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Joined Jul 25, '11 - from 'New England'. mercurysmom is a Disabilities Advocate; Consultant. She has '27' year(s) of experience and specializes in 'Early Intervention, Nsg. Education'. Posts: 158 (71% Liked) Likes: 529

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  • Nov 28

    Quote from Shookclays
    They aren't shamed for knowing what they want to do with their career early on. It's encouraged.
    You're right but you're also neglecting the WHY. Most pre-med and med students spend time doing a lot of grunt work in a research lab doing someone else's project. This increases their competitiveness for med school and for residency. They need to find a way to align their interests and research work with what they would like to do. They do, however, still rotate through many services in med school and then most residency programs require rotations among services.

    I work with a surgeon who is on "bright idea" number three for their career path. They would have been good at whatever they decided to do, but ideas number one and two would have bored them to death. Idea number three suits them just perfectly. Took the long way to get there but learned a lot in the process. Another surgeon I work with admits their first choice when they started med school wasn't where they ended up. The number of anesthesiologists I know who started residency as a surgery intern? That group is quite large - but they all have found something that they're good at and that works for them.

    In my own personal experience it's true too. I was absolutely positive I wanted to finish school and start in peds (specifically peds critical care - PICU or NICU). I was sure I would work a few years, before going to grad school. My first goal was NNP, but I realized how limiting that is (very small set of environments where the knowledge and skills are useful). I was then set on becoming a CRNA after my critical care experience. I absolutely did not want to work with adults or in med/surg. I was livid at my clinical practicum / capstone placement (I was placed in surgery, specifically pre-op).

    I didn't see at the time what a rare opportunity my practicum placement was. Yes, it was a community hospital, but they had the time to teach me. I got to the point I was doing everything for my patients without the assistance of my preceptor (only being observed when absolutely necessary). I was afforded the opportunity to rotate through and spend time in phase I PACU. When we were done prepping patients, but there wasn't anything going on in PACU I was allowed to dress and observe in the OR. Anesthesia providers and the surgeons at this facility taught me things I never would have learned in another environment. The manager told me she would love to offer me a job, but she only had a per diem job available at the time and that would not have met my needs financially or educationally as a new grad.

    I searched and searched for my first job. I interviewed for a NICU stepdown job. My interview was before I took the NCLEX. I was sure I was going to get that job, it was my *dream* job. They just *had* to pick me. It didn't work out and it crushed me. I was then forced to look outside my comfort zone and preferences, and started work in the adult world. I didn't love it but man I learned a lot. I interviewed for six other jobs during that year, one being the ED of a top rated pediatric medical center. The summer after I started work in the adult world I got three job offers - ED in a Level III trauma center, PICU in a community hospital (that when I researched it more is not a great place for patients or staff), and the new to the OR program at the hospital I work at now.

    The thing is, though I never in a million years expected to be where I am today, it fits me perfectly. I have the most amazing coworkers, I have learned the most amazing things. I stumbled upon it totally by accident but I have the best physician coworkers (anesthesia and surgery). I applied to grad school in a totally different direction than I ever imagined going in (I'm in a MSN program focusing in administration). I believe that there are issues in healthcare and more of the same is probably not going to fix the issues for patients, or those providing care (at all levels). I personally think it's better to try to fix the problems and fail than to spend an entire career crowing about how things are always one way, will never get better or change.

    I no longer have a job title in mind that I'll reach where I feel like I've "made it". Five years later and I could not have predicted that I'd be where I am now. It could have worked out just as I'd imagined, except it turns out that this is probably better. I am by no means saying you can't be right. I hope that your instincts for your career path are correct. But more than that, I hope that if it doesn't work out as you would prefer that you don't discount what you might learn on the journey (to what you want or what develops for you). You might just meet some incredible people and learn an incredible amount.

  • Nov 28

    It's not bad to have a goal, but realistically not every aspiring NNP is going to get that plum NICU RN job. Many, many new grads are taking sub-acute or long-term nursing jobs because that's the reality of their market... geriatric nursing is extremely important and honorable work, but likely not a good preparation for an aspiring NNP.

