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- Jan 11, '03 by passing thruAre you still discussing passive-aggressive behaviors or just bytching now? There are some nursing behaviors that are shameful. I never realized females could be so mean. I prefer to work with a group of men any day. Maybe this is the topic of another thread.
I have noticed men are not as willing to belittle each other and make up lies.
- Jan 11, '03 by eddyRuh Roh..... Time for a male to chime in.... hehe....
Honestly, this stuff happens all the time. I just smile and go my own merry way. I think we all probably have an admin's/director's pet in every bunch. I actually kinda get a kick out of the whole thing. You know... it's that old bag that seems connected at the hip to the administrative/supervisory staff yet out of all this buttkissing has never managed to get to the same ranks as those who she kisses up to so often.
I know this sounds bad but I think nursing is actually a magnet to people like this. They are the ones that need to feel depended on. They need to feel important. As a result, they chose a career that makes them feel "needed". No matter what, no one will ever measure up to that person (in their eyes). They are actually very insecure people who are merely trying to bring others down a level in others eyes so as to cover up for their own shortcomings.
Bottom line brush it off. If everyone did, they would give up and leave and the world would be a better place.
- Jan 11, '03 by RNFROG3eeeeks-- I have a slightly different view on this but first let me say that passive aggressive and backstabbing has no place in nurseing. I agree wholeheartedly. I have to admit though I was(I hope it is and will always be in past tense) one of those nurses. I didn't so much start tallking about another person as agree to what was being said and yet I wanted to get along with everyone so I tried to be nice. It wsn't until my hero-a nurse who has been a nurse forever pointed out my destuructive behavior that I even realised what I was doing. For me I think it came from being the child of an alcoholic-I never wanted to make waves, always wanted to please everyone, conflict caused a big knot in my stomach so it was to be avoided at all times. It hasn't been easy to change and I find myself really having to bite my lip to keep from falling into old traps but being more vocal about how I feel and confronting those who have made me upset is very empowering. It doesn't always fix or solve the problem but I feel better about myself when I lay my head down to sleep.
For those of you who know me personnally on this board I hope you've notiecied the change and will continue to help me not be one of those weasels!
- Jan 11, '03 by falconboyThe first rule of thumb is to always CYA (cover your 'butt') with your duties and charting. I have experience with such people and many times more than not, it's your approach and work that threatens what they are used to doing, especially if you are new and haven't become entrenched. I'm an overachiever, usually, and a firm believer that my work speaks for itself. Everyone, even the veterens make mistakes, but consistent mistakes are a real problem. The only problem I run into is the attempts of passive aggressive people to draw you into their strife. Some contemptuous people can really make this tempting, but in the end the only real product is your work, not what people say about you. I kill these types with kindness, and try to assist them as much as i can. Eventually the aggression ceases and your competence shines through and can't be challenged.