Guys, do you take this personally? - page 3

by bethannie

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If a female patient wasn't comfortable with a male patient seeing her "woman parts" for a specific procedure or something (and would rather have a female nurse do it), do you guys take it personally?... Read More


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    I always have to wonder at the female patient with a male physician who won't have a male nurse. Presumably their male doctor has had to perform an exam or discuss personal matters with them ... Why then can they not tolerate a male nurse? I think it's maybe in some ways a mindset that doctors are men and nurses are women, and it is difficult for some to accept what they perceive to be the wrong gender in a particular role. Doesn't make it right, but it could explain why.
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    Nah. If that's the strangest thing to happen to me on a given day, I'm in good shape.
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    In LTC it can be a real problem if the doctor orders a st cath on a female pt who refuses a male and you're the only licensed person in the facility....
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    If the patient does not want a male provider that is perfectly fine but I do find it slightly annoying when a patient does not want a male nurse but is fine with a male doctor.
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    Shoot I put 3 foleys in females just today. Just be professional and if they refuse, so what. Get a female and be done with it. My career isn't worth some woman being modest.

    In my experience, by the time these ladies need a foley, they are ready for the "son of sam" or whomever to instill it! They have not been able to pee, or they are peeing all over themselves and don't want to be woken up q30m for potty checks and baths so they don't get ulcers.

    Nope no prob here but if there is I will be the first to get out and get help.
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    We've all been a patient at some point. My experience is quite recent and probably what has led me to go to nursing school; in my experience I have always found male nursing staff to be just that bit more compassionate and much less catty I prefer to have a male. Mind you I get along better with males than females always have. I have also found male nurses to be much gentler when removing IDCs. I have also found them to be extremely professional.
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    Here is the list of things I try to take personally:

    1. Nothing.

    End of list.
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    Nope, I honestly do not take it personally. Everyone has their own system of beliefs and religion is a major part of healthcare. As nurses we want to provide the best care under the most comftorable situation. So if the client is most comftorable being cared for by the same sex than all power to them. Omair I. Khan, RN
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    I'm a nurse aide at an assisted living and there are about 7 or 8 residents who won't let me help them at all or some that won't let me help get the dressed and showered. It never bothered me, it was just their personal wishes. I understand how having a male might be uncomfortable for some female patients.
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    I am new, and this is my first post. I stumbled upon this threat while searching something on Google. I see no reason why gender should be of any concern to a patient when it does not involve intimate care. I do, however, see how it might be an issue when it does involve intimate care. I am a 31 year old male. As a child, I was molested by a woman. It started around the age of 5 and continued until she got caught when I was around 14(an adult walked in on one of her “sessions”). She always liked to do things to my genitals. She would hit them and put things in my urethra. Now that I’m all grown up, I still have major issues that stem from that experience. When I am in a situation, doing what I call brutal things to my genitals, I get EXTREMELY anxious. Having a female nurse put a catheter into my urethra or using a razor to shave my genitals is something I just cannot cope with. I was in a situation once that required me to be catheterized and I hyperventilated and my blood pressure shot through the roof when a female came in to do it; I have asthma which made the situation a lot worse. Anyways, after I had calmed down, I asked for a male nurse. I told her that I knew she was capable of doing it, and I explained what had happened to me when I was younger. She was very understanding and got a male to do it. He was a good nurse, too. He took the time to talk to me about what had happened to me, and he gave me the numbers of some good therapists. I took several years of therapy, and have moved past some of the issues; however, I still have a MAJOR fear of a female nurse doing anything to my genitals, especially catheterizing me or shaving me (razor near my genitals). I’ll never get over this, and it’s not my fault! I need a cystoscopy right now, but have put it off for several months and likely won’t have it done because I know it will be all female nurses prepping me. I cannot handle it AT ALL! I think, for the most part, nurses need to reevaluate themselves. I think you need to ask a patient his/her preference up front. It would make some of us feel a lot better to know you care enough to ask what we prefer. I have a legitimate reason to have fear. I have a legitimate reason to request a male nurse when it involves intimate care. Can you honestly say to me that I’m being sexist? Can you honestly say to me that I just need to suck it up and get over it and let a female nurse shove a catheter up my urethra or shave my genitals with a sharp razor? Can you honestly say that I should just ignore how I feel about it because she’s professional and seen it all before? I think not!!! Some of the posts I’ve read on this thread have just right out outraged me.
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