Moral delemia

OCNRN63, RN · Aug 29, 2013

I've kept in touch with a nursing school friend via Facebook since we graduated and I'm disturbed about one of her posts. She works in a specialized unit and talks about work all the time. I've personally told her multiple times not to but she ignores me. A few days ago she posted again about her night with pt specifics. The level of detail is bothersome and I can't seem to let it go. Is it wrong to report her to hr?

I wouldn't report it. You don't work with her, so for all you know, she could have significantly altered the specifics regarding the patients she's posting about.

You told her it was wrong. More than likely, someone she works with will wind up seeing these posts and making her manager aware of them.

If it really bothers you, cut her loose as a friend, but I wouldn't report her. You just don't have enough information.

jadelpn, LPN, EMT-B · Sep 2, 2013

You don't have enough information. Because you don't work in the same facility as she does, you really DON'T know if the specifics she is spilling are accurate, details have changed, whatever.

Employers are savvy about looking at social media sites. There will come a time when a co worker will come across these posts, and if they get a sense of overwhelming familiarity--then lo and behold the poop will probably hit the fan.

For now, stop engaging in these posts. You have mentioned that she shouldn't be posting the stuff she is, and that is all you can do. Well that and the option you now have that these posts don't show up for you to read them when you log on--if you want to catch up with your friend on occasion, then put your settings to view her page only when you want to.

subee, MSN, CRNA · Sep 2, 2013

Is it a delemia to " report to" her? What does this mean?

OCNRN63, RN · Sep 3, 2013

Is it a delemia to " report to" her? What does this mean?

She asked if it was a "delemia" to report her to hr; hr= Human Resources.

SionainnRN · Sep 3, 2013

You don't have enough information. Because you don't work in the same facility as she does, you really DON'T know if the specifics she is spilling are accurate, details have changed, whatever.
Employers are savvy about looking at social media sites. There will come a time when a co worker will come across these posts, and if they get a sense of overwhelming familiarity--then lo and behold the poop will probably hit the fan.
For now, stop engaging in these posts. You have mentioned that she shouldn't be posting the stuff she is, and that is all you can do. Well that and the option you now have that these posts don't show up for you to read them when you log on--if you want to catch up with your friend on occasion, then put your settings to view her page only when you want to.

I don't comment on any of these work posts. I just know if some nurse was talking about my cervix on fb I would lose my mind and sue the crap out of the facility and nurse. And trust me there's no way she thought to change any of the info. Thank you for your input.