Dear British "Hoaxed" Nurse: - page 3
Dearest British "Hoaxed" Nurse (Nurse Saldanha): As an American Nurse I know our scope may be different, but we are both "nurses" none-the-less. There is more that is in-common, than is... Read More
Dec 13, '12Brought tears to my eyes. Beautiful letter. My heart breaks over this situation every time I read about it again
Dec 13, '12It's not that I am singling out the DJs in general, as I certainly wouldn't want to walk in their shoes. I too am a joke lover, practical joking lover, and believe humor is one of my favorite aspects of being "human." I'm sure had it gone "right" and the Nurses slammed down the phone- even the crustiest among us could at least smile at the "queen calling"-later on.
It didn't happen that way though, and it cost a precious life- for whatever reason. I too have had very high profile patients, and the fear of something happening on my watch is sheer terror(i.e. "like" the Quaid Twins)!
My heart goes out to first her family, her friends and colleagues, all involved, and the way this will play out. Either way I spin it in my head, I hold her blameless.
It was her Queen! As an American, I can't fully understand the weight of being responsible for the British Empire's "Monarch's" family member! So, regardless, I have the utmost respect for Nurses with that courage, skillset, and nerves of steel- sometimes even steel shatters, bends, or breaks.
The Grand Lesson is our Whole Life Can Change in One Moment. We should treasure each day as a giftLast edit by BostonTerrierLoverRN on Dec 13, '12 : Reason: Formatting
Dec 13, '12I agree with your response. Just doesn't seem to add up or make sense. It's all very unfortunate and definitely not worth taking your own life over. I feel horrible for her children and husband.
Dec 13, '12Quote from BostonTerrierLoverRNmy deapest condolonces to the bereaved family.Dearest British "Hoaxed" Nurse (Nurse Saldanha):
As an American Nurse I know our scope may be different, but we are both "nurses" none-the-less. There is more that is in-common, than is different. We both have strengths and weaknesses. We both aim to serve societies ills to the best of our ability, and ease pain and suffering from the lowest of the low, to the top of the elite.
We give nonjudgmental holistic care, and even though we may fuss and whine about our job in private amongst our peers, we love our profession! And, our patients would never be able to guess our bad days because we are also professionals at masking pain, worry, anxiety, and depression as we go through our day.
You know as well as I, there's never enough hours in that day! I'm so sorry your no longer here with us, but you will never be forgotten. Your death was not in-vain. I pledge to pay closer attention to my staff colleagues, and their issues-whether new or current, or something they've been struggling with- and still serve at the bedside, clinic, or even at the Midlevel position.
I am so sorry such a thoughtless act of treachery took you from the world for a "laugh" at the most. I share in the millions mourning your death, and I hold no judgement for you. You, as we're programmed to do, put your self at the bottom of the issue- even as "disposable," as the problem you didn't asked for- seemed bigger than yourself.
I'm so sorry you are gone(taken from your family and "us"), but as long as we arm ourselves with knowledge that our whole life can change in a split moment, and that there are those out there that obviously don't respect the intensity of our pressures: You did not die in vain.
You will ever be present in our heart as a martyr for the truth of the rigors of our profession, and the Nursing Profession feels and mourns your unfair and untimely loss!
We hear in the News you were a trustworthy, dedicated, compassionate, and knowlegable colleage to have. That's the highest praise a Nurse could hope for-You Will be Missed!
In never-ending love,
Your Brothers and Sisters of the International Nursing Profession!
May You Rest in Eternal Peace!!!!!!!
Please add your Condolences or Respects if you wish.
Dec 14, '12Quote from ThePrincessBrideThat is assuming that this is true. I seriously doubt that the hospital would NOT have thrown the nurse(s) under the bus, although I'm more inclined to believe that the royal family would have let it go.I'm thinking there is a bit more to this story that doesn't meet the eye. The hospital stood by this nurse AND the royals insisted that she would not be retaliated...so I think she was already mentally unstable to begin with.
Dec 14, '12Quote from BostonTerrierLoverRNThis is also something to consider. As Americans we view our leaders much differently than the British do. For instance you cant go a week without a disrespectful comment from AN AMERICAN about our President, Senators or Congressmen and Women. But I've always been under the impression that the British have much more respect for their Royal family. Much more loyalty and compassion.It was her Queen! As an American, I can't fully understand the weight of being responsible for the British Empire's "Monarch's" family member! So, regardless, I have the utmost respect for Nurses with that courage, skillset, and nerves of steel- sometimes even steel shatters, bends, or breaks.
The Grand Lesson is our Whole Life Can Change in One Moment. We should treasure each day as a gift
Dec 14, '12I cannot help but feel sad for this nurse, who, in my opinion, was taken advantage of, all in the name of a joke. Despite any circumstances that may surround it...i.e. if she had issues beforehand and this was the last trigger that sent her over the edge or she truly had lost all confidence to where she just ultimately broke down or even if she was teased to an extreme by her coworkers because of what happened...it still was an unnecessary sacrifice.
I am not one who is usually negative and I do have a sense of humor, but there is a limit to it. I am quite glad that the radio hosts behind the whole shindig were taken off the air. They now carry with them...the burden of another life.
All and all, I pray for the nurse and her loved ones. RIP.
Dec 14, '12Quote from PRICHARILLAisMISSEDI will bet that many here do not even remember when Presidents, Senators, and Representatives earned the respect of most citizens. More recently, not so much. The Executive and Legislative branches of government at federal and state levels have become a long term source of income (paid for by our dollars) for many who cannot succeed at anything else. Not entirely their fault, but mostly ours.This is also something to consider. As Americans we view our leaders much differently than the British do. For instance you cant go a week without a disrespectful comment from AN AMERICAN about our President, Senators or Congressmen and Women. But I've always been under the impression that the British have much more respect for their Royal family. Much more loyalty and compassion.
Dec 14, '12I feel an extreme grief for her children right here at Christmas. I don't want to offend anyone(if you know my posts, you know that); Please remember her children are totally innocent and...
I know this isn't a "spiritual" thread so-to-speak, but I just lift those children up more than anyone, I know their hearts are breaking right now. I just hope they know their mothers life was "just" as valuable as the patient she obviously felt as though she failed. I can not imagine how they will feel when old enough to process this. Can you imagine?
The loss is overwhelming on so many levels, but surely it must open some important questions when the shock wears off. I think we all have unanswered questions, and if her safety or her family was threatened- it's obvious why she did it. A mother's love defies all understanding- and they have been deprived of that blessed free gift too early.
*Those of you that pray, please lift them up- my heart breaks for them. They have a tough road ahead!
*I force my belief on no one, and I respect yours.Last edit by BostonTerrierLoverRN on Dec 14, '12
Dec 14, '12It is sad that an alleged "joke" contributed to a nurse's death. I didn't think it was funny when Nurse Saldanah was still alive, and I am sure almost nobody thinks so in the context of what happened. Such a touching tribute, BostonTerrierLoverRN, I'm sure my Beasty Terror, Holly gives you two paws up.
Dec 14, '12Any. Given. Day.
Any one of us could have been in that position....my heart breaks for her and especially her family, her children in particular.
Let none of us judge where she was when she chose to end her life.
We were not there. We do not know of her history. We do not know how she felt about her support system. We. Do. NOT. Know.