    I don't know that pre-med students are actually choosing their path either though. I mean out of a med school's graduating class, not everyone is going to get a residency/fellowship in cardiology or anesthesia. Some are going to be in proctology. The pre-med students I knew in college were bio or chem majors who had aspirations but no residency placements.

  • Nov 27

    You are more likely to catch something from a shopping cart.

  • Nov 26

    Quote from TheGooch
    Don't you have a crystal ball?
    Who needs a crystal ball when there's this? (Safe for work and home, promise)

    I asked if I will get called into work tonight. It says no. We shall see...

  • Nov 26

    Quote from Ruby Vee
    I think mostly it's the huffy responses when the answers we give aren't what the OP hoped for/expected. And don't forget the accusations of being mean, bullying and lacking long term memory.
    What would you know, you oldass ugly fat biter burse?

  • Nov 26

    There is a trend going on here lately where random people come on here and ask really specific questions.

    Y'all need to stop it. It makes you look lazy and stupid.

    Pick up the phone and call the appropriate people. Don't ask random strangers on a message board.

    How in the heck should *I* know what the schools in your area require to get in? Call the admissions office and ask them. And hope it doesn't change before you finish high school.

    How should *I* know what benefits you should expect as nurse once you get out of nursing school? Call the local hospitals/clinics/wherever and ask them. And hope it doesn't change before you graduate.

    How should *I* know what the hiring practices are for your local hospital, when you are completely anonymous and could be from Taiwan for all I know? Call the local hospital's HR department and ask them.

    You've all seen deeply specific questions on here.

    Sometimes I wonder if people have forgotten how to communicate. In this age of social media, do people just not know how to ask anymore?

    Is every question a group question now? Should you post random questions on different message boards and expect an answer?

    Why wouldn't you contact the actual peope who KNOW the answers?

    I am baffled.

  • Nov 26
  • Nov 26

    At the very least rekey your locks. You have no idea if he made a copy of the key you gave him. Consider a security system. Sneaky people don't like it when their lies are caught on camera. He has no legitimate business returning to your property.

    HR is not your friend. Repeat, HR is NOT your friend. They represent your employer's interests. All people at work need to know is you do not accept calls from Mr. Imposter. Take a message and you call the person back if you feel comfortable doing so.

    Yeah, on you to trust your instincts. My wife has a job where she goes to clients' homes alone. I always support her when she says she doesn't feel right about a client and cancels an appointment. She read a book called "The Gift of Fear" that explains how we can subconsciously pick up signals about people's behavior that keep us safe. Things like someone being too nice or trying to guilt trip you for not accepting their help to carry groceries or give you a ride.

  • Nov 26

    Quote from Nechic01
    Did they come to your work? Did they let you know they were coming, send letter, call first?
    Thank you for the advice, can you tell me a few details about your experience w/ the BON?
    I got a letter in the mail. Met with them a few weeks later. We actually had an enjoyable chat.

    An evicted tenant taking pictures of a booze bottle? Thanks, I needed the laugh.

  • Nov 26

    Quote from CalArmy
    I would let HR know too. Even though this is outside of work it makes you feel threatened about your license. Call the police too and let him know two can play that game. He is a scumbag and needs to be shut down!
    Don't say a word to anyone at work if you can possibly avoid it.

    HR is not your friend. If they see you as a problem, a distracted worker or student who has a problem, they will get rid of you so fast you won't know which end is up.

  • Nov 26

    You probably need to take legal action.

    For what it's worth, I had to evict a tenant who was a hoarder. She refused me entrance to inspect the property. I gave her due notice by voicemail, attempting a phone call once a day, 3 days in a row. She wouldn't respond. So, I sent her a certified letter giving her notice.

    She sent me a threatening letter, accusing me of harassment and threatening my nursing license, saying "You will never work as a nurse again!”

    I hired a lawyer, and the letter was exhibit A. It was a sad situation, she was emotionally troubled. Fortunately, a nice Christian lady helped her move. It was 20 trips to the dump to clean up the place, a firsthand look at a certifiable hoarder.

