I regret forever not going to medical school

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I am posting this thread because I feel really depressed. Maybe I can say I might need comfort but I can honestly say I regret forever why I did not go to medical school.Let me tell you my story.

I am already 28 years old. I am currently an LPN and I am in school for my RN.I had my Med surg clinical in the hospital and walked right in the middle of a code seeing a very familiar young doctor doing CPR. When I asked the nurse precepting me, I found out that doctor is my former classmate in high school.We both graduated high school in 2002. Now, 11 years later, I never felt so low in my life, I was looking down on myself regarding my status in life.Compared to her, at 28 years old, she was already a doctor and I am still stuck as a nursing student. I was so ashamed that I even tried to avoid her. I feel like my status in life is so low compared to her.

Plus, add the fact that I always wanted to be a doctor all my life since I was a baby.But my mom told me why not just be a nurse first and when I have enough money saved, go to medical school.Also, add the fact that it took me almost 10 years before becoming an LPN due to some unforeseen life circumstances. Have I known that I will be in school this long, then I should have spent my $60,000 student loans on becoming a doctor(which is what I always wanted, which is my heart has always wanted.) instead of going through 10 years of nursing school.Dont get me wrong. I love taking care of people and being a nurse. But I've always been more interested in actually treating patients and more on the medical side than on the caring side.

I am so jealous of my high school classmate. I feel once I get my RN, it is too late to go to medical school since by that time, I will be in my 30s, I am already married, I am already too old to go to medical school maybe my body might not have enough energy anymore to go through med school related to age plus I cannot add any more student loans to my $60,000 debt.I wanted to be a doctor so much I am willing to go to medical school in any country as long as somebody helps me become a doctor.Sorry for posting this but I guess I just need to vent how sad I am.To any nurses out there, do you think I have the right to feel this way?Is it really too late for me to go to med school once I get my RN in my 30s?Thank you.

Agreed.no matter what anybody saysthe decision is up to me.i finally decided to go on to med school after rn school and that will make me happy.thanks so much for all your advice my fellow nurses.you don't have to reply anymore.THREAD CLOSED.[/quote']

Well I'm replying anyway. Congrats and I'm glad you decided to pursue the career you always wanted. I'm in a similar situation and I am attempting to finish up my med school prereqs with my IT degree just in case I find the courage to take the plunge. I've never liked being a nurse and I always knew why. And I'm almost 10 years older than you. So good luck to you!

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A friend of mine is in her 40s, a mom of two, and just started med school last month. Put on your big-girl panties and follow your dreams. At 28 your life is far from over.

P.S. I'm glad to see you intend to go. Go get em, tiger! Don't let anyone squash your dreams. You deserve this.

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Agreed.no matter what anybody says,the decision is up to me.i finally decided to go on to med school after rn school and that will make me happy.thanks so much for all your advice my fellow nurses.you don't have to reply anymore.THREAD CLOSED.

I'm glad you decided to go for it. While making my way through the thread, it seemed you had nothing but excuses for why you couldn't do this. I couldn't really see that you actually wanted to be a doctor.

As for the age thing, I get it. When I was exactly your age, I was talking to my Mom about wanting to become a nurse. I said, "but if I start now, I'll be 32 before I ever start my career!" Mom said, "How old will you be in four years if you DON'T go to nursing school?"

Ding ding ding! Yes. Those years will pass whether you go to med school or whether you don't. When that time finally arrives, do you want to be a doctor, or a woman still shaking her head and complaining about how she never got to do what she always dreamed of doing? The choice is yours.

Good luck.

Yet I can guarantee the classmate sacrificed a ton of things to be a physician that you have not had to sacrifice.

Don't be jealous of your classmate just because he/she made it happen before you did. You can be sure it was not any easier than the path you have taken thus far.

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Specializes in ICU, CVICU, Case Management.

3 of my friends, great people, all returned to medical school after having established careers. THey all said "I always wanted to be a doctor." One is 51 yrs old, he graduates in 19 weeks from medical school (he is an engineer), his oldest dtr is an RN. ANother one is 53yrs old, she is in her first year of medical school (she is a psychologist). A third is 52yo first year of medical school (he is an optometrist) and has a son in his 2nd year of medical school . Another one of my friends in medical school, her 3rd year, is 25 years old and feels like she is "behind" everyone...If you want to be a physician-- do it.. It is not too late.

ANother 11 years will pass, how will you spend it? Might as well go for what you truly want to do--- now. It is a sacrifice but well worth pursuing if that is what you desire.

Take care and best of luck.

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Through the years as I have found out about my successful classmates, it has deepened my shame and depression. But I realize that they are not responsible for my inability to succeed.

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Specializes in public health.

Just think about how Obama's high school classmates feel...("he is already the president of United States and I am just a CEO of a company. Damn!")

Stop comparing. Just do something you feel passionate about.

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I can somehow relate my friend. I am 2 months into my 30 right now and I

Am third year in medical school. Maybe I should start celebrating. Sounds okay right ? I'm living my dream ... Not quite yet, You see, I have not earn a dime in my 20s ( a few worthless part time jobs does not count) I'm financially depended on my parents and I'm in medical school abroad. Which means, I have a heck of a long way before I can say hello residency, everyone in my family looks down at me. And being abroad is no easy task .....

Having said that, this is how much I want to be a doctor !!! I'll do whatever it takes and gave up everything I had. Whatever money I have is JUST enough !!!! I also have friends that are already doctors and successful young nurses. I wish I was in nursing actually .... Medicine is tough ....so demanding and competitive. And i also habe friends That have not done jack sh... With their lives. So what I'm saying is, stop comparing yourself to others and the selfloathing. Trust me, the doctor is not gonna look down at you because you are a nurse. Most doctors wished their lives was a little simplier.

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You nurses are giving amazing advices on this forum! You are all very optimist, im running out of time but i just want to say that i 'like' all of your support posts to the OP

Cant wait to be a nurse like you someday

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