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Joined Jul 18, '12.
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The attitudes you are facing are not unique to nursing.
My friends in corporate jobs have been doing a whole lot more with a whole lot less with the occasional round of employee layoffs to sink morale further.
Jenni, I didn't agree with all you said, but you made some great points in some of your earlier posts. You helped me to see a side of the story I perhaps would have overlooked, being that I am "old" compared to you.
And then you kept posting. And I hate to tell you, but you accomplished the exact opposite of what you were trying to achieve. You made "young, thin, pretty, good grades" look like completely immature and clueless.
(((((anon456)))))) I am so sorry for your loss. What a beautiful and heart breaking story. Praying for you and your family.
I am so sorry this happened to you!
I had a similar experience 10 years ago. My 1 month old daughter had a fever of 102, so I called the ped. It was after hours so I was forwarded to the on-call nurse, who told me to take my baby to the ER to be checked. Anything over 101 should be seen, she told us. So we bundled her up and drove the hour drive to the children's hospital, where we waited 3 hours in the ER to be seen. I had to take her in to the bathroom to nurse her, my husband and I had both worked all day, we were exhausted and worried.
When we finally went back to be seen, the nurse told us it was ridiculous for us to bring her in for a 102 fever. She said the doctor would be right in. We were sitting right outside the nurse's station. A half hour later all this laughter erupted. She was telling the other nurses how we panicked and brought a baby in for 102 fever, and that we were new parents who didn't have a clue. Apparently this was hilarious to all of them. I was dumbfounded that they would make fun of us right in front of us! And seriously, did they think we WANTED to be there? I made eye contact with her and it was clear she knew I had heard everything, but of course there was never an apology and she avoided us the rest of her shift.
We complained to the doctor, who brushed it off. The doctor wanted to do a spinal, labs, etc. It was a long night, and in the end we were thankful that she was ok. We were new parents, and we didn't know, and we followed the medical professionals' advice. We didn't do anything wrong. The nurses' behavior that night was so insulting and hurtful.
I wrote a letter to the hospital and I did get a phone call from the DON, who assured me I was mistaken and nothing like that would have ever happened. :/
Anyway, long story short: people like her taught me who I don't want to become!
As a loving wife of an alcoholic who spent last Monday in the ER after a terrible binge, I am so grateful that there were nurses who treated my husband as a human being who deserves care and respect.
Addiction is a horrible, painful disease, and I don't know of anyone who chooses to live that life. Not only am I married to an alcoholic, my mom is an alcoholic and my brothers are both heroine addicts. I am surrounded by it, I am hurt by it, I have cried buckets of tears over it and have worn my knees out praying for it to all stop. But these are all human beings, and I love them very, very much.
It always amazes me when people say "they made their bed". I don't know about anyone else, but when I took my first swig of liquor at a party when I was 19, I didn't see it as "making my bed." Certainly I could have turned into an addict as could anyone else, but thankfully I did not. Please, don't oversimplify addiction. It just is not that cut and dry.
I applaud all the positive responses to this article. It started out as a beautifully written post, and it's ironic it took a turn for the worse.....especially given the topic!
I am 36 and in my second semester of nursing school. No medical experience, 2 young children, and a full time job in an unrelated field. Going to school has been the best thing I've done for me and my family in a long time! It's not easy, but the worthwhile ventures never are. Good luck!
This took my breath away. Absolutely beautiful.
I'm so sorry for all you are going through.
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