing.
  7. by   nurse grace RN
    Beautifully written and this happens more often than it should. And yes , this is the type of family that will "sue". The poor patient, when my parents became too ill to have a meaningful quality of life we followed their wishes and their . "living Wills'.
  8. by   Faemystique
    We had this same scenario on the Neuro Unit where I work, only it was a son. It was so heartbreaking to us nurses and he was so disconnected with the reality of the situation. I have always had an ethical issue with how this happens. Its so sad to see and have to be a part of this.
  9. by   RBateLPN
    I hope you realize that you did help her die with what dignity you could. It is a shame her daughter put her through this, and a shame that the doctors did nothing to prevent her suffering. I hope that you realize that just by telling her sorry for what you had to do to her that it showed her what a wonderful nurse you are.
  10. by   PROUD2BANLPN
    Beautiful story. and a reality I deal with daily. LTC, family dynamics, staff opinions, dr's opinions, loved ones inability to let go...very stressful. Yet I get something else out of it. I do what I can do, and do it THE BEST i can do it...and pray for Gods strength to do it even though it may not be what he or I would want. My heart is comforted knowing HE will ask the questions, if they need be asked, HE will have the final say, if there's a "say" to be had...Leave it all in his glorious wisdom, for only HE will handle it as necessary. God Bless all the awesome nurses out there, for it is WE, who these folks really need and appreciate in their final hours! S. Kinsey LPN LTC/Private Duty <3
  11. by   WarEagleRN77
    Why do families do this to their loved ones...why? It breaks my heart every time I see this happen.
  12. by   oramroberts
    Bless you for writing this I'm currently trying to pro-actively (legally) prevent a similar experience for my 88-y.o. mother. I have a brother who has other ideas. Sending an e-hug to you
  13. by   beckmul1974
    So beautifully written - and yes, I too am wiping tears from my eyes. I too have had to deal with patients/family members in this almost same story. I do not know why family members feel the need to prolong life when it is obvious their loved one(s) don't want this, and when everyone can see that it is only prolonging the inevitable.