I'd kill you - page 2

I was switching from diprivan to versed drip on a vented patient a few days ago because his blood pressure was down. The diprivan ran out and I turned on the versed. The patient kind of came awake... Read More

  1. by   Been there,done that
    Sedation.. like all medicine is an art. You are an educated conscientious professional, that should not be talked to like that.

    Don't let that incident move you to quitting.
    Stand up for yourself.
  2. by   sapphire18
    WTH?? This was your patient, not hers, who does she think she is? Sounds like a very hostile environment. Good luck to you if you do leave and look for a new job.
  3. by   gonzo1
    I have been called in to a meeting tonight to address this situation. Apparently I don't understand Texas guns and ammo culture and am too sensitive. The ICU director is bringing in the charge that said it to me, and the charges boyfriend that is a nurse there too. Why is he being invited? These 3 have worked together for about 15 years. I figure I'm gonna be listening to a why Gonzo is a bad person lecture tonight. Say your prayers for me.
  4. by   sapphire18
    Wow, yeah, why is the bf going?? What did you say at the time that this incident happened? Good luck, gonzo, and keep us updated!
  5. by   zoe.ysobel
    i don't understand why the boyfriend has to be there, are they planning to grill you instead of constructively discussing things out? makes no sense to me...

    just keep calm and i wish you goodluck on the meeting, gonzo1.
  6. by   CherylRNBSN
    Quote from iluvivt
    If you do not leave there will probably be more coming from her. So next time address it right away b/c if she thinks she can get away with treating you in an unprofessional manner she will keep doing it! '"Excuse me..since I find your remarks unprofessional and rude and your timing inappopriate I cannot listen to anything you have to say".Should you choose to share with me in the future I except that it be done with a courteous demeaner and in professional manner". Bet she will NOT do it again. Otherss have let her get away with this behavior so she keeps doing it...she is really crude
    iluvit, I agree w you completely that the charge nurse was unprofessional and crude. 100%.
    However, I would suggest a more tactful approach to dealing w the situation. The goal is to DE-ESCALATE, while making your very accurate point about being unprofessional, rude, etc. I have been reading and thinking about conflict resolution a great deal. Once you tell someone "I cannot listen to anything you have to say", it's game over. Everyone becomes entrenched in their position. And defensive.

    I think a better way to approach this fiasco would be to speak to charge nurse directly, and discretely. Perhaps something along the lines of "I am sorry I did not handle that situation exactly as you would have preferred (then feel free to elaborate on your decision making process), what would have suggested I do next time?" And then be OPEN to what a more experienced nurse has to say.

    Then, feel free to let her know, ever so tactfully how her handling of the situation affected YOU.
    It becomes a win/win situation at that point. You hear her, and hopefully learn something, and SHE HEARS YOU, and realizes she was tactless, and it is affecting your morale. It will hopefully make her a better manager. And you will have learned a great lesson about de-escalating, while still being heard.

    It really is ALL in the way you say it. Choose your words carefully. You will never regret it! Good luck!
  7. by   iluvivt
    Yes, I agree that I would do something just like that CherylRNBSN and have on many occasions as I agree that is an ideal solution. Based upon what the poster said this sounds like typical engrained behavior for this person..and often you have to fight fire with fire a bit or show you teeth until you an get to that nice resolution and mutual respect and agreement stage. I would save this approach for the very most egregious behavior and I would classify her behavior as such.
  8. by   CrunchRN
    What wise Cheryl said.......
  9. by   GitanoRN
    Quote from gonzo1
    i will most likely be quitting this job today.
    i've had enough.
    i hope you haven't quit your present position on account of what occur, trust me you had enough reasons to, however, you seem to be a very competent nurse and when it comes to the ordeal that happen, trust me it could have happen to anyone. with that said, i'm certain that this will never happen again and the lesson has been embedded in your brain. however, if you still go on with your plans of resignation, i wish you the very best in all of your future endeavors... keep us posted as you can see we at an do care what happens to any of our colleagues, just by the vast response of the members, therefore, we are sending you a warm hug from across the miles... aloha~
  10. by   gonzo1
    The meeting went well. Fortunately I have a very wise and kind ICU director. I think we may be making progress. You guys always have great insight. I love allnurses. Would be lost without it.
  11. by   GitanoRN
    Quote from gonzo1
    the meeting went well. fortunately i have a very wise and kind icu director. i think we may be making progress. you guys always have great insight. i love allnurses. would be lost without it.
    i'm so happy that you were able to have a meeting regarding your dilemma and everything is looking up for you, keep us posted....hugs ...aloha~
  12. by   sdlane
    So happy you did not quit !!! Some things are uncomfortable at times but, you just have to stick it out until something better comes along.