    You need to contact the police, dear. This man is threatening you. Keep the texts, they are evidence. Ask the police for advice. I doubt if he knows anyone on the board of nursing, that is utter horse manure.

  • Nov 25

    I like to remind my teachers and students that those "stomach bugs" are generally spread by fecal oral contact and that it is exactly what it sounds like. Then I direct them to my sink so they can wash their hands.

  • Nov 25

    Quote from Amethya
    How do you do the gifts from Santa with them knowing it?
    I mark the gifts from Santa and deny any knowledge of how they got in our house, despite any eye rolling or blatant "MOM!! We know it's you!!"

    (Xmas morning, 6am)
    Me: OMG!!!!! Where did all this stuff come from?? Santa must have come!
    Kids: We know it was you mom.
    Me: Yep. Santa came.
    Kids: Seriously, Mom?
    Me: I love that Santa comes every year. Do you think anyone buys Santa a gift for Xmas? ...Oh look! The carrots are gone! The reindeer must have eaten them!
    Kids: Quit it.
    Me: I'm glad we don't have reindeer. I'd hate to clean up after them. Santa is so patient.
    Kids: Will you ever stop?
    Me: No.

    I am 36 and my mom still gives us gifts from Santa. Tradition.

  • Nov 24

    Quote from magslu
    I am sorry for the multitude of negative responses you are receiving on the board here. I also have been blasted by them. I am new to nursing also, I also moved to different agencies, facilities looking for my right fit as well.
    I do not think there is anything wrong with you. You were not careful, should have read the doctors orders and not relied on the out going nurse to tell you everything. Keep in mind as I have found, not many nurses will help you and I hope you can decipher this by the reactions you receive on the board here.
    You need to be CAREFUL, with home care, you have the time to read those orders !!!
    I agree, the facility is dangerous as it is bulked with too many patients and not enough time or staff. I don't care what anyone says on this board. Too bad the nurses do not stick together to report the dangerous conditions for the patients and the staff. However, everyone is so afraid to lose a job !!!
    I remember meeting my trainer at the facility I oriented with, she was employed for 5 years there and it is still a mystery to me, why she would want to work the way she did. She guzzled a lunch in 5 minutes, no peeing or taking a sip of water the entire shift. I find it inhumane, to be subjected to this day after day.
    I think you are smart to take that bridge to RN, there are more options for you. Just let your mistakes be a learning experience. The nurses here have made them as well, we are human and not perfect. However, you will encounter this mentality of being criticized. Remember !! be CAREFUL you have human lives in your hands !! there is nothing at all wrong with you, you are new !!
    Nope. Nope. All aboard the train to Nopeville!

    It is NOT okay to excuse this behavior under the banner of being new. That is an insult to earnest new nurses everywhere. This is not a problem with being new. Some of these issues will happen no matter what profession or job the OP winds up in. This is not a "new nurse" problem. This is a character problem. You don't figure out through trial and error that it is wrong to clock out early. You don't figure out through trial and error that it is wrong to say you changed a dressing or rotated an IV site or turned your patients or cleaned up their BM or did mouth care without actually having done so. That is NOT a new nurse "whoopsie-doodle, live and learn!" problem.

    OMG, I am fuming. Nope. Nope. Nope. Heck to the nope. This is a problem with morals. With character. You don't grow those as a new nurse. If you don't have them in place before your first day of nursing school there is nothing to be done.

  • Nov 24

    Quote from STARL
    So you're saying you never made mistakes at all as a nurse, hmm?
    Which of these is a "mistake"?

    Charting that you've completed procedures that you haven't isn't a mistake, it's a lie.

    Charting that you're leaving later than you are isn't a mistake, it's also a lie (and stealing).

    And finally, not going to a med error CEU to keep your job wasn't a mistake, it was a decision (a bad one).

    Until you're able to see that it's your repeatedly poor choices that have put you into this position, rather than mistakes, misunderstandings or happenstance, you're going to continue to fail.

    When you're the responsible for the lives of other people, you have to follow the rules. They are there for a reason.