I just had a friend to give birth to a preemie about a week ago. She's not a terribly close friend, but we used to work together, and she called me because I went through the same thing with my own child 2 years ago. She had PIH like I did. Her baby was born at 3 lbs 2 oz, but I think has slipped below 3 lbs due to the normal weight loss. The baby is struggling a bit and still on a vent, but making progress, just slower. Baby was a 28 weeker, E C-Sec. She is spending a ton of time at the hospital and said she'll be holding her breath until the baby is off the vent.
The situation: Her and the father are not married. They are both professionals. However, he bailed on her as soon as he found out she was pregnant, she was 5 months before she told him. He wouldn't even come to the hospital for the birth. Baby is listed I think either in serious or critical condition.
The problem: He has been visiting the baby every day starting two days after it was born. She has no issues with this. They don't speak when he comes and brings his mother sometimes. However, my friend showed up the other day and her ex brought some girlfriend he just started seeing a couple of months ago, and my friend went ballistic in the hospital over it. Because she was so upset, they asked her ex and his gf to leave, but the nurse told her they came back later after she left.
Now, it's not what you think, she doesn't have a problem with him seeing someone, she just feels that after all, her baby is in the NICU, and is in very serious condition, and doesn't want her baby used as an object for curiosity seekers and doesn't want anyone to hold the baby but family.
The NICU told her that as long as he is on the birth certificate (which he did sign, suprisingly), he could bring anyone he wants, regardless of whether or not she objected to it.
What is your hospital's policy on really messed up family situations like this?