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Just got my second rejection letter today from a major hospital, this time from their fall residency program. I thought I did my application, resume, and cover letter well, but apparently it wasn't done well enough. :sigh: One of my friends didn't get it either. The thing is that I told one of my classmates during break for class one day and she applied during class and got a call back. The "full concentration while I'm at home" method didn't work. Not trying to pull rank, but it seems like the people who have failed and repeated classes are getting more opportunity than people who did well the first time around. I don't understand what is wrong. Getting discouraged because other than that residency, there are no other jobs.
I worked with a nurse who was a nice guy, loved by his patients and got along well with his coworkers (including me). This nurse took the time to make me a cup of tea when I was at work sick as a dog. But he was unsafe in his practice. People on the night shift hated following him because inevitably they would have to clean up a mess. Nevertheless, until recently, he was able to keep his job. He was able to transfer to different positions within the same system without any trouble. This kind of unfairness is what is going to push me away from nursing. I am organized, detail-oriented, and conscientious. I don't have experience, but I have the drive to grow my skills and knowledge base. It would kill me if I found out a slob with a great personality was found to be more qualified than someone like me. If I wasn't in a system already, I would be up **** creek.
Bah, I should have just stuck with a biology major. I mean ***.
My advice is to apply to everything!! Being a fairly new RN (~1yr) I know plently of floor managers and the truth is nobdy really knows your appling to multiple jobs except HR. And they only care about filling slots, not the fact that you applied for 5 other positions. HR knows how it is for new grads and they dont consider it a knock against you for trying to get a job (unless you dont show for interviews).Its when you actually get an interview that you should portray your passion for the position you may be hired for.
I notice that on jobs. Personality outshines all the crappy work they do. I knew a guy like this. Always got praise but never did ANYTHING. but he could talk his butt off.
I'm pretty good at it - now. I was super bad at it when I started. The first patient I tried to start an IV on screamed and I ran out of the room (an RN was with me). Couldn't draw blood with a butterfly either. Fast forward 5 years and I usually get my sticks on the first try - most days. Other days I can't hit anything at all. It just takes time and practice and being patient with yourself.
Competition to get into nursing school can be a good thing. Not everyone is cut out to be a nurse, and the wait list and stringent requirements to be accepted can cut out those who may not be able to safely handle the job or maybe aren't all that crazy about becoming a nurse and may just be looking for job security (which is much less now with all the new grads unable to find jobs, along with all the unemployed experienced nurses) or money. Yes, there are those who are excellent nurses who maybe aren't incredibly book-smart, but the best nurses have a combination of book-smarts and life-smarts.
I had this all through school. No means no but people didn't get it.
Make a cute little video speech, burn it onto cd and send it with someone else who is going. Make it a surprise. She'll love it and in some little way...you will be there.
Would it be an option to take a bus (much less expensive than flying) and study on the trip?"
If not, tell her your spirit will be with her, but your brain has to stay with your books.
If you aren't able to go, maybe you can arrange for a time during your winter break to go see her, bring a delicious cake, watch the wedding videos, look at the album, and have a mini-reception with her when you can both really enjoy the time together. She's going to be so busy with all the guests that she won't have but a few minutes for you alone at the wedding. This could be a welcome reenactment for her four months after the fact.
If it's your nature to be quiet, thats not a deficit. I think loud, always talking people to be annoying. But, I believe we need both types, loud and quiet. You will find your patients don't want so much to hear about you, but to tell you about them. Being quiet is an asset.
It is okay to be introverted. In fact, I have met a lot of very good introverted nurses. Does that make you an incompetent nurse? No. You will learn when you need to come out of your shell and speak up for your patients when you need to. Sometimes, it's even better to be "quite". It can keep you out of trouble. Don't feel insecure about your personality. Yes, even quite nurses are good nurses. Just don't let it get in the way of taking care of your patients.
I'm very introverted. I prefer one-on-one contact.
I do home hospice nursing. It's the perfect job for me
Your patients will tell you that you're a calming presence. The last thing they want is someone with another 'presence' to be dealing with. As long as you are able to communicate when it's needed, I don't think it should be a problem. You probably have good listening skills.
However, your coworkers might not be so kind. You might see all their chatter as wasting time, but honestly, it's how people get ahead. The more popular people will be promoted and notice by your manager. So do take time and be friendly as much as you can and chit-chat from time to time.
Sounds like you're describing me. One of my teachers told me the same thing. He said I was quiet around him (that's another story) However, all my patients love me and I have never had a complaint.
I know exactly what you are talking about! Actually I've followed this site for a few years and this is the first time I've ever replied to a post! I am also an introvert. I also HATE when people comment on how quite I am. I'm not quite all the time, but I am shy and have mild anxiety. When I first decided to go into nursing I worried about how my introvert personality would effect my ability to be a good nurse. Before getting my RN I did some work as a nurse's aide, ER tech, and home health aide. This type of work really improved my confidence in going into nursing. Every patient I encountered took a strong liking to me and I was constantly being told that "I was going to be an amazing nurse". It was almost shocking how often I was given this compliment. Why did so many take a liking to me? I really believe it had to do with one of the positive characteristics of being an introvert: I LISTENED to people. Patients can sense when a person is truly listening and a lot of times it gives them comfort.
I am going to say, you do need to learn how to speak up (or atleast I did). In the beginning I was intimidated by other nurses and doctors. But when it comes to your patient you have to be able to address issues and good communication is a must. And I honestly found this part of nursing to be somewhat empowering as an introvert. I realized it wasn't about me or my "introvertedness"...its about whats best for the patient and for me I had to go outside of my comfort zone and really speak my mind at times, for the good of the patient. I think introverts can be great nurses! But you have to understand that you will have to push yourself at times and you will be better for it.
Also a great book I recommend "The Introvert Advantage: How to Thrive in an Extrovert World". Being a person who hated being referred to as quite and shy...this book really helped me realize how our type of personality can be a gift rather than curse! Good Luck!
You can be introverted and still be a good nurse.
You can be fat and still be a good nurse.
You can be ugly and still be a good nurse.
In fact, I'm pretty sure somewhere there is an introverted, fat, ugly nurse making a world of difference in a patient's life.
Keep your chin up, as long as you know your stuff you should be fine.
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