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Joined Jul 25, '11. mercurysmom is a Disabilities Advocate; Consultant. She has '27' year(s) of experience and specializes in 'Early Intervention, Nsg. Education'. Posts: 165 (72% Liked) Likes: 556

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  • Dec 28 '17

    I give ONE. I bought sugar free mint ones that the kids don't like as much and I figure, they're just nasty candy and when my supply is gone for the's gone. I do point out to the non-coughers that they haven't coughed since entering my office. about 95 % of the time this will result in a fake, half-hearted attempt at a cough. This is purely for my own amusement as I'm going to hand over the cough drop anyway. Oh, and I never give one to the same kid two days in a row. I tell them they can bring their own and no one is frisking anyone in the halls for contraband cough drops.

    I did have a kid today who came in for a cough drop, I gave it. He came back several hours later asking for another and I asked if it worked earlier. He said no, and I asked "why would I give you another when the first one didn't work?" He was stunned that I didn't just hand over the cough drop. But seriously, if something didn't work, do you try it again or move on to other intervention? Even a KN can figure that out.

  • Dec 28 '17

    Quote from mercurysmom
    So Hubby and I are [I]those parents [I] who worked with the school to keep his butt in his seat and cut down the social visits. :-D Meanies!!!
    Mean love is good love! A new 5th grader at my school commented (after I called parent for pick up) that he was relieved bc the nurse at his last school was "mean" and I quickly defended her bc "sometimes we have to be mean to help you stay in class when you can" (and immediately wondered whether he will become a "frequent flyer"). You gotta guide them to love them and sometimes that requires some meanness!

    BSNRNHS, I which I could email parents! Most of the time when I call I just end up leaving a voicemail which states only that the student saw me and to call back. I doubt most of the parents listen to the message. I have certainly learned that letting a parent know that their child has been in X number of times this week does help cut down on visits in most cases! Either with a visit to the doctor if legitimate complaints or a firm talk if invisible ones. At my school the other issue that makes this tricky is that most of our parents speak Spanish, which I speak as well but not natively. Most of the time I am glad just to communicate what happened. But it's a great point that we have to put the onus on the parents bc the teachers can't help sending if Johnny keeps complaining!

  • Oct 25 '17

    Quote from Ashizzle
    Here's my update: I did ask the health director for help and she said she would talk to Becky. Here's what we have: My health office will now be getting siderails for all of our beds in the health office! Really. The director insisted that there's nothing we can do, and we must accommodate her or she could "sue us."

    When Becky feels like she's going to have a seizure I ask her to sit on the floor and I put pillows on the floor next to her so if she falls over, her head is protected. This has kept her safe during the seizures she's had in my office. Apparently she doesn't like that and took advantage of the talk time with the director to complain. I'm at a loss for words.
    She could never sue you guys, She has admitted to being noncompliant with her treatment which is what is causing these issues. Your cots (and all of the supplies in your office) are for STUDENTS, NOT for staff.

    Document EVERYTHING she says and does. I would tell your health director that you are uncomfortable being put into a position where you are constantly being taken away from students to help a staff member who isn't following her doctor's treatment plan.

  • Oct 25 '17

    I'd say it's time to get the administration involved. It's becoming an issue in the classroom, safety wise and probably performance wise. That's above your pay grade.

  • Oct 25 '17

    I think it stems from this totally false idea we hold culturally, that if you do everything right as a parent, your kid will be perfect, or at least very well behaved. This causes parents to look for excuses instead of solutions.

    Those of us that have more than 1 or 2 kids know that some kids are naturally obedient and some kids are born to be wild. What we need to look at, is our response to that. What response works in helping a child grow? The answer is not always clear. And what works for one kid won't necessarily work for another. Sometimes parents are mismatched in temperament or personality to their children, and those relationships will be strained.

    It really does take a village. We need to let other people correct our children and hold them accountable. We need to trust each other on a basic level in order to do that. We need to not bash each other when things go wrong. It happens both ways. A kid acts up in school; the parents bash the faculty and the faculty bashes the parents. In any way we can, we need to aim for a spirit of working together for the child's well being.

    And let's not be so quick to pathologise children's behavior. When I was a kid we sang this terrible version of "Deck the halls". It was rude and obnoxious and it went like this "Deck the halls with gasoline, falala-la-la, la-la, la-la. Light a match and don't be seen, falala, la-la, la-la, la-la. Watch the school burn into ashes, Falala, falala, lalala. Aren't you glad you play with matches..." People would roll their eyes or say "Stop that song." Now a kid would be sent to crisis for a psych eval and maybe charged with terroristic threats for this kind of thing. I work in child psych and I have seen this. When I was a kid, I remember making a hate list of people I wished were dead. These were kids who were mean to me and once in a while my sister or my mom would make the list for something that made me mad. No one ever saw it because I enjoyed privacy, but if they did, they would have just blown it off. I have had kids admitted to my unit for this very thing. Some of the frequent flyers are absolutely convinced that they are just messed up individuals because of this kind of overreaction. And it can be a kind of self fulfilling prophecy.

  • Sep 21 '17

    Dear OP,

    You are in the Transition Zone, (i.e. where a layperson becomes educated as a healthcare person). The entertainment industry has a huge love affair with high tech medical miracles. They make it seem like it happens everyday and pretty much to be expected that we can bring everybody back from the jaws of death to wake up and resume their previous life. Maybe even with improved function or superpowers.

    Actually, we do CPR on dead people.

