Something that has been bothering me

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Hi folks! I'm a pre nursing student and don't pretend to know much of anything about nursing yet so I had a question I wanted to run by you all.

About a year ago my mother was hospitalized for a spontaneous pneumothorax. She had a tube in her chest and was on some pretty crazy pain meds. She appearently had some issues keeping food down. The RN taking care of her commented that if she can't continue to keep her food down and green shows up in her vomit there is a possibility that she would have to have her gall bladder removed.

I was a bit uncomfortable with the RN making this statement as it seemed to have the effect of worrying my mother (and the rest of us) a bit prematurely. When the staff had left the room I told my dad I didn't think the RN should be saying that because (again) I felt it was a bit premature. The RN walked in as I was saying this to my father and she decided to say it again in a louder tone (in a sort of "in your face" kind of way).

My mother is a very dainty lady and doesn't drink and doesn't like drugs in general. Under any other circumstances it would almost have been funny to see my mom so loopy. When she was given food she said, "Let me hurry up and eat this food so they don't remove my gall bladder." (again, she was dead serious and quite loopy from the meds)

In the end, there was nothing wrong with her gall bladder and they never had to touch it. Although I have no doubt that the RN might have been correct in her statement and that removing her gall bladder might somehow be a future possibility, I was a little aggrivated that she worried my poor mother for nothing (and also restated it in that "in your face" kind of way).

Is this sort of thing normal? Is this common for nurses to do? Or was I out of line for disagreeing that the statment should have even been made in the first place?

Sadly. the RN was wrong and her attitude was atrocious. Fatigue, burnout, stress,all sorts of other garbage can cause statements like this to give nursing a bad name. She was wrong, but forgive her, because you may find that something like this pops out of your mouth someday in the future.

yes; every nurse is a jackass, very normal.

I'm sorry but I take offence to this. I don't think EVERY nurse is a jackass. I definitely don't think I am a jackass. Some nurses are rude, that doesn't mean we all are!

Sorry this happen to you guys. I'm just a pre-nursing student but I don't think the nurse has the authority to say this, unless the doctor mentioned it to you guys. I may be wrong, but it's sad to see nurses with this type of attitude-thank God not all of them are like this. Was this in NY?[/quote']

Not that I agree with how the nurse made the statement, but nurses do have the authority to make comments like this one. We have enough knowledge to know what could be the cause of some symptoms, and we can use the information to inform the patients of what may happen if the symptoms don't change. Again, although we have and can use this knowledge, I don't agree with the way this nurse went about it, using it as a scare tactic rather than in an informative manner.

Specializes in PCU.

sorry you had to deal with someone who was not just tactless, but unprofessional and rude. next time, do the right thing and report her to her supervisors. go up the chain of command until you get an appropriate response. it is your mother's right as a patient to be treated with dignity, respect, and consideration, which this nurse did not seem to exhibit.

as to the nurse's lack of tact, common sense, and professionalism: these are not faults relegated to only the nursing field. it is part of the human condition and rampant in our society. we have many people in all professions, from wal-mart employees to lawyers, judges, doctors, who believe it is their right to be rude and obnoxious and opinionated without regard for others' feelings. so, as much as i would love to say that we as nurses hold the market on something, we are not alone in being dastardly toward others less able to protect themselves.

[color=#b22222]the world is a dangerous place, not because of those who do evil, but because of those who look on and do nothing. -albert einstein

Thanks everyone! I appreciate the feedback. My gut feeling seems to have been right (and I did mention bringing this concern to the doctor but my mother objected and I didn't want to create any more problems then what she was already having). I'll keep this experience in mind so when I earn my degree and start helping people I won't make the same mistake.

Anyway, you guys are great. I love this forum. Thanks again!

I am an RN in the ER, I always ask if the provider has given them results before I open my mouth about anything. I then will reiterate and teach. I think speculation is inappropriate. I have given personal accounts when the situation has warrented, but using scare tactics are just wrong and counter productive in my opinion. I would have asked to speak to the charge nurse and told her you wanted another nurse for the duration of the hospital stay.

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