Dating Patients - page 8
by bobnurse 68,991 Views | 152 Comments
Anyone here ever date/go out/marry a patient. I personally have never done it, but have seen it happen....i recall one time a male nurse dated a patients daughter...We got her on our floor one day after she attempted suicide, he... Read More
- 0Jan 24, '05 by saltydadMany years ago before I was married I did date a patient, but only after she had been d/c'd. We only dated once...no big deal. I did date several coworkers, and ended up marrying my ex-wife (who was in another dept. at the time we met). (BTW...we were married for 28 years before we split up). I would never have a relationship while they were still my pt.
- 0Jan 24, '05 by LPN1974My mother found her last husband in the hospital. She was the nurse, he the patient.
Let's see, that's been about 40 years ago.
He is deceased now, and she's still living.
I wish to God she had never married the man. Nothing but trouble since the day they started dating. They probably didn't have rules back then like they do now.
- 0Jan 24, '05 by NRSKarenRN Admindate a patient in pa = may loose your license to practice nursing
ß 21.1. definitions.
(i) for a registered nurse not involved in providing mental health services, the relationship which shall be deemed to exist for a period of time beginning with the first professional contact or consultation between a registered nurse and a patient and ending with the patientís discharge from or discontinuance of services by the nurse or by the nurseís employer. the administration of emergency medical treatment or transitory trauma care will not be deemed to establish a professional relationship. (ii) for a registered nurse involved in providing mental health services, the relationship which shall be deemed to exist for a period of time beginning with the first professional contact or consultation between the nurse and patient and ending 2 years after discharge from or discontinuance of services. for a patient who is a minor, a professional relationship shall be deemed to exist for 2 years or until 1 year after the age of majority, whichever is longer, after discharge from or discontinuance of services.
sexual improprietyóthe term includes the following offenses:
(i) making sexually demeaning or sexually suggestive comments about or to a patient, including comments about a patientís body or undergarments.
(ii) unnecessarily exposing a patientís body or watching a patient dress or undress, unless for therapeutic purposes or the patient specifically requests assistance.
(iii) examining or touching genitals without the use of gloves when performing an otherwise appropriate examination.
(iv) discussing or commenting on a patientís potential sexual performance or requesting details of a patientís sexual history or preferences during an examination or consultation, except when the examination or consultation is pertinent to the issue of sexual function or dysfunction or reproductive health care. discussion of a patientís sexual practices and preferences shall be fully documented in the patientís chart.
(v) soliciting a date from a patient.
(vi) volunteering information to a patient about oneís sexual problems, preferences or fantasies.
sexual violationóthe term includes the following offenses:
(i) sexual intercourse between a registered nurse and a patient during the professional relationship.
(ii) genital to genital contact between a nurse and a patient during the professional relationship.
(iii) oral to genital contact between a nurse and a patient during the professional relationship.
(iv) touching breasts, genitals, or any other body part for any purpose other than appropriate examination or treatment, or using prolonged or improper examination techniques, or after the patient has refused or withdrawn consent.
(v) encouraging a patient to masturbate in the presence of the nurse or masturbating while a patient is present.
(vi) providing or offering to provide drugs or treatment in exchange for sexual favors. (vii) using or causing the use of anesthesia or any other drug affecting consciousness for the purpose of engaging in conduct that would constitute a sexual impropriety or sexual violation.
Last edit by NRSKarenRN on Jan 24, '05
- 0Feb 7, '05 by bobnurseWe just had this happen.......Our social worker's ex boyfriend is now a patient.......Boyfriend of 10 years ago.........They have now restarted their relationship.....So how does this fit in to all this? Can she lose her license for dating a patient even though she dated him a long time ago?
- 0Quote from z's playaHow come we're told we have to wait a whole year before dating a pt? I sound like I'm going into nursing for the guys by pursuing this but I'm curious why all of you who dated weren't nailed to the wall. Is it just here that its a year? Or do they teach us that just to say they did , then we bend the rules?
The idea is... not to get caught!...
If you date a patient or family member....keep it to yourself!
No one needs to know!
Where people get into trouble is when they feel compelled to announce that they are engaging in a potentially "tabu" practice.
Do you tell everyone at work about all of your dates?
- 0Quote from ruby veeruby...my ex claims to have slept with a patient's wife while the patient was in icu. (she hadn't had sex in a long time due to her husband's medical condition. my ex claims he was doing her a favor.) he also says he slept with a patient while she was in the hospital, with a physical therapist in the pt department and with the occaisional family member of a patient. his first wife, a pt (don't know if she was the same pt or not) ran off with a patient! they were both married at the time they took off together. in my experience, it causes nothing but pain for everyone else involved. and besides that, it's creepy!
ruby (who has never slept with a patient, a patient's family member or anyone on hospital property. i did, however, marry a coworker.)
please tell me this is information you obtained after you married your "ex".....
- 0Feb 8, '05 by ~Kitty~Quote from curleysueOnce when I was working in the ER as a tech a guy came in short of breath and his heartrate was really rapid. After triage I took him to his room and helped him undress so I could hook him up to EKG (wow he was buffed and handsome!). Anyways, when I hooked him up his HR was 160, so I immediately called the ER doc in and we took his BP which turned out to be 42/20. They immediately worked on him, got two lines in, called x-ray stat, O2 15L on NRB. And found out his lung was full of blood. I wanted to watch the chest tube insertion since I was a student nurse and he asked if he could hold my hand. I said okay. Well, they started giving him Versed and he got a little giggly, and asked me my name. I told him even if I said my name he would never remember cause he had been given a drug that will make you forget. Then he bet me if he remembered my name by the next day, I would have to go on a date with him. I agreed to the bet knowing that for sure he wouldn't remember it. Well during the whole procedure he kept repeating my name over and over and over, all the docs and nurses were like "your going to end up on a date with him!" Then my shift was over and I went home smiling. Coming back the next day I looked him up and went to see him on the med/surg floor. When I walked into his room he said, "Hi Amy". I just started laughing and got bright red. I couldn't beleive he remembered my name! So we went on a nice little date. But we just turned out to be friends. It was fun anyhow.
What a cute story!
Woohoo on the date with a buff guy!