    The reality we (ex) ICU nurses see is the futile efforts practiced on persons actively trying to die. I have seen codes used strictly as learning experiences for Residents to try intubating, central line insertion, chest compressions etc. Crackling ribs and frothy respirations do not make a pleasant soundtrack for TV medical dramas, so that part of a code is conveniently left out. The fantasy version of bringing the dead back to life is what everybody wants. The serious conversation about what really happens in and after a code is what nobody wants.

  • Sep 21 '17

    Well we generally don't know going in who those people are who will do well. Should we give up on them? One of my more recent codes was for a mom in her 30s, hours after delivering a premature baby. Her children still have a mother. A man in his 40s was coded a LONG time -- over an hour on the LUCAS device!! Not only did he survive, but he returned to his high-pressure, high-thinking job.

    Now we do definitely code people who should (in my opinion) be DNR/DNI. If someone has already sustained a brain stem stroke or anoxic brain injury, or other conditions with poor prognosis, elderly etc, we do know their outcome will almost certainly be poor. That really should be considered.

    Why it's's a complicated issue. Sometimes providers' communication is lacking. I remember being in a care conference for a woman who had a pontine stroke. When discussing options, the neurologist said "she would need 24 hr care, and she would always need someone to feed her." I cut in and said "just to clarify, by 'feed' you mean 'administer tube feeds,' correct?" I knew the answer -- that woman was never going to take anything PO! But I thought as a layperson, "feeding" her would mean spoon feeding.

    Families made up of laypeople typically haven't seen a code, or poor outcomes following ROSC. They have seen on medical dramas though, where codes last 60 seconds and end well. Others have the misguided belief that agreeing to DNR is the same as murder.

    When discussing with family, it's a fine line between being real, and being biased against coding.

  • Sep 21 '17

    Do you know how to fill the oxygen tank? I had a patient once who's concentrator had an attachment to fill her O2 tank. While the patient was in bed at night with the concentrator running it was simultaneously refilling the tank. Therefore in that case it would be very important that night shift make sure the tank was connected to the concentrator- as that was the time the refill would be happening.

  • Sep 7 '17

    I know a few kid who are or have done early college. The challenge with all of these children is that they were/are still children despite going to college at a young age. A younger college student is NOT like and adult college student. Children and adolescents have different developmental needs than adults. This doesn't mean a kid shouldn't lunge ahead academically if they are ready, but if I were you, OP mama, I would try to shift my perspective (and help shift my daughter's) into seeing the constraints on becoming a nurse a blessing instead of a curse (or something to try to get around).
    To keep her challenged, motivated and moving in an absolutely positive direction, I suggest (as others have) that you encourage her to focus on math and science -- without negating writing/communication. If her interest is in healthcare, I might go forward as you would in a pre-med degree -- which the options for that are vast. Look into requirements for PA schools and make sure she's getting those in her undergrad. Get her in a CNA class as soon as possible and volunteering at the hospital. Give her a chance to really explore what working in healthcare looks like. If she finishes her non-nursing undergrad early -- think about a gap year doing mission work. There is SO much she can be doing and learning while still achieving great things and not rushing others.

  • Sep 7 '17
  • Sep 7 '17

    Quote from chris5720
    JKL33, I completely understand your premise. I definitely agree that more employees on a shift would solve a lot of the issues we and many others face in the industry. However, from a business and management perspective, that is not a feasible solution for our current time and environment.
    I will need more time to think about the remainder of your post.

    In the meantime, please think about this. You have told me that my solution is not feasible from a business and management perspective. I must ask if you understand that there are now entire departments of "fake problem solvers" and entire industries that have cropped up to solve the fake problems. So I will take it that you don't mean that my solutions are not feasible from a financial stand-point, but rather simply from a "preferred theory" standpoint.

  • Sep 7 '17

    I have never once been confused about which precautions I needed to take based on patients' known diagnoses. I also don't get confused about which room I'm in, or which patient I'm presently working with.

    Therefore, and yes, I'm making an assumption - - I assume that someone has decided something like "we have to come up with a better way for RNs to 'remember' infection control measures specific to each patient" - - as if the majority of the problem is that we have "forgotten" where we are or what we're doing.

    No. The problem is that there is not enough time in the shift to care for each patient the way s/he deserves to be cared for based on staffing levels in many, many places.

    The problem is that nonsense has taken over, and we spend too much of the time we DO have, doing non-sensical "tasks" to meet non-sensical objectives instead of providing excellent hands-on care.

  • Sep 7 '17

    Quote from chris5720
    JKL33, thank you for your honest feedback.

    To elaborate on the project/problem I'm working on, I'm trying to lower the stress of our staff through easing their mind with visual cues and reminders. My goal is to implement new technology that makes it easier on staff to remember patient details. Thus, limiting the stress of memory on an individual.

    Where do you believe I'm missing the premise? What would you define as the problem that should be the main focus?

    Also, I'm not planning on spending my life solving this issue. I'm just reaching out to as many individuals with experience that I can, to help optimize the workflow at my employing institution.
    Chris, I appreciate your honesty very much. That said, can you see how the problem you are tasked with solving is probably not really the issue?

    The premise that administrators are always missing is that more time with each patient would solve (or improve) absolutely innumerable patient care issues. And yet it never fails that they would rather come up with 100 non-issue "problems" and provide 100 ridiculous (and sometimes even more burdensome "solutions") than to do something like, say, simply put another RN on the shift.

  • Aug 30 '17

    I'm more concerned about the lack of soap than med cart. Did they open before they were done building?

  • Aug 30 '17

    This place has red flags all over it. I'd be looking for a new job. No sanitizer or soap? Meds in baggies and boxes? Infection control and safety risks.