Have you ever shed tears in front of a patient or a patient's family.

[dudette10]

I'm not talking about all-out sobbing, body-wracking crying. I'm just saying tears welling up and possibly spilling over without the accompanying grimace.

Is that appropriate, inappropriate?

If you have, how did the patients/family members/coworkers react? How did you feel about your own behavior?

[Otessa, BSN, RN]

I'm not talking about all-out sobbing, body-wracking crying. I'm just saying tears welling up and possibly spilling over without the accompanying grimace.

Is that appropriate, inappropriate?

If you have, how did the patients/family members/coworkers react? How did you feel about your own behavior?

Yes, I have, it was appropriate for the moment. Normal human reaction.

Co-workers had also been there so no biggie with them or the family.

otessa

[Esme12, ASN, BSN, RN]

My brother has lung cancer, and he found a song called "Softly, As I Leave You" that he played for his wife to express his feelings when he couldn't find the words to say what he wanted to say.

I am so sorry.....my prayers for you your brother and his family!!!!!!!!:redbeathe:redbeathe

[canesdukegirl, BSN, RN]

The family declined organ donation. The first time I cried was after capping all her IV's and such and disconnecting her traction and ICP...........I picked her up to place her in her mothers arms to die.....her mother rocked her and sang "hush little baby don't say a word.........". I kissed her cheek and her mothers cheek with tears running down my cheeks and I said I was sorry i couldn't give her baby back to her (like I had anything to do with it ) . Her momma looked at me and said "but you have, I am holding her in my arm's aren't I".

OK, now I AM CRYING!! So sad. But you are correct in stating that these sad experiences make us better humans and better caretakers. :redbeathe

[canesdukegirl, BSN, RN]

The reason I became a nurse is because of the emotion my mother's hospice nurse freely shared with us as we all stood around Mom holding each other's hands during her last rites. It was the most pure showing of love and care I had ever witnessed from a medical provider. It literally changed my life.

[Tyra21]

I have cried quite a few times in front of families and quite a few times in private. I don't remember all of the instances but I know they all didn't invovle a patient demise. Being a nurse can break your heart. I will never forget this lady patient I had who had just been put on palliative care. Her husband of 60 years started to sing hymns to her in a soft voice. I had to leave that room quickly.

I have been told "I will get used to it". I sincerely hope I never get "used to it".

I've been told that same thing several times and just like you, I hope (once I'm an RN) that I never get used to it.

[sophie<3]

I've been a nurse for a few months in a bone marrow transplant & oncology unit...i cried just few days ago..my patient was young, diagnosed with stage IV breast cancer only a few short months after having her first baby. she had a double mastectomy and then liver mets were removed a few months ago. she was up on my floor receiving chemo..she was always smiling and positive and constantly thanking us for everything we did. she said that she was lucky to have such amazing support from her doctors and nurses. her uplifting attitude and smile were infectious. i peaked in to check on her one morning and she was crying alone in her room..she expressed to me privately her fear that the chemo wouldnt work and that she would have to start planning for her death and that she wouldn't see her son grow up. i think i cried more than her...i have absolutely no regrets letting her see me emotional. i think it is a true indicator of how human we are as nurses and how damn hard this job can be, but also how rewarding it is to be a shoulder for someone to lean on.