NICU parents becoming NICU nurses - page 2

My son was in the NICU for 5 weeks and died last Tuesday. He was born at 38 weeks, but had Osteogenesis Imperfecta, started bleeding internally, which damaged his liver and intestines. I was... Read More

  1. by   neonatalRN
    That was a beautiful post. I am so sorry about what happened to little Austin. My son was also septic with gram neg. rods. I think it was a beautiful thing you did for him. I was already accepted to nursing school before any of this happened. I know for sure I want to be a nurse. And I really think NICU is my calling. What is a preceptorship?
  2. by   pengland1965
    My heart really goes out to you. If you believe the NICU is your calling, by all means, go for it! I love my job. I wanted to be a NICU nurse since I was a child. I loved Austin. And as crazy as it sounds, I would do everything again in a heartbeat. Even though it was a very sad experience, it did change my perception of death in the unit. Ive used the experience to change how I work with parents.
    Losing a child is so difficult. Give yourself lots of time to heal. When you get to the NICU clinical in school, I believe you will know if you should be there, or not.
    In our unit, a preceptorship is a program for soon-to-be/new grads/new hires. They follow a mentor. Basically, its a" try it and see if you like it", deal. Gives the new person time to see if the NICU is the place for them. Without feeling the enormous pressure. Plus it saves the unit $1,000's for orienting a person only to have them leave soon after. In our unit, if your still in school, you gain experience/credit. If you have already graduated, and the hospital has officially hired you, you get paid. Please let us know how things are going for you.
  3. by   renerian
    I am very sorry for the loss of your son. I could never be a NICU nurse. I am glad there are nurses out there who like that type of nursing.

    renerian
  4. by   NicuGal
    I am so sorry We have several nurses that had kids in NICU's that are now nurses...but we also has others that lost little ones and had to leave the NICU. They tend to be very verbal over the kids that were like their kids...sometimes that isn't good for the parents. But the others are able to sympathize and relate their experience to the parents.
  5. by   neonatalRN
    NICUGal, I have already thought about that, and decided I wouldn't talk about Ethan to the parents of the babies like him (probably won't be too many like him anyway), but just use my experience to say to them what I wish would have been said to me.
  6. by   NicuGal
    My other question to you would be...how would you be floating to peds or comprehensive or PICU? Many places float to other maternal child.

    I give you, and the girls I work with so much credit...I don't think I could go back to the unit if I had a baby in there that didn't make it. Go go girl!
  7. by   neonatalRN
    I haven't thought about floating, but don't think I would have any problem with that. Will know more when I do my clinicals I guess. I really admired Ethan's nurses, they were like angels to me.
  8. by   ejpace
    I'm sorry to hear your loss. My baby was 3 lbs when she was born and stayed in a NICU for a couple of weeks. I decided to become a NICU nurse because of this experience. I relate very to the parents of my patients because I went through what going through. Goodluck!
  9. by   LauraF, RN
    Originally posted by ejpace
    I'm sorry to hear your loss. My baby was 3 lbs when she was born and stayed in a NICU for a couple of weeks. I decided to become a NICU nurse because of this experience. I relate very to the parents of my patients because I went through what going through. Goodluck!
    How do you deal with the memories? Or is it fast past enough, or different enough that it doesn't bring back your NICU memories? I really want to go to NICU, but to be reminded of those 3 horrible months, and the doctors telling me they didn't even measure a length on my baby because she was not going to make it through the first night......it has to be hard for you, how do you get past it?
  10. by   ejpace
    The first couple of months working in the NICU was very difficult for me. I cried everytime one of the babies died. I hated starting IV's and doing heelsticks on tiny babies. I wanted to leave but our unit was already short-staffed to begin with. I stayed because I was needed there. Sure, we do have a lot of sad stories but also have happy ones. It's a joy to see my former patients come and visit our unit and see them doing so well. It's makes feel proud to think that I helped those babies get better